My friend lives in NJ and i live in texas. we've been internet friends for 5 years, we both have "significant" others but have been really close. hes always been someone i can talk to, kinda like a best pen pal we joke around alot and last night some inapropriate words were said between us. my guy read th eEmail wich included thingsl ike me saying "u need some texas lov'n, hopefully from me" and hes devestated and hurt and i know he doesnt trust me. i nkow it was wrong and i have since wrote an Email to my buddy cutting off the friendship and i let my guy read it to prove it. now our relationship is in a bad spot..even though hes trying to actl ike everything is ok, i know hes way upset...guys, what can i do?
2006-08-16 08:32:18 · 7 answers · asked by workn2live22 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To those of you with actual advice thanks for taking the time to try and help. As for the rest of the *** holes that want to tell me how hor rible I am, you know, back off. You arnt saints. you cant tell me you've ever flirted behind a b/f or g/f's back....rather its at work or anywhere else. The only difference between us is that mine got read. There wasnt an internet affair or anything like that. Just alot of joking around. Now i know if the tables were turned i would be devestated. He has every right to get rid of me, but hes not. I have never cheated in my life, and i know some of you consider the email cheating but I dont think it was. neither does my guy. anyway thanks for the good advice and the rest of you need to take a look in the mirror before you judge my character, I know your not perfect.
2006-08-17 02:47:01 · update #1
***cant say you've never flirted
2006-08-17 02:47:49 · update #2
Explain to your fiance that this was only a joke between you and your friend, that you guys are just friends, that your friend has a gf(or wife) and that he (your fiance) is the one you love and trust. Let me just tell you that once you have lost a person's trust it is pretty hard to get it back. Try doing thoughtful, nice small things to your fiance-for example you could put a note in his lunch saying that you love him a lot.
i wish the best of luck to both of you.
2006-08-16 08:44:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you can do is what you already did is to cease contact and now you must regain your mate trust. You know at this point, that your behavior is not a way to maintain a relationship by joking with other guys in a sexual or flirty nature when your already taken.
If I had read your email, I would be upset with you and I might tell you to be gone because you have broken the trust and sometimes trust is hard to repair. Furthermore, you shouldn't have maintained a email pal who is male where you discuss things like you have when you know you already have a guy in your life.
Sometimes, you play with fire you get burned and you missed the jump over the candle stick and got burned. Hopefully, you and your mate will heat up again to a trusting relationship if you truly want to be with him stop all your chatting with other guys and save your conversation for him.
2006-08-16 08:43:24 · answer #2 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well ... think about how you would feel if he were talking to another woman like that. i do see your point--that this is just a friend--but your fiance is the person you are going to marry. if it makes him uncomfortable, i would tone down the emails a bit. also ask yourself: why do you continue the internet relationship if you are both with other people? what void does it fill? your fiance may be feeling insecure right now, so you should try to openly discuss the situation and see what his needs are.
2006-08-16 08:39:56 · answer #3 · answered by danika1066 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing, It sounds like you have cut it off with the other guy. Continue to keep that line off the hook. Hopefully your fiance will be able to trust you again. I wouldn't let that happen again. Good Luck
2006-08-16 08:41:11 · answer #4 · answered by oceanjen2003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Duh! You deserve everything you get. That's blatant cheating. Why would you say something like that? Ironically, you break it off NOW. After you've been caught.
Now you've screwed yourself because now you'll be thinking every waking second if he's doing something behind your back.
You've pretty much destroyed your relationship. Congrats. : )
2006-08-16 08:40:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
here's an idea....stop talking dirty to men halfway across the country while you have a fiance, you pig
2006-08-16 08:41:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
nice work! u dont deserve to be married
2006-08-16 09:02:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋