I Have a Serious Question For the Ladies...?

Question

I dont understand... especially with the black ladies... They say they wnt a nice man, someone to treat them right, that isnt only bout sex... when you find what ur looking for u try to find sumtin to end it and then go back for the Thug or the badboy.
i aint soft, i aint no geek, and i know how to treat a lady. but everytime im with a women they always leave a relationship where the guy treated her bad and gave her no confidence. Im a patient man. I finally get her on her feet. Treat her good but then ends it. An goes back to her ex. i know i dnt do nuttin wrong. Ladies can you answer please?

Answer 1

them girls is stupid I love to have a man like you. Not all black girls is like that trust me.

Answer 2

Okay I was in a situation where I was married to a real creep. I was working with a guy that was in a similar situation. We became friends first but soon realized that we felt more than friendship brewing. Anyway I ended up quitting the job and staying with my husband. I never allowed us to become anything more. Now I regret that decision to this day. He is a wonderful man and I still care a lot about him. But sometimes I think it's just that we are still attached to the jerk in our lives and don't know quite how to shake him. I recently found out that this person still works in the same place but now I wouldn't do anything about it because I feel bad that I left things the way I did. So I will say this to you. Give it time and find someone that will appreciate the nice guy that you are. Believe me we usually end up getting our fill of the bad boy and then we finally appreciate the good guy. Trust me the women in your life will get there we always do. Sometimes too late. Good luck.

Answer 3

MY HONEST ANSWER.

Just because you may have all the qualities that a woman is looking for that does not mean you are still the right guy for her. I have had male friends that I adore, respect, and think are very attractive, but for some reason with two I tried relationships and we just didn't mesh in that way. But I still enjoy their friendship and they still enjoy mine. Having good qualities doesn't make you the perfect match for every woman.

Also every woman who chooses those so-called thugs or bad boys aren't all stupid. I know plenty of men who will knock another man to the ground out of disrespect but are absolute punks to their women and do whatever the woman wants. You never know what goes on behind closed doors so assumption doesn't always produce honest incite.

Answer 4

If you are truly a good guy then you are going to find your good girl. Don't settle for anything less and don't entertain the company of a woman who has no self value or self esteem. There is nothing wrong with you. Don't waste your kindness and love on a woman who isn't worth it. The woman that wants to be treated bad is wasting your time. A woman that is looking for a good guy is the woman YOU want. Your time is of value! You are not here to fix other women who have self esteem issues. If they come to you damaged move on. You are not a counselor or a healer. Have standards regarding what you want in a woman. Find a woman who believes she was born under the luckiest star in the sky just like you were! GOOD LUCK

Answer 5

Well, I'm a white girl and I can tell you that ladies usually date the bad boy until they get their feel. Then it's a good guy they will be looking for. Honestly though, it might be the type of lady you are trying to date. Some women are just that way and will never change.

Miss right will come along, hang in there!

Answer 6

It seems as though you have a different opinion of yourself than these ladies do. How you treat them, is coming from you, I'm sure they all have a different story to tell. You're right, nice guys finish last, but maybe you should evaluate your actions in these relationships. Maybe there are some things about you that makes a woman thankful for her ex, and that's why she goes back. I don't know, dude, every woman is different, so yeah, you'll run in to some shallow ones.

Answer 7

First you have to understand that leaving an abusive relationship is hard, and it may take several attempts to finally stay away. A woman cannot be bugged into leaving a relationship like that, and people don't understand, that by putting down the creep they are in love with only makes her feel sorry for him, and stay. But trust me, she hasn't forgotten the way you treated her! She just needs to gain the courage on her own, to get up and walk away, and to realize she doesn't deserve that, and that she wants more out of life, and that he is truly NOT going to change. Sad, but true. I was discussing what women want just last night with someone here.... it's like this, we want a chocolate chip cookie. Now imagine the perfect chocolate chip cookie... You don't want one thats so hard you can't enjoy it, but you also don't want one so soft that it crumbles. It should be sweet, warm and firm, but not too sweet, and not too firm. Same with a man. They should not be too firm to be enjoyable, and not so soft they crumble, or fall apart easily. (Make her feel good, treat her like a lady, let her have her way sometimes, but when you draw the line on something stick to it, don't let her walk all over you either.) The only other thing I can suggest is learn to be a bad boy in the bedroom, or if you're not in that stage, wisper something hot, and sexy, and bad boyish into her ear, or say just loud enough for her to hear while looking at her with a lusty, bad boy look in your eyes. (You may have to practice that, but it's a look, that gives us that tingling feeling that is so addicting.) And I'm telling on myself here, but my husband knows he can treat me like a who*e in the bedroom, as long as he treats me like a lady in public. Works for us, and lots of others. I hope I helped you. Good Luck,
Vickie P

Answer 8

I am a black female, and I used to date the "thugs" because I thought he was cool, he could protect me, As I matured, (which most girls need to do to appreciate a nice guy), I realized that these men are not what I want. I did not have a father in the home, so I was looking for a protector in all the wrong places instead of taking care of myself, now I date a variety of men, all of them being gentlemen

Answer 9

some women,they will not admit it but they like to have there lives controlled,so when they are with someone who has that "hold"over them they stay.All bad boys are bad, I've been with 2 and both treated great.They are always 2 sides to a story so a woman might say oh my bf is this and that but they never say if they did anything.I'm sure you'll find someone that's good for you just don't look and don't try to get women out of relationships,women know who they can push over.

Answer 10

Because women, in general, want excitement as well as security. Just the same as why a guy prefers bad girls...you know she won't marry you, but she'll put out...the thug type makes a woman feel sexy and helps the ego...momentarily. When they grow up, these women will regret not having you with them...the guys they went back to will probably have left them for someone hotter and newer...just keep looking...the right one will turn up when you least expect it...

Answer 11

oh you poor thing! i send you lots and lots of hugs! the truth is that every girl loves a bad boy. once they get a taste, they just can't stop. and the guy figures out that shes in the palm of his hand, thats when the abuse and crap starts b-c they kno she will keep coming back. most girls don't even realize how bad they are being treated. but in time, the chic will realize what an a$$**** her "bad boy" really is and finally realize what a great guy she gave up. you need to find someone who has already passed thier bad boy phase. you need someone who loves you for the amazing person you really are. dont worry, your special someone is out their, i hope you find her. good luck! and i send more hugs!!!