I trust my man with all my heart. But I don't trust his best man who frequents strip clubs and dates strippers. I heard about a friend of ours who had a nasty stag a couple of weekends ago and don't want my mans to turn out that way... How do I tell the best man to keep it low key without being the b****?
2006-08-16 08:11:47 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Have a joint Bachelor/Bachelorette party so you can keep an eye on each other. You could pick a close restaurant or bar and sit at opposite ends or something like that to keep a close eye on them. It could still be just as fun. And if you start to notice that they're getting too drunk, you could have them drink the cream soda that's served in glass bottles so maybe they won't notice that it's not beer. Lol. Yeah, but that's what my brother/sister-in-law are going to do. The guys are going to go golfing in the morning while the girls hang out at the beach and then we're all meeting back at their house for dinner. I can't wait! It should be a lot of fun, and it will be safe, which is always a good thing. I hope you figure it out, and good luck!!
2006-08-16 09:47:02 · answer #1 · answered by My One & Only Wish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest about it. I spoke to my husband about his stag b/f the time came. He didn't have a crazy one. I expressed to him my strong opinion about strippers and how much it would hurt me to hear about a horrible stag. He was extremely respectful and agreed.
Stags are a time for men to get together and celebrate, not a time for a committed man to get his rocks off, he has his future wife to do that with.
If the best man is a real jerk and doesn't respect you then put your trust in your man that he will refuse to go to a strip joint or leave his stag if a stripper shows.
Good luck on your wedding and enjoy. Marriage is the greatest thing ever to happen to me!
2006-08-16 08:46:46 · answer #2 · answered by WWJD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't it too bad great guys have sometimes lousy friends? I'm in the same boat as you. While we get along and all, my fiance's best man is also a stripperholic and his dad (bm's) offered to pay for what sounded like the bachelor party of the century. Both my fiance and his bm know where I stand in a joking so I don't sound b**chy way. I trust my guy completely but am afraid it might turn into a guilt/don't be the party pooper type thing... One of our friends was almost taken to the ER for alcohol poisoning at the start of his party b/c he wanted to "be a good sport" and not turn down shots.
If we do the final parties thing, I'm planning on having my bachelorette party the same night so I'll be preoccupied =)
good luck!
2006-08-16 08:58:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you trust your man the way you say you do, you should not have any worries. Even if they DO end up having a stripper, the best man will probably be the only one trying to have sex with her.
2006-08-16 08:39:50 · answer #4 · answered by Debbie D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him have what ever party his friends throw for him. If you are jealous and controlling now, what are you going to be like once you have the ring on? You can choose to be a loving supportive, trusting wife. Or you can be jealous, controlling, have no trust and spend a lot of time arguing over minor stuff in your marriage.
These parties are good fun and have been going on forever. And what happens at the party, stays at the party, if you were not there you do not need to know.
Another thing I would like to add, I let my wife go to see male strippers with her friends. I even drive them and pick them up. She does the same for me. We have been married 20 years.
2006-08-16 08:35:47 · answer #5 · answered by Just Another Guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to bachelor parties the bride to be has no say so. It's his last hoorah let him enjoy it, if you trust him it shouldn't be a problem. Even the best man can't get him to do something he doesn't want to do. I had mine 3 weeks ago and the stripper came did her thing and left. Don't worry about it.
2006-08-16 10:00:58 · answer #6 · answered by Go Cats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plan the party yourself. Make it a Monday night football or other sport bar b que. Hire some of your friends to be waitstaff. Rent silly movies like napoleon dynamite and set a time for it to end. Hire the stripper yourself. You can make sure its g rated. Or on your wedding night and honeymoon worry about what STDs' or hepatitis you have now contracted. And if he now has a baby mama.
2006-08-16 08:21:11 · answer #7 · answered by lona b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you trust your man, then why worry bout having a stripper at his bachelor party? You sound like your controlling or at least trying to control your man.
I say, if you trust your man so much, let him have his fun, just remember who he chose to marry.
2006-08-16 08:23:23 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it's a tradition thing, but if your man loves you, and is going to marry you, why he needs to be at a bachelor party. To me, it means he hasn't gotten the thrill out of his system yet! and looking forward to it at his bachelors party. So, he is going to flirt, and have some fun before getting married to you.
I don't understand the logic in that. Why women find it ok for their guy to do this, screw tradition, if he loves you, he does not need to be there with a stripper...he will be faithful, but if it's thrown in his face, I sincerely doubt it!
2006-08-16 09:02:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to remember what his friends do is completely separate from what the Groom will do.
Bachelor party stories get added onto and the truth gets lost in the added details.
Let him have his night of fun. It's one night.
Do yourself a favor don't ask details and don't try to find out what happened. You would never get the full truth anyways
2006-08-16 19:28:15 · answer #10 · answered by ktwister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋