Doesn't it eventually get complicated when feelings become involved, someone wants more whether it's commitment, time, etc.
2006-08-16 07:46:44 · 12 answers · asked by COblonde 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
they do work..i jus ended one of nearly 15 months....it was really cool that we didnt ask much about personal stuff...no whos calling or who are you with......we both were allowed to do whatever we wanted. kinda dont ask dont tell...we kept it on the down low...but recently she got more attached and thought thirer shoulf be more which we both aghreed upon would not. but recently when i started seeing this other girl she got upset.....my advice would not to let anybody know....keep it to yourselves and it could work out forever..
2006-08-16 07:54:31 · answer #1 · answered by Timmy K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're really asking two separate questions...Do casual relationships ever work out? Do friends with benefits ever work out?
I would have to say, about casual relationships, that they will go one of two ways. Some one will either want to end it or make it more serious, regardless of what the agreement and understanding was at the beginning.
About friends with benefits, I have some actual knowledge. I have a male best friend, whom I've been friends with for over 10 years now. During the time we both were not in exclusive relationships, we considered ourselves to be friends with benefits. We never placed any demands on the other and were completely supportive of what ever relationships came along outside our own. I trust him absolutely and completely, and love him very much. The reason that this has worked for so long is that we, first and foremost, have an unconditional friendship. I am in a very serious relationship now with someone and he is now married. We still talk all the time and are still very close. But we have enough respect for each other and for our friendship not to interfere in each others current relationship. We know that no matter what happens we will always be friends and nothing can change that.
Finding a friend like that is rare. When you do, be mature enough not to let them go.
Hope that answered your question.
- Tig
2006-08-16 15:02:24 · answer #2 · answered by Tigger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder what you mean by "work out." If you mean to say, does a casual relationship become a serious one or if friends with benefits become lovers, then the answer is almost never. If you mean that it continues being casual without problems, then it does, for a while. It doesn't last forever usually because one or the other person finds someone serious.
As for the feelings complicating things, in the relationships I have seen (never been part of the arrangement myself), the feelings never complicated things because both sides were too proud to own up to the feelings. I know of a case where they were actually both in love with the other person, but were so convinced that the relationship was just casual for the other person, they eventually went their separate ways without either of them confessing the truth.
2006-08-16 14:56:46 · answer #3 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's two consenting people that have a friendship where they happen to enjoy each others bodies, there's really nothing wrong with it. Friends with benefits works as long as it's communicated as such.
However, emotions do tend complicate things. Or in situations where one person becomes involved with someone else and then takes away said benefits.
Which is more reason to commucate such intensions.
Things always workout in the end, regardless. Keep some heart barriers up , be safe and have fun.
2006-08-16 14:54:36 · answer #4 · answered by -J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They NEVER work, because if you are even casually seeing an individual on those terms you aren't leaving yourself available to meet other people and you get comfortable. Next thing you know, its been 6 months and either one of you begins to think you're a couple or other people assume it.
2006-08-16 14:52:59 · answer #5 · answered by HotSpicy_Creole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i had a boyfriend that we ddint really do anything with each other. we only saw each other in school, and we only hugged. i broke up with him after a year. i wanted to do it sooner but it was summer and i didnt have the heart. we were way closer as friends. it was amazing the change when we went from friends to bf and gf. you better be close to them, cuase it usually doesnt work out unless you see each other alot and hug each other more than twice. good luck.
2006-08-16 14:54:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Casual relationships need to be a "mutual agreement". That is the only way they can work out. It has to be a mutual agreement for what it is and nothing more.
2006-08-16 14:53:19 · answer #7 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive had plenty of Friends with Benfits..in some form the girls get attached all the time...it caused a big uproar in my family one time cause one chick started cutting hersef..cause she was number 2..****** that..lol
2006-08-16 14:52:04 · answer #8 · answered by Jason D H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, in my experience that usually doesn't work out. Making out in the trombone storage room and getting head usually wants to turn into something serious. Depending on what you want, do what you want.
2006-08-16 14:52:42 · answer #9 · answered by chromepie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why they couldnt work. As long as the two people feel the same way about one another, there should be no problem.
2006-08-16 14:51:46 · answer #10 · answered by Sugaree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋