the guy is hot and fine but i am still in high school what's your advice for me?
2006-08-16 07:41:51 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i suggest you ask yourself what a 27 year old man would see in a 15 year old child. dont be part of the problem be part of the solution
2006-08-16 07:49:46 · answer #1 · answered by Savage 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
In all truth, many young ladies are attracted to men that are older than they are. Many young men are to.
However, I believe that you should really consider being with someone who is in your age group. Your 15 years old, and i'm sure there are so many things going on right now in your life especially becoming more mature body wise.
Not meaning to sound like your mother but, you have so much of your life ahead of you. There's so many things in life you can accomplish, and someone who is older than you could be a very very big distraction.
I'm not saying he's a bad person because I don't know him. However, being in school and dating someone or becoming romantically fond of someone older could set the stage for so many situations that at 15 - you really shouldn't have to be faced with.
In the world today so many people, not only young people, but older people as well are having sex before they marry. Not many people practice safe sex everytime they have sex. That's how many get or become infected with an S.T.D and lots of the time don't really know it.
Am I trying to scare you- no. I'm giving you information in hopes that whatever decision you make you always, always do what's best and safe for you.
Legally your parents could have him arrested if anything happend between the two of you. And that's not good for either one of you.
So- here's what I'm getting at. Your 15, give it a few years before you date someone that old. As my 18 year old step daughter says "he's been around the block too many times".
It's okay to be attracted to him. Just remain friends. Nothing more - Nothing less.
Blessings To You & Yours
2006-08-16 08:01:07 · answer #2 · answered by Pastors Wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 15 Yrs old?
And he is 27 you suspect?
I believe you should snap back to reality and take your crush for just that... A CRUSH. not real and easily replaceable by looking at kids just SLIGHTLY older then you or kids your own age.
27 is just to old right now for you. When you turn 18 and he turns 30 then it will be "OKAY' to pursue him for a date and what-not.
You have to realize that when you get into a relationship with someone that older then you, you face the possibility that he will be in complete control. And later down the road you will realize your mistake and soon resentment towards him will set in.
Just lay off for a couple of months and see if your infatuation is still there. During that couple of months go on a date or two with someone else. (group date with friends for max safety)
I hope this helps
James
2006-08-16 07:53:30 · answer #3 · answered by dark_blue_prince 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to the high school boys. It would be frowned upon for a 27 year old woman to date a 15 year old boy, yet remains over-looked when a 27 year old MAN screws around with a 15 year old. Way not cool. And sorry hun, you arent a lady yet, you are a girl. In 10 years, you may call yourself a lady.
2006-08-16 07:48:30 · answer #4 · answered by Lemme tell ya... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a GIRL of 15. You are also a girl who could put this guy in jail and on a sexual offender list. The reality is also that any 27 yr. old who has interest in a 15 yr.old girl is deviant. So, to recap,
he should not be interested in you ethically or legally and you can do him significant legal harm if you pursue this.
I'd say find someone your own age.
2006-08-16 07:57:59 · answer #5 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't even go there. It's ok to be ATTRACTED to someone without acting upon it, and it's not ok for a man of 27 to get anywhere near a 15 year old GIRL.
Though you may see yourself as "mature for your age" or above the intellectual level of those your age, your emotional fortitude has not yet fully developed. No matter how smart you are, you're not ready for a relationship with a man 12 years your senior.
Don't believe me? What answer would your parents give you? If they don't think it's ok, then it's not ok.
2006-08-16 07:50:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a girl not a lady.
And why do you want him to go to prison?
----------------- Jenna below says: "It would be frowned upon for a 27 year old woman to date a 15 year old boy, yet remains over-looked when a 27 year old MAN screws around with a 15 year old" which is the TOTAL OPPOSITE of reality, where 27 year old female teachers dont even get a single day in jail for messing with a young teen boy, but 27 year old men get put under the jail.
2006-08-16 07:47:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not a lady, your a teenager who doesn't have the live experience yet to deal with such a relationship.
God I sound like my parents!!
Look, I know I got in way more trouble than you growing up, way more. I hated my parents, thought they didn't understand and couldn't wait until I was 18 to get out of the house.
Don't do it. At least talk to some one older you trust, an Aunt or someone who has been alive since at least the 80's!
2006-08-16 07:51:41 · answer #8 · answered by BOB W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but you are not a LADY at 15yrs. A man of 27 is certainly way way too old for you to even consider. If you had a crush on a boy at school or even someone of 18 it would be natural and ok, but this man is way too old. Forget it before you get yourself and the 27yr old in trouble.
2006-08-16 07:50:58 · answer #9 · answered by Dolly Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you prefer someone older, take it a little closer to your own age. Do you think you will have the same attraction to this guy, when you are 27 and he is 39. You have your whole life ahead of you,and attractions are normal.
Don't set your self up to be let down.
2006-08-16 07:50:24 · answer #10 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lady? You are a child. Anyone 27 that has any interest in someone 15 is a sicko. Where the h@%% are your parents while this is going on?
2006-08-16 07:48:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋