what do you think of long engagements? How long is too long?

Answer 1

I think it depends on each couple - there is no 'one fits for all rule'.

But I think when greater importance should be attached to the significance of being engaged. It's the official committment and should be treated as almost legal.

So for that reason - it is irrelevant (in my view) how long they are engaged for but what is important is that they have a goal for marriage and when they have attained that goal they marry. Otherwise engagement is becoming another loosely significant word which is a 'get-out clause' to keep the partner happy without being fully committed.

Peace and love

Answer 2

A long engagement is fine if there is a reason for it. I will most likely be engaged for 3-5 years because of graduate school. It doesn't make sense to get married before then (I'll lose funding) and we want to make it official. It should be whatever the couple thinks is right.

Answer 3

I was engaged for 3 months (as in we told everyone we were getting married in 3 months time which I guess means we were engaged in the interim). If you're going to get married, what are you waiting for? If you don't intend to get married anytime in the near future, why get engaged? Engagements don't mean anything anyway and people tend to use them too lightly. I know so many people who got engaged with no set plans for getting married and then don't end up going through with it. I personally think it's all just an excuse for getting engagement presents :)

Answer 4

We got engaged 3 months after we met, then we started saving our money so we could have our dream wedding. We got engaged in 03 and married in 05 so we were engaged nearly 2 years. It worked out great and the wedding was flawless - planning out all details really goes a long way.

Answer 5

I agree that anything over 2 years seems too long. You start to wonder if the couple are really ever going to do it if its taking them this long.

I mean, why get engaged just to say, "I'm engaged" and not start to plan a wedding? Isn't that part of the idea of getting engaged, to get married?

Answer 6

To be quite frank I cannot quite see the point of getting engaged, many people seem to do it for the ring and engagement presents.
Few actually realise that tradition says that the engagement ring should be sold before the wedding to enable the bride & groom to buy things for their new home. I met my Simon in January 1999, he proposed in May 1999 and we married in July 1999, we didn't get engaged. We adore each other sooooooooooooooooo much and we always will.

Answer 7

Well for one I have been with the same guy for 6 yrs and we have yet to get engaged and we both dont mind because we are not financially set to do so. I don't think there should be a time limit on anything. It will happen when the timing is right.

Answer 8

Don't get engaged until you are ready to get married. Then stay engaged only long enough to plan a wedding. Six months is a great length for an engagement.

Answer 9

i think that long engagements are okay if you need extra time for the wedding planning or to save to money. i would consider long being 1 and 1/2 years to two and everything over that too long. then is like a promise ring.

Answer 10

I got engaged Christmas 2001 and am finally getting married May 2007. It just depends on situations that come about, money the whole works. Get married when you and the future husband want to get married. Think of yourselfs and not others. If you push it to soon something might go wrong.