Ok, I'm in my early 20s and have my head on straight and have saved all my money since i've started working as a teenager. My father now that I don' t live in his house and am getting married has asked me for large amounts of money over the last two weeks so he can pay his bills because he is unorganized. How do I nicely tell him that he can't keep asking for money as I have my wedding to pay for. Shouldn't the tables be turned in most circumstances?
2006-08-16 07:28:19 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
All you can say is, "I'm sorry dad but I don't have any money that I can give to you. With the paying for the upcoming wedding all of my money is going towards that."
It is likely that your father will not take this news well and will try to guilt you into giving him money. But you have new responsibilities which include your future husband. Your father needs to be responsible for himself.
2006-08-16 07:39:29 · answer #1 · answered by Bud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about ask him to show you proof of all bills and his paycheck stub? If he protest then tell him you won't help him.
That's the way you can see how much he actually need or if he is ust gonna to waste it on things he don't need.
Once you see how much he need and his paycheck stub and everything, if he spend it unwisely then you can point it out to him and tell him that he isn't being wise and that you will help him organize his spending better. If he complain tell him you will not help him if he keep it up. That should get him to think twice.
It is very likely he probably have the moneys but doesn't want to spend it on bills and you can bust him on the spot if you see his bank account and other moneys information.
2006-08-16 11:21:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say "Dad. I'd love to help you if I could. After all, did you not always try to help me? You know about my up-coming wedding and how expensive it will be. I'm sorry but my money has to be saved for that right now".
2006-08-16 07:36:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you can't give him money because you are paying for your wedding. A parent should never ask their children for money. He is an adult and should be responsible enough to pay his bills. That should never fall to you.
Good luck!
2006-08-16 07:39:10 · answer #4 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You already said the words... "I'm sorry, but I don't have the money to give you because I have a wedding to pay for." Good luck! It may be hard to do, but you really have to do it.
2006-08-16 07:35:56 · answer #5 · answered by woodwinman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How did he manage when you still lived at home?
Tell him you are sorry but you budgeted for your wedding and there just isn't any left right now.
If he can't handle it that isn't you problem.(don't say that to him)
but is the truth.You are entitled to your life and if you are responsible and he isn't you didn't cause that and shouldn't be expected to support him.
Maybe offer to help him budget his money better.
2006-08-16 07:36:19 · answer #6 · answered by proud2Banti_illegal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him you're searching for for a different line of artwork and tell him, its alright to have a communique with your father. you're stunned that he helps your selection why are you frightened of your father for goodness sake. possibly he thinks it incredibly is the sole way he could have a communique together with his toddlers, he sounds lonely to me, possibly you are able to spend greater time with him. tell him approximately your plans and what you have an interest in if this concept dosn't interest you.
2016-11-04 22:59:55 · answer #7 · answered by powelson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your father that you will think about it after youve paid for your wedding he can wait till then since you need to put yourself first im not saying ignore or dont help him but your in a spot same as him now you can tell him youll think about it after marriage since you have expenses as youve said you have helped him financially till now so its his turn to understand your situation now
2006-08-16 07:36:11 · answer #8 · answered by abeautyqueenz@gmail.com 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell him simply that you cannot afford it...I went through the same thing with my mom..it's not an easy situation to be in.
2006-08-16 07:34:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are living in his house, don't you think it's a little selfish to keep all your money for frivolities?
Your father has been supporting you for a long time....Throw him a bone for some bills.
2006-08-16 07:35:01 · answer #10 · answered by tonevault 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋