He is getting over an ugly breakup. He knows I feel something for him, but he says it's just bad-timing right now. I completely understand - and we are fine.
I told him that I am considering going out on a date with another guy and he said he was cool with it as long as the guy knew that he would be coming around.
Does this mean that he could think of me as a possible option? Or is he just being an friend?
I could just ask him, but then I think he might think I'm pushing him for a 'tell me where we stand' type deal.
Any opinions?
2006-08-16 06:58:04 · 23 answers · asked by Mintygoodness1 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To add some details here:
He is getting over a 7 year marriage, so yes, he DOES need some time. Secondly, I'm not putting my life on hold for him - and he knows that. I'm just an honest person, and I wanted him to know that I was considering dating this guy. I wasn't asking his permission.
2006-08-16 07:18:34 · update #1
He's telling you that you can go out with this other guy b/c he feels guilty asking you to wait around for him. BUT he defintely likes you and when he's ready he plans on pursuing something with you. Unfortunately there's no way to know when he'll be ready and you're better off going out with this other guy, at least for now. Might as well try and have fun now, who knows maybe things will work out really well with this other guy!
2006-08-16 07:03:54 · answer #1 · answered by bored_at_work 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking about what he wants! What do you want? If you want to date then date. He doesn't want you(at least not right now ),so he can't put qualifications on who you date or what you tell them. Remember, guys love to keep a "just in case" option open. That way if he finds someone better than you, he can be off without real ties to you. If he's alone too long, he's got enough ties with you that he can pull you in a little closer to get some girlfriend benefits. Don't be no fool!
2006-08-16 14:09:38 · answer #2 · answered by P. C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just my opinion OK? If you're not getting together because of his ugly breakup that probably means he still has feelings for the other girl...maybe not nice feelings, but feelings still, so it's not recommendable to go there.
My advice? Don't overcrowd him, in fact, just let him be and get away from him, cause there's a chance he'll see you as his bff and you'll never get through that barrier. Go out with your other guy and try to explore new possibilities.
If its meant to happen in a good way for both of you, give it time but do eventually ask THE question...sometimes you'll never know if you don't ask
2006-08-16 14:08:10 · answer #3 · answered by cleo715 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone wants what they cant have!!!.. Try going out with the new guy, Let your guy know that you have a life, it's not your fault that he broke up, you have a life TOO and you cant sit around waiting for him to come around.. Try this new guy , hey maybe your guy might see what he had and wont want to lose it. Right now he knows that your all over him, wanting and waiting for him so he will take his time. If he was truly in love with his ex then that means it will take long for him to get over her, if he ever does. So just let him know that you want him in some way but dont let him think that you will "pause" your life till he gets over his break up. IF he doesn't try then he might never be able to...
2006-08-16 14:12:04 · answer #4 · answered by SharaG 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you probably sparked a little bit of jealousy in him. It was nice of him to let you know that the timing wasn't right - He respects you enough to not use you and make you a rebound. But on the other hand it sounds like he was letting you know not to get serious with this other guy because he has every intention of taking his place soon. I think once he lets his heart heal a little bit, he'll want to take things up a notch with you. Good luck!
2006-08-16 14:07:26 · answer #5 · answered by Brea1243 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this guy is kind of using you. It's just a thought, but he doesn't want to attach himself to you but at the same time he wants any other man that you may date to know that he's got some kind of claim on you. That's a bad deal for you. He has it made. No strings. You're better than that.
2006-08-16 14:04:36 · answer #6 · answered by radnimar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think he does think of you as a possible option. You seem nice and he is letting you know to tell that guy you are going out with that he is coming towards you!
2006-08-16 14:05:39 · answer #7 · answered by starhappydog 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not like you're going to marry this other guy you're going out on a date with. Who knows what will happen on this date. Maintain your friendship and see what develops in the future.
2006-08-16 14:05:02 · answer #8 · answered by gemone523 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the breakup was really ugly, then give him time to assess his situation. He may not want to get into another relationship too soon. You know how those rebound relationships are. You cannot tell whether their lust or love.
2006-08-16 14:06:58 · answer #9 · answered by dd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are a possible option. he is just getting out of a relationship and don't want back in another one right away. give him time tho and things should get better. but don't wait on him, go on dates and have fun.
2006-08-16 14:07:02 · answer #10 · answered by amandy245 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋