My twin sister puts her husband before me & will defend him against me, & she said that the Bible says that you must put your spouse before the rest of your family. Is this correct? If so, what scripture does that say that? If she divorces her husband, then what? Does she still put him before me?
Blood family is permanent, & marriage is not guaranteed to work out all the time. How is some dude gonna intrude my family & my own TWIN pushes me to the side to cater to him because "the bible" says so. She does other un-Christly things, so why is she stuck on that.
When she's going through a crisis, I'm the 1st person she calls on-not her husband. When she needs money, she comes to me-not her husband, so how is she supposed to put him before me.
2006-08-16 06:53:27 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
family should come 1st. blood is thicker than water and all that. bf's/gf's husbands/wifes come and go but your family is your family till you die
2006-08-16 06:58:27 · answer #1 · answered by Barson 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I don't believe in putting some people over other, but you must understand that this is the person that she intend to live with for the rest of her life, so she has to compromise everything. Your sister could be taking you attitude towards her husband based on jealously, she might be think that you feel that way because some guy came and stole her from you. How do you feel about him? Also, if she is so strongly about her position as a wife then she need to recognize his position as a husband and ask him for money.
But to answer all you questions, I never heard anything in the bible about put your husband before you family. I've heard the script about leaving you parents house to marry and some other scripture, but not that one. Well if she is according her marriage to the bible then she should have any intentions on a divorce, because you suppose to remain together until death or infidelity (whichever comes first). But if the do divorce no she doesn't because she doesn't suppose to while married.
2006-08-16 07:08:56 · answer #2 · answered by mocherie32 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People tend to put their sexual partner before anyone or anything else in their life because the sex drive is so strong, especially when we are young adults. However, as time passes, like you say, the partner may pass too, and then we tend to revert to our original family, or cling more to our children if we have them by then. This is just human nature and is not Christian or any other religion. We sometimes use our religion as justification for things that we do that we do not otherwise understand. Of course, your twin has strong attachment to you, but the sexual drive is not involved with you. Give her time, this is really all you can do. Love is the best cure for all the problems you name. Love her. I would guess that perhaps you are not married yet, maybe some of your feelings will improve about their relationship when you have a spouse also.
2006-08-16 07:08:45 · answer #3 · answered by Opalita 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the relationship between a husband and a wife (Genesis 2:24).
But I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God… For man is not from woman, but woman from man" (I Cor. 11:3, 8). "And I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man, but to be in silence. For Adam was formed first, then Eve" (I Tim. 1:12-13).
Ignoring unfair treatment is wrong (Romans 12:9). Nevertheless, a society that is based on biblical law that women also protects women socially, legally and economically. Laws against fornication and adultery (Ex. 20:14, 16-17, Dt. 22:13-21, 29; 23:17; Lev. 19:29; 21:9.) protect women (and men) from exploitation and abandonment.
2006-08-16 09:21:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is indeed supposed to put her husband before all else except God - even Mom and Dad. However, this is based on the Scripture that says 'For this reason, a man will leave father and mother, be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.' (Genesis 2:24)
So that means she also shouldn't be turning to you for help either, but rather taking responsibility for her own life - her own decisions and actions. And it also means that marriage is meant to be permanent. Jesus, in commenting on the above passage in Matthew 19:3-6, says 'What therefore God has joined together, let no one separate.'
It sounds like your twin wants to have her cake and eat it too - and on the basis of the above verses, you are completely justified in calling her on this.
2006-08-16 07:03:24 · answer #5 · answered by songkaila 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its a scriptural stand. However if the rest of her life is not guided by God's word-then her stance on her husband seems fruitless.
5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? 6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
Matt 19:5-6 (KJV)
2006-08-16 07:04:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's true and biblical but seems to be taken out of context here. It's not to be used as an excuse to neglect or damage other relationships. In a perfect world, leave and cleave WOULD be for a lifetime as it was intended, as is the product of marriage...children and parenthood that create family blood bonds but we don't live in a perfect world unfortunately.
2006-08-16 07:08:23 · answer #7 · answered by OOO! I know! I know! 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your spouse isnt going to be #1 in your life than you shouldnt be getting married in the first place. IMO the reason for our high divorce rate is because spouses AREN'T the number one priority in each others lives anymore.
2006-08-16 07:00:22 · answer #8 · answered by tgace 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The only thing in the bible about that... is about a man leaving his mother & taking the obligation (or whatever) to his wife. It don't mean you abandon the rest of your family. But yes, your devotion lies with your spouse. I agree with that. My children always come first of course. Even before the spouse.
2006-08-16 06:59:07 · answer #9 · answered by IMHO 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Biblically, kinda. HE leaves his family to cleave unto her, she does not leave her family. God should come first.
On the other hand, it sounds like she wants you when she needs you, and doesnt want to hear it the rest of the time. Dont think this is a religious thing, more of an attitude problem for her, so to speak.
2006-08-16 07:00:05 · answer #10 · answered by sweetie_baby 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with her. Her spouse should be #1 in her life. She is bound to him and him to her. My daughter is marrying soon and I know he will be the #1 in her life..I was for 23 years but now that has to change...and I'm glad
2006-08-16 07:21:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋