If I know I'm unhappy should I leave him?

Question

We have no similar interests and he is a nonstop gamer, which is so annoying. I love him, but have told him that I'm not in love anymore and that I'd like to see other people. He said he'll do anything to be with me, but by stopping what he loves is he not selling himself out, and in return won't he resent me? Also, we live together and I pretty much take care of him, other than half the rent and utilities I take care of the rest. It's obviously unfair and he just doesn't see it that way. I think he by be an incubus. dun know? Help!!!!!

Answer 1

Sounds like trouble ... if you don't feel appreciated and you feel like you're putting more into the relationship then he is .. that is a red flag right there you need to find somebody else.

You have a good head on your shoulders ( at least from what I can tell ) ... listen to your heart ... if you're not happy then why not change it ... life is about making choices ... you're choosing to live in a crappy relationship ... once you meet a guy that will love you deeply and truly want what's best for you and to make you happy .. you'll see where this one went wrong ... !

Answer 2

First off, if you really love him and he loves you, and this is not a relationship based on convenience, low self-esteem or co-dependency, then you should try a few things to see if it can work out.

I wouldn't worry about him "selling himself out" based on him not being able to "game" 24/7. Regardless of the relationship, he needs to have balance. It's not healthy or productive doing any type of activity all the time. So scratch that off the list, as you're doing him a favor by asking him to curb his obsession with the joystick a bit.

If he truly loves you, he won't resent you. If you make it as a couple, he'll thank you. If you don't make it and he sees what he's lost and changes for the better because of it, he'll probably still thank you.

You need to sit down and discuss what you both need and want from each other; understanding that it won't be easy, and it won't be without some failures and start-overs. Sometimes, he'll need to be the Indian and you the chief, and sometimes you the Indian and him the chief.

If you both are ready, try turning over a new leaf, I would give it (3) months to see if there are some real changes. You might not get all the changes, but maybe enough to make it worthwhile.

Peace and good luck...

Answer 3

Just leave him. You're obviously not very happy, from the way you sound, because you're using words like "annoying" and "unfair". If you need to break up with him, do what you need to do. He'll move on, and so will you. Find a guy that you love and that you don't find "annoying" and "unfair".

Answer 4

ok. the problem is not the gaming. t he problem is that he is not doing what he should to Satisfy your needs. he can play his games, but if he can't take care of his girlfriend, that is his problem...not yours! he needs to realize that you don't care about his gaming, but u care about your Relationship. he is not putting in the effort, the time, the care into strengthening your love for eachother.

and u know what..the thing is, love is there. that's not the problem. the problem is, he needs to use that love to create something positive, productive, and healthy in this relationship. if u are willing to grow that, but he isn't, then he isn't doing his part. not because he doesn't love you, but because he doens't know how or is not willing to do whatever it takes to keep you happy. and if u are making sure u are a Great, Awesome, Caring, Committed girlfriend, there is NO reason why u cannot expect that from him. if u give him attention, love and respect, u deserve it back. that's it. it's not about giving up games. it's about spending time enough with you so that you Know he loves and cares about you, and u don't question it. but because he is taking u for granted and unappreciative of ur efforts, u are feeling negatively about urself and the relationship. that is not healthy, regardless of his love for you. therefore, u need to communicate with him what ur expectations are for urself as a girlfriend, what u want in him as a boyfriend, and for the relationship. u need to find out what his expecations for u are, and from himself, and from the relationship. if u can see a common ground there, u will be able to work on it. but if u have different wants or expectations, then u will have a rocky relationship. that may mean that he's just not right for u, not mature enough for you. trust me, when u find someone who fulfills all ur needs and wants, u will know it. and if u continue to be the kind of woman who will take care of your partner's needs, there is no way u will ever take anyone's crap. u will never let someone treat u like that. because u are worth something. and if he agreed, he would do waht it takes to satisfy you.

do not make him give up his games. but let him figure out a way to satisfy you And have his own hobbies and activities. it's not like u are overbearing and forcing him to do things he doens't want... unless spending time with you and making u feel positive and happy is not one of those things....if he dons't want that for u, why is he with you?

talk to him...u will know if he really wants to try. because u love him, give him a chance to try. but he needs to take advantage of that chance..if he doesn't , it will be his fault and not yours that the relationship didnt' work.

Answer 5

It sounds like your his mother. Do you clean up after him and do the cooking too? I think he needs to learn a lesson about life. I would dump him but stay friends. Date other people. In a couple of years when he's learned responsibility, maybe you guys can hook up again. He will never change without hateing you for it. This is the only way.

Answer 6

i'm so sorry to know this....anyways dear if you mention here that this guys LOVES YOU....maybe you could try working things with him...i mean breaking up is not A GOOD REASON TO END A RELATIONSHIP....esp in money matter.

i mean if he loves you he need to do some changes...WELL ACTUALLY TO BE HONEST IF YOU DIDNT LET HIM DO THIS TO YOU AT THE BEGINNING OF THE RELATIONSHIP....MAYBE HIS NOT BEING UNFAIR...COZ SOMETIMES WE LET THEM DO WHATEVER TO US UNTIL THEY GET USED TO DO IT....AND NOW WE ARE THE ONE WHO'S SUFFERING....

i'm assuming you guys been together for a while so whY not TRY THINGS WORK OUT..right?? stop running away for it....HAVE A SERIOUS TALK WITH HIM...

GOOD LUCK

Answer 7

A guy who is willingly being taken care of by a girl instead of the other way around, is not a man. Plus, if you do not like what he does, why do you want to be with him?

Answer 8

if YOU are not happy with the relationship, then get out of it. you shouldn't have to suffer for him. you obviously know you are better than that, and he will soon find out when you are gone, but thats not your problem. he will try to get you back, but move on. life is too short to live so unhappily with someone you dont love anymore. go out there and find your true happiness and love in life.

Answer 9

if ur not happy i'd get out. he does kinda sound like a moocher. he will resent u 4 n e thing that u make him stop doing, besides that who says that will change his personality. my experience is they don't change they just get worse. if ur not n luv wit him n e more tell him 2 pack his bags and don't look back. hope i helped!

Answer 10

you live together and you take care of him.
there is your reason to leave the rule book says the guy takes care of the girl not the girl supports the guy. save your money and leave, the sooner the better.