shes just broke up with me she says she needs space.She told me that she still loves me and cares about me. she told her best friend that she wants to see me more and wants me to act the way i use to. I want to see her too but im afraid i'll screw up the 95% chance of getting back together that she says i have. i really do love her and i know she really loves me. i need some advice. please people help me
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2006-08-16 06:50:42 · 13 answers · asked by teamo1224430 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She broke up with me on the 10th of august by the way
2006-08-16 06:51:22 · update #1
It sounds as if she "wants her cake and eat it too." She wants you to keep loving her while she has her "space." If she can't love you for how you are and wants you to act the way you used to, then I would find someone who loves me just the way I am. I think she's doing a little game playing.
2006-08-16 06:57:21 · answer #1 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loading AIM forgot I got rid of it. In the meantime you are letting her call the shots because you love her, right. ask yourself how you will feel if you are holding on, anticipating when you guys get back together and she doesn't want to. Or if you decided that it hurts too much to wait and decide you don't want to get back together and she does.
I hate the feeling of someone having the control over my feelings and actions. I believe in giving each other time and space apart. It sounds like you are afraid it's the old I need a break trick. When she really is trying to gently let you go. I don't blame you I would feel the same way. Dr Phil says 7% of communication is through speach. The other 93% is body laungage, actions, etc. Spend time talking to her. Watch for the signs. Then decide if you want to wait and see what she decides your fate will be.
I've been the girl that needed space. Sometimes it meant just that, other times it meant I wanted out. Fickle miserable creatures we are. Good luck
2006-08-16 14:10:06 · answer #2 · answered by Balou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't push the issue with her... let her come to YOU once she's made up her mind about what she wants. I think you need to ask her what you can do to be a better mate... and if the demands are simple, and don't require a full overhaul on your personality, then you could make those efforts to meet her halfway for the sake of the relationship. Keep in mind that young women go through a LOT of changes, physically and emotionally, and often aren't positive about what it is they truly want until they are well into their 20's. We do a lot of maturing between 15 and 25!
2006-08-16 14:02:55 · answer #3 · answered by ?princesshousewife? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This wound is still fresh and raw. What she wants is for you to give the attention you gave to her at the beginning. A common complaint women have with their boyfriends or husbands is that they stop trying once the relationship has stabilized. Some guys figure that once they have the girl they can be more indifferent and less attentive, and this is the direct opposite of what a woman needs as the relationship progresses.
Surprise her with something she's never expect. For advice on this talk to a female friend of yours or one of HER friends. More importantly, if you manage to win this girl back, pay attention to her over the long term. Girls won't stay around for guys who ignore them and are indifferent to their needs. If you really love her, show her.
2006-08-16 14:07:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs her space but wants to see more of you? that is very contradicting. It sounds like she doesn't like who you have become, she says she wants you to be like more like you used to be. So why don't you have a talk with her, obviously you two love each other so the talk should be easy. see what she has to say, she obviously didn't enclose to you all the information of why she broke up with you.
2006-08-16 13:59:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her space,you screw up and now she`s wants out,so be a man.let her go and find what she is looking for.as for you just get over it move on with the next one.
p.s. don`t cry about it!
and don`t screw uo this time.
2006-08-16 13:59:02 · answer #6 · answered by horseknickers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just try to get on with your life and leave her alone,if she really loves you she will be back,if not then you will wont have wasted extra time on the relationship that isn't going to work anyway.
2006-08-16 13:56:11 · answer #7 · answered by Robin P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you break up? Was it your fault? If not then don't sweat her she might be trying to get you in check to see what you would do to get her back. Or maybe she likes someone else too....
2006-08-16 13:56:03 · answer #8 · answered by de4life34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good luck with that 95%
2006-08-16 13:55:47 · answer #9 · answered by chicamexicana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don t have aim
but i have experience in this situation
email me and i will help u out
peterfl999@yahoo.com
2006-08-16 13:57:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋