The wedding I am being kicked out of is my husband cousin who is marrying my so called best friend. She still wants me to go to the wedding but does not want me in the wedding. I want to know if I really have to go, since most of our family will be going.
2006-08-16 06:33:10 · 18 answers · asked by undrama queen 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
i think u should go.... because it is family, and because u are still wanted there. i know it stings a bit to feel "kicked out", but u have to understand that this is her wedding day, and if u are truly her friend u wouldn't want to ruin it.
what is the background of why she did it ? =T either way, depending on how u feel about her intentions, i would say go with your gut. if u feel she's mistreated u and u are not her friend, u may not want to go to the wedding. because it should be a joyous occasion; not something full of bad feeling, or anger. if u can find it in urself to always do what you feel is being a Good Person and Good Friend, i believe u will never regret ur actions. she may regret what she's done to you, but at least u will never think badly about urself for acting in anger. it shows a lot of character and heart if u can wish her luck and the best regardless of the situation. perhaps if u don't go, u can still send her a message or email or phonecall letting her know u truly are happy for her and want the best for her, but u don't feel comfortable going, etc..... it's up to you. but if u are a good friend, even if people around treat u badly, at least u can be Confident that u are definitely Awesome friend, and no one can tell u otherwise.
2006-08-16 06:43:33 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to look at the circumstances of the situation-the relationship you carried with these people-especially the bride to be-"so called best friend"-and if the relationship you've kept with each other was an impartial type of friendship and how from there everything evolved leading up to the wedding and the honor to have you as Maid of Honor. After having been asked such honorable position and got denoted from it-analyze what went wrong-if anything-and why, and of course if your being the goat of it all. If after analyzing all of the situation from the beginning of the relationship to now asking for advice as to whether or not you should go-if you feel you've always or for the most done your part in being a true and don't understand why she/they could do such a thing and you're really bothered-then don't go-who cares if the rest of the family is going-they are not you-they don't know how you feel-and how it hurts to be let go of something that's special and make them realize (if they think your being childish in any way) that being asked to be Maid of Honor is a very honorable thing-out of all she could have chosen, she chose you, and it meant a lot to you, and just having it taken like that , is not right, and it's degrading. Unless you did something or said something to upset her-I can understand, or something came up where she knew you could be a good sport if she asked you not to participate-being she had a extremely good valid reason-they go, show you have class and forgive her, but if she ever fails you again-it's not worth it, and tell her how she made you feel and end it-if that's what you feel needs to be done-or give some time to let the wounds heel. Good luck with what ever you decide. If I were you-I'd go-but not forget and talk to her about it, and if she acts like an as s-give her a piece of your mind and let her go-it's her loss not yours.
2006-08-16 07:24:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are never obligated to go to a wedding. I would suggest discussing this with your husband and coming to a decision together as you should stand in solidarity on this. If she kicked you out of the wedding party I'm surprised she "wants" you at the wedding (likely HER hubby is making her say she wants you there). If you don't want to go or feel uncomfortable, don't.
2006-08-16 08:07:14 · answer #3 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would desire to show you how to comprehend the certainty, a certainty which you will no longer prefer to hearken to, yet notwithstanding that's what the certainty is here: in case you kick your maid of honor out of your wedding ceremony social gathering or disinvite her on your wedding ceremony on the muse of no longer something yet all you have on your question and history information proper, I assure you of this: you will completely lose this person as your buddy and best buddy; and that i've got confidence that that's no longer a sacrifice which you will desire to be making below those circumstances. specific, i do no longer comprehend this person, yet it is how i've got confidence approximately the two certainly one of you: on occasion we've somebody as a chum that's no longer pass over suited yet all of us comprehend that what makes the friendship artwork in lots of respects is that the two certainly one of you agree for one yet another "as is", which skill pluses and minuses, flaws and virtues, weaknesses and strengths. Your friendship with this youthful woman is this form of friendship as this, do no longer throw it away, stay associates continuously; and attempt to concentration on your happiness and enable bypass of anger and resentment that ought to wreck your happiness as to the two your wedding ceremony day and thereafter. Congrats.
2016-10-02 04:10:08 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure why she "kicked" you out of the wedding. I'd say you are not obligated to go to the wedding If you wish not to.
2006-08-16 06:39:35 · answer #5 · answered by squashpatty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is terrribly poor etiquette, but what is their reason? Maybe they were trying to relieve you of the financial obligations that go along with it. I would be deeply hurt, but I would ask why before doing something like that. You may regret it later. But you are under no obligation to attend. You do, however, need to let them know you won't be coming.
2006-08-16 11:27:26 · answer #6 · answered by alone1with3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't have to go. You don't have to do anything you don't want to except pay taxes and die... but consider this; if you DON'T go you'll probably lose your "so called best friend" forever. I'd go ahead and go and have an enjoyable time at your best friend's expense. What the heck? It's a free party with friends and most of your family.
2006-08-16 06:41:54 · answer #7 · answered by Hidden .38 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's always your choice as to whether or not you want to go. The thing is dealing with the resulting consequences of it. If you can, then don't. You don't have to justify your actions to anybody. Sounds like they've treated you pretty rudely, so why should you show up and pretend like nothing happened if you don't want to?
2006-08-16 06:40:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a reason you were asked not to participate in the wedding? Think about why you were asked not to participate and put yourself in the other persons shoes. I think you should go. But if even after you have put yourself in their shoes you still feel slighted you have to make that decision.
2006-08-16 06:42:03 · answer #9 · answered by Tara R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's hard,why did she ask you not to be in the wedding ? Maybe she was downsizing the wedding party.
2006-08-16 06:40:49 · answer #10 · answered by pmdan00 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋