If know an 18 year old who is 3 weeks pregnant.?

Question

I gave her the advise to get an abortion, so she could have her life back again. She said she couldn't kill her baby. I would like your opinion as to whether this is killing or not when the fetus is only 3 weeks. This girl was going to go to college and make something of herself. Now she's going to have a life of sufferring. What would you advise her? I'd like to show her people's opinions.

Answer 1

It is not a baby yet, it is a clump of cells. It is called a zygot. Tell her again to have the abortion. If it was an accident that she got pregnant it is not a wanted child. She can have children later when she has her feet firmly planted in life.

Answer 2

Yes an abortion is killing a baby even when it is only 3 weeks. A baby is a baby from the moment it is conceived so it doesn't matter how old it is. This girl can still go to college & have her life, now her life will just include a wonderful, beautiful, precious baby! I'm glad to hear that she told you she cannot kill her baby. Now you need to back off & leave her alone. It is her life, her body, & her baby. She is making the right decision! Congrats to her for being responsible she will never regret the decision to keep a child! I was a teenage mom, I had my first daughter when I was 17. I finished high school even though I was pregnant my entire senior year. My daughter was 4 days old when I walked across that stage & got my diploma & I think I was the happiest person there. I now have 4 children ages 6, 4, 2, & 1. I love my children with all my heart & don't regret a single thing. My life was not ruined by my children. I have a good job that I love, I have a nice home & my children are happy & well taken care of. Don't assume that someone's life will be ruined just because they have a child at 18.

Answer 3

Since when does having a baby automatically mean she'll have a "life of suffering"?

Women CAN have a baby and go to school simultaneously...it does happen. If she doesn't have the greatest support system around, she might have to go to school only part time, which will mean it'll take her longer to get her degree, but she can do it.

And honestly...if she doesn't go to college, it won't mean she'll be working at McDonald's for the rest of her life. Plenty of women don't go to college (or, in my case, DO go to college but don't graduate) and end up with good paying, fulfilling jobs that make them happy. Honey, it's not about WHAT you know, but about WHO you know. From the way your post is worded, I'm guessing you're an older lady. If this is the case, you should know this. And telling her to have an abortion simply to "have her life back" is one of the most ridiculous, stupid, ignorant and downright selfish statements I've ever heard. She has two people to worry about now...it's not just her anymore, but her AND NOW her baby.

Honestly, if she's coerced into having an abortion when she really doesn't want one, my guess is that the constant wondering, "What if I'd kept my baby..." will cause her a life of suffering moreso than not going to college.

And yes...an abortion at 3 weeks IS killing. The fetus/unborn baby is ALIVE and growing, and will soon have a beating heart. Even if you think it's only a "clump of cells and tissue", look at it this way...this "clump" could very well grow up and find the cure for cancer or AIDS or become the first woman president of the US. This won't happen if she aborts the baby.

Answer 4

Personally I think abortion is wrong. But just because she is having a baby doesn't mean she has to kill it, she can give it up for adoption or keep it. Plus abortion does not only kill the baby but can hurt the mother as well, they can make her become infertile so she will never have kids when she is ready. Also just because she is having a baby doesn't mean her world is going to end. She can still go to college. My friend had a baby and she's going to college and working, but she has really supportive parents. She is 21 now and married. You can still do things you want to do, but some help would be nice with friends and family. Maybe she could go to a small community college because alot of them have daycare centers in them. Just remember her life doesn't have to end when she has a baby, you just have to make the most of life with what you are given! Hope I helped!

Answer 5

First off you have no idea if it will RUIN her life or not. Plenty of colleges have financial aid and nurseries. Having a child isn't the end of the world. No i don't think abortion of a fetus that young is murder, however it is the Mother and fathers choice. I hope you aren't trying to push your views of a baby on the mother, it will only make her decision harder. My best advice is to support your friend in any decision she makes because it is hers to make. If she doesn't want to kill her baby then suggest adoption, or keeping it. It might be easier for her do do what she feels is right if she didn't keep getting other peoples opinions.

Answer 6

I don't think she would nessacerily be suffering if she wants to keep the baby. Tougher, sure.. suffering?? Her dreams may get ut on hold for a number of years though, but nothing to say that she can't chase them again or something simular in 10 years.

What kind of support does she have around her? Family? Friends? The father of this baby?? Life is tough when you have a new baby, tougher still if your just starting off on your own. But if has been done before. Its a daily struggle that takes years, but it can be done.

She can still go to college, but it will be tougher to do with a newborn. Probably should start off at a community college for a couple years (would recommend that everyone do that anyways) and live with family if she can.

If she's serious about keeping the baby, she needs to start thinking about the legalities with the father. Does he want to be a part of this baby's life? If not then have him sign over his legal rights. (This will prevent heartache in the future, if he suddenly changes his mind.) If he does, he needs to be willing to pay for child support and some sort of visitation schedule should be written up. (Have EVERYTHING written on paper. He said/ she said doesn't hold very well in court.)

my only thought to you though - BE SUPPORTIVE of her decision, or get out of her way! If you force her into an abortion, she will only be guilt-ridden over it later on and forever be plagued by the "what if's" in the future. I'm pro-choice, but that's a decision she has to be comfortable in.

Answer 7

I said it before and I'll say it again, I work for a Pro life organization and yes it is killing. The child has a HEARTBEAT at 18 days!!! And at 20 days the foundation for the entire nervous system is laid down. It is a functioning and living being. It can feel being ripped from the mothers womb and torn apart. Sorry to be graphic but it is the truth.
And who are you to give advise about getting an abortion if you have never had one yourself, it is a severly damaging emotional expirience.
If she wants to raise the baby herself then that's not ruining her life. Being a Mother is the most noble thing any woman can possibly do.

Answer 8

I believe that it is killing no matter what...God gives you the blessing of a child. If she really wants to keep whatever life that it is that she doesn't want to give up for that blessing...Tell her to give the baby up for adoption-to someone who can't have babies and would love to have that blessing in their home. If not, she can always go to college after the baby is a couple of months old. I have 4 kids and am 25. I love my children and would not have wanted anything on how my life had went since I was 18. I will be going back to school and still achieve the career that I wanted to in the first place. So please don't just give her the answer to an easy way out.

Answer 9

In my opinion, it isn't killing, as the fetus at that point is not a viable life form. If the fetus was able to be born and could support itself at that point, I'd consider it a life form. I don't feel abortion is the right answer, because then you are using abortion as birth control, which isn't the way it is intended to work. I would just advise her, "Good luck". She's made her decision already, and that's it.

Answer 10

first off abortion is murder in my opinion no matter how far along someone is...second i think that she would have a life of suffering from regret if she did such a thing as kill her own child....i would advise her to keep the baby or give the baby up for adoption because there are a lot of people out there that can't have children that would love to have the baby.

Answer 11

Show her this opinion, stupid! She wont have a life of suffering! My God, whats your problem? You want her to have an abortion? I think she needs to abort you as a friend! She needs friends who will stand by her in this hard time and not make her feel bad. I got pregnant at 18 and had my daughter at 19 and I am very happy and not suffering a bit. She can still go to college and do whatever she wants. Do her a favor and stop filling her head with all that crap.