first of all i sent this to my mom along with pictures i had taken of my injurys...hi,....me and robbie had a row last night ..i went to bed at 12am cuz i have to be in bed 4 currys 2 wake up early ..he came to bed about half hour later..he was pissed cuz he had got that job and was happy he was annoying me by pokeing me and playing about he got me mad so i said ******* pack it in he threw me outa bed and on the floor ...i hurt my rist its purple i have bashed my knee thats purple see pictures....then i went out the room and into the kitchen 4 a few moments 2 calm down he took the handle off the bedroom door so i could not get in...i was really mad by this stage..so i got a peace of wood and bashed the door saying let me in...when he did he went mad at the door he threw me on the bed and started throughing things at me he threw a candle at my arm they are thick and hard about 6inches long...then he picked up the second candle and bashed it at my head..it pissed with blood i cant belive he did that i dont think he ment to but it ******* hurts i hate the bastard.....i had cuncusion this morning have not been 2 currys and robbies family are asking questions....he feels really guitly about it....my driving teacher asked me about it i have blood all over my clothes.....he is **** scared when his family come round incase i tell on him i tell u cuz i gottta he doh no i took photos i had 2 ..nicola..ps its ok dont kick up a fuss!! he knows hes scum
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2006-08-16 06:05:06 · 65 answers · asked by skinnyminniekitten 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i have a purple bruise on my arm and leg my head is all scabby...i do not know what to do please dont say leave him becuase we live 2gether.......
2006-08-16 06:06:12 · update #1
he said he only hits people if they hit him first .....he dont abuse me everyday
2006-08-16 06:13:32 · update #2
my head is killing its a deep cut i never went 2 the hospital ..hes been really nice 2day i am still in the clothes with blood on i ay been to work....leave him i love him...i want some advice how we can really talk??????/wait till my mom phones me hell the witch is dead
2006-08-16 08:18:02 · update #3
Dear Minnie, give yourself a break and leave him. It happened once, and as anyone who's been through it, will tell you that it won't be the last time.
I've gone back to your first question about whether you are jealous of him, and seriously, after 5 years together and he still won't marry you, it's time to stand back and ask yourself, what are you hanging around with him for? Is this all you ever wanted from him? You deserve better!
Time to take charge of your own life. It won't be easy at first. You just have to take charge of it now, before it gets to be another 5 years and too late for you to have kids and a normal life with someone who will treasure you.
Good Luck.
Peace.
2006-08-16 06:19:24 · answer #1 · answered by angieasee64 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't tell people things like this, with all these graphic details and then tell people not to say "don't tell me to leave him." This just means you don't want an honest answer... you're looking for someone to tell you what you want to hear. You want someone to somehow justify his behavior and tell you it's OK to excuse it and go on like it's not a big deal. I've got news for you... it IS a big deal, and if you don't get out, you'll end up dead. If by some miracle you do survive, your emotional state will be ruined, and that's a fate worse than death... to have to live with the trauma of being treated like a punching bag with no feelings and not worthy of respect. F*ck this immature prick... he may be giving you a place to live, but at what expense? There are plenty of places to live... you have a mother, and I'm sure she'd take you in, if it meant keeping you safe... and ALIVE. This guy is dangerous- you need to get out now, because this is a pattern that doesn't just "stop", or go away on it's own. Love isn't supposed to hurt this way. A decent guy doesn't hit a woman. He knows he's scum... and you do too. Now put the scum in the rubbish bin where it belongs. You know very well what you need to do.
You'll notice all the answers telling you to dump him... there's definitely something to that. Think about it.
2006-08-16 06:23:09 · answer #2 · answered by ?princesshousewife? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if he hits you once or a hundred times. This guy is abusive. But it sounds like both of you have major anger issues. You do need to leave him, or is death a better way out for you? Are you waiting until he kills you? I've been there, I almost was killed. I figured the best thing to do was get the hell out. I don't care if you live together or not. Get a TRO now and get his *** out of there. Or go stay at a friends house. Sounds like you could use a good dose of therapy. Not all men are like this, this isn't a normal lifestyle. You need and deserve better than this guy!
2006-08-16 06:21:37 · answer #3 · answered by dlfoster67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares if he doesn't hit you everyday? He still beat you up. You don't want to hear it but you need to leave him. You should have called the police. You probably should have gone to the hospital for the cut on your head. If you insist on staying with him, get him some counseling. He has a problem, there was no reason at all for him to start hitting you. You might not be so lucky next time.
2006-08-19 12:27:18 · answer #4 · answered by fin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is abuse by any means. If you do not want to leave him.He will keep doing this over and over again. Men that abuse women abuse them all the time. I grew up in a house where my step-father abused my mother and my self. She would not say any thing to any body. She was the same way what am I going to do I live with him. I finally got fed up with all the abuse and I said something to my sister and my mother and I finally got out of there. It sounds like this man has a problem. If you choose to stay with him you will have to suffer with the abuse. He will nver change. Good luck
2006-08-16 06:18:10 · answer #5 · answered by red1967 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never been in this situation myself before, but from being around people that I know personally that have, I can answer from experience. Once a man has hit you once it will happen again. Maybe not right away, but he will. Any man that hits a woman is a coward. Yes, you may think that he loves you, but love doesn't hurt. Always remember that no man is worth your tears and the one who is won't make you cry. Get rid of him, he is the loser not you. Personally, my best advise is file charges on him and move on with your life. Dont let it happen again.
2006-08-16 06:20:28 · answer #6 · answered by iamahotty36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave him, I don't care if you live together or have been married for years. Physical abuse is unacceptable. First he will hit you, say he is sorry, beg for forgiveness,promise to never do it again. Then the next time you tick him off he will hit,kick,punch,push you but much worse than the first time, because you let him get away with it.
He needs to go to a counselor to find out the reason for his anger and to learn to control it. If you don't leave him, you need to go to a counselor to find out why you don't have any self worth. Best wishes.
2006-08-16 06:18:52 · answer #7 · answered by annacabana5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pack your things up and leave him. If you go back to him, he'll think that it's ok for him to hit you and that you won't be going anywhere. And yes, he's apologizing and telling you that he's scum, but he'll do it again because he know he can get away with it in the future. He'll have power and control over you. Is this really how you want to live?
2006-08-16 06:15:01 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not leave, only you will be responsible for what happens to you. It is obvious that you should leave...even you know that. Don't make excuses for him. He was wrong for hitting you...no matter what you did, no matter what kind of day he had, no matter what kind of mood he was in. Leave and get yourself some counseling. If you have to ask whether or not you should leave, then it is obvious that you have issues, too. Get some help.
2006-08-16 06:21:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should have done in the beginning---Find a different boyfriend.
Second--get some counseling for yourself--How to make better choices and also- how to control your anger
Move back home if you can--and be rid of this guy for good.
Find a new set of friends.
2006-08-16 06:16:26 · answer #10 · answered by James A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋