i need somemore advice?

Question

last week i wrote about a 3 yr old that i have been watching for about 3 years. let me fill u in for those who did not read before.about 2 months ago she started to try to kiss my daughters with her tongue and lick on there ears ( my girls are 17 and 19) we thought it was nothing than about 2 weeks ago she came to my house from daycare on a tuesday and said she had looked at a little boys penis (she calls it teetee) i asked her who told her to do it and she said mommy. i didnt say no more for a couple of days and than asked her where it happend and stuff and than let her mom know. she went home on thursday evening and the next week on tuesday when i picked her up at daycare the teacher came out and said she asked 2 other little boys to look at there penis, they had let the mother know. so i talked to her told her that was ugley little girls dont do that ect. later that evening she asked my 13 yr to look at his penis right in front of me and my daughter. will finish ran out of space

Answer 1

A repeat pattern like this usually has a real reason. This doesn't sound like the usual experimentation that all kids go through. It could be as innocent as her having gotten attention for it the first couple of times so she keeps trying it over and over (having had your own kids, I'm sure you know that's typical of 3 year olds). It could be as serious as abuse.

I would keep a log of the times you are aware of her making sexual references (including going back and writing down the ones you can remember). If it doesn't stop soon, call CPS (Child Protective Services). Let them be the ones to make the call about whether or not this should be looked into more seriously. You would not want to be the one responsible for overlooking abuse - IF it is indeed happening. Having a log would help the CPS worker to know how long this has been going on and what types of actions the child has done.

Answer 2

Ok, natural curiosity is one thing. I'm assuming you have talked to the girls mother about this too. But it sounds to me as if this 3 yo girl might be experiencing some signs of sexual abuse, or at the very least signs of her mother showing her things that are not appropriate for her age. There is nothing wrong with the little girl, she is only learning this type of behavior from home. Which is very inappropriate.

If after contacting the mom and explaining to her whats going on, and how you think this is innapropriate, then I strongly recommend contacting your local Child Protective Services (CPS). Its not that the girl is bad, its that she is learning these things from her mom which is very inappropriate.

Answer 3

This is clearly a situation in which the child herself has been abused and is displaying promiscuous behavior as a result. You have a moral obligation -- and the daycare has a legal obligation -- to report suspicions to the authorities. It must be investigated. The child could very well be in danger and obviously already needs counseling. This should outweigh any potential other concerns you may have.

Answer 4

Well, it does sound lile this little girl is kind of sick minded, but then whose influence would that be i wonder?? Well, i would go with your gut instinct and just dont let anything like that happen again and lay down some rules .....
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Answer 5

Any one working with children are required by law to report suspected abuse.
This certainly falls under that category.
To do the right things is not always easy, but it is always right.
Good luck.

Answer 6

I would call child services

Answer 7

call social services....this childs parent needs help....people like this think its funny or cute when they do this and later regret it when their child becomes a troubled youth

Answer 8

you need to call and either talk to the mother about it or if she donent do anything about it then call Child Protective Services on the mother...

Answer 9

wow. just wow.