We were both drunk at a party, and she told me she was 21. She's really nice, and I would have been glad to have a relationship with her, had she really been telling the truth when she said she was 21. It was great and all, but I honestly don't want a relationship. But she calls me everyday, and she's really nice, so I don't want to hurt her feelings. What do I do??? I tried the whole age difference thing. I just don't want her to think it was meant to be a one night stand. That's what it was, but that wasn't my intention at the time. And don't tell me how wrong I was for sleeping with her, cause trust me I know. I already went through that regret process. Now I'm trying to solve this. HELP!!!
This is URGENT!
2006-08-16 05:42:14 · 29 answers · asked by chris 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You guys don't understand. I REALLY don't want to be with her. Just talking to her on the phone annoys the hell out of me. She's hooked and there's no hope that she'll just think nI'm weird and go away.
2006-08-16 05:49:18 · update #1
It's NOT illegal here...
2006-08-16 05:53:51 · update #2
Hmm.. curse her family.. A young girl won't be able to take the rebuke I guess.. haha.. but it's kind of bad.. anyway, to save the further heartache, you should. Break her heart wisely. Don't break it with any relationship kind of reasoning. Tell her that you think she is annoying and no matter how many times she has sex with you, you'll never love her as you don't respect a girl like that (lied to you and slept with you so damn easily).
2006-08-16 06:00:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like ur screwed then. Hom many months till her 18 Bday? If its like 6 months or less u should be in the clear from the law. She lied so does she know what will happen if this gets out in the open? So just take her out to the movies and see if she cool to hang out with and get to know her and tell her u don't want something serious right now because u r still dating but, we (u and her) can still hang out and have fun and if she brings up sex let het know that whatever happens happens and u will be happy no matter what. . Do her parents know that u see her or know ur age?Is she really that bad looking u can't spend anytime with her? If all this gets fixed to a good outcome she could be a steady friend w/benifits but, ur biggest worry for now is do her parents.
2006-08-16 05:58:52 · answer #2 · answered by Wiseguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask ur self to get honest final answer of urself.
If ur true feeling says "yes" then just go for it.
If u really can't, the best is tell her truth & drop it. If u can't but draging also how long can it be last? One day u can't carry on, definately. Continuing will make her to get more serious in u & finally one day when u can't carry on, she will get hurt a lot much more than now what concern for a kind of 1 night stand that had already happened in past.
2006-08-16 06:07:28 · answer #3 · answered by PP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u messed up for one why was u with a 17 yr old and dont blame being drunk as the reason, u better hope she dont turn u in, what ever u do learn the words denial real fast and cut off all contact with her hopefully she isnt anotha monica lawinski and dient save the evidence and i hope u used a condom n she dient save it.. i mean howd u find out she was really 17? maybe u could press charges on her for lyin about her age. call n get legal advice..but cut off all ties with her..tell her u dient appreciate her lyin to u about her age that she could have gotten u prison time
2006-08-16 05:51:03 · answer #4 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down and tell her that if she was really 21 you would be glad to date her. Then point-out that 17 will get you 20 years. Be glad her parents don't press charges against you.
2006-08-16 05:52:02 · answer #5 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems you really care for her and like her. But what is stopping you is the age difference and the guilt that you had sex with a 17yr old girl. I would suggest you to forget the past and be gud friends AND IT SEEMS SHE ALSO LIKE YOU. You can have a gr8 future ahead. Once you start thinking ahead with the mind you started things will get comfortable.
2006-08-16 05:51:00 · answer #6 · answered by ariesaregudfriends 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I hope for your sake that you werent drunk enough that you didnt use a condom buddy! Anyway I would date her just to cover my *** for a while go on about 3 or 4 dates with her then slowly just disappear and dont sleep with her again ok . Just try and dodge this bullet and maybe it will work out!
2006-08-16 05:50:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean you tried the whole age difference thing ? Just because its not illegal where you live doesn't make it right. For god sake just tell her she is way too young. End of story.
2006-08-16 05:49:57 · answer #8 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go out with her like once or twice (make her think you want to give it a try) and then like midway through one of those dates just be like,
"im trying to make this work, and i decided to give it a try but its just not where im at right now"
or say something else breakin it off. but do it nicely in a way saying that, you wouldve liked it to work, and you decided to give it a shot, but its just not working for you for whatever reason. and stand your ground after that dont let her convince/ manipulate you.
ooh ooh and also say you dont want to hurt her lol
good luck, now stop the one night stands lol
2006-08-16 05:52:25 · answer #9 · answered by Bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it! If it's not against the law, the seven year age difference is no big deal.
2006-08-16 05:47:55 · answer #10 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋