I think that I've met my soulmate. Problem is I messed up. I didn't trust him. Now he is mad at me and said some really harsh things to me. What should I do to fix it? Or can it be fixed? I really care for this guy.
2006-08-16 05:40:18 · 12 answers · asked by shawty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That depends. What was your reason for not trusting him? Why is he so defensive? If he got THAT upset there must be some guilt there that he is trying to lay on you.
I can tell you what will happen: He will make you feel guilty for not trusting him... you will do whatever you can to try to make it up to him..he will have you wrapped around his finger and will eventually continue whatever his behavior was that made you not trust him in the first place... Then he will continue to turn it around on you because it worked for him before.
I know how "Answers" works and I am not trying to get the "best answer" by telling you what you want to hear. I am just telling you from my own experience with men.. And I have quite a bit, been there done that.
Anyway, if I am way off base then offer up some more info so I can help. Okay?
2006-08-16 05:56:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the situation. How did you mess up? You say you didnt trust him, does that just mean you asked him some questions he didnt like or check up on him? If the answer is yes, then he has no reason to be upset with you. Everyone has some sort of trust issues when they start going out. It's only natural to do some "research" to feel secure. In response to him "saying harsh things to you" i would be looking on whether you want to be with this guy in the first place.
It can be fixed if you both talk about it and answer each others questions honestly. But it takes two people to make a relationship work and if you are having problems so early on it may be a sign that its not going to work out.
But obviously it depends on the circumstances of what actually happened.
2006-08-16 05:52:21 · answer #2 · answered by K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't trust him from the start then how do you think you can make it work past tomorrow? I'm not sure that you can fix it since its so early--he hasn't really had a chance to learn about the person you really are and is going to make decisions based on what he sees on the outside. I'd say you probably lost this one....but if you think you can fix it, the only thing you can do is fess up to your screw up and tell him you want another try.
2006-08-16 05:47:07 · answer #3 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1st, how old are ya? if your in your Teen's for get about it... if your in your later 20's-30's maybe think about it or ask him for a fresh start... Of course how did you mess up and why didn't you trust him yet faced with the loosing him you straightened up?
Its always said that one wants what they can have. Could this be the case with you and him?
2006-08-16 05:52:29 · answer #4 · answered by Scott 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well in the semi -center of my relationship, i looked through my mans phone and i confronted him about something. i didnt trust him (still dont) and he said some harsh things to me. so being that i love him dearly i apologized. and we made up!
2006-08-16 05:48:15 · answer #5 · answered by *+*sArAh*+* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he said some really harsh things to you don't bother staying with him becuase he will say something worst later down the line
2006-08-16 05:45:32 · answer #6 · answered by FRECKLES 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mistakes happen, especially when 2 people are new to each other. acknowledge that you messed up, and talk out why you each acted how you did. if you get to the bottom of it and understand each other, you'll be able to move forward.
2006-08-16 05:47:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE ON - drama kills all relationships, you should start nailing his freinds...
2006-08-16 05:54:39 · answer #8 · answered by nunofyobiznit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on
2006-08-16 05:47:06 · answer #9 · answered by xzhou11377 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can't always get what you want
2006-08-16 05:45:53 · answer #10 · answered by dannym7500 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋