It's not that it's too small.............but............if he can afford it, what would it hurt? Or could it hurt his feelings?
2006-08-16 05:32:43 · 49 answers · asked by ~2Sxy4u!~ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
~This is JUST a question, I am not SERIOUS..........why so angry!?
2006-08-16 05:57:20 · update #1
well, thats a toughie, we got some angry people on here.
you're just being honest.
well, i'm getting married in oct. and my ring is tiny because we cant afford it, we've been living together for almost 2 years now and i know i cant have a better ring for the time being. but i've talked to my fiance and when we get more financially stable he's getting me a nice ring that i really like.
so, my suggestion is to wait till he gets a raise or something then bring up the possibility of upgrading, people do it all the time, though you might want to wait till you're married first. it might be hurtful to trade in the engagement ring before you're even married.
2006-08-16 08:08:27 · answer #1 · answered by TN girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's rude and would hurt his feelings.
Just imagine all the time and thought he's put into finding what he thought was the perfect ring for you. Then, you turn around and ask him for an upgrade....
That's a huge slap in the face! It's like your telling him that its not good enough for you. Even if he had just bought you a ring with a little diamond that you need a microscope to see, you should be happy. He didn't need to get you a diamond ring. Although it is the norm, it's not a requirement when getting engaged.
How would you feel if the rolls were reversed?
Don't be selfish. A ring is just a stone and a piece of metal.
Wait until your 10 year anniversary and suggest that you "upgrade" all the rings. His too!!
2006-08-16 05:46:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know, I have a 1/2 carat white gold ring. If we became millionaires tomorrow, I would never swap out my ring for a bigger diamond or even a setting with diamonds in it (the one I have currenlty is engraved with an antique like design). He spent alot of time deciding on a diamond and I know it's silly, but I'm very attatched to it. I would never give it up. If I were your guy, I would be hurt. Even if he has the money, he can spend it elsewhere (like say towards the wedding itself) and do more good with it then buy you a bigger diamond. Sorry
Also, if you really really want to get a bigger diamond, why don't yo wait until liek you 10 year anniversary or something. So it's a special occasion and not just you seeming greedy.
2006-08-16 05:56:54 · answer #3 · answered by Phoenixsong 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure your fiance' went through a lot of trouble trying to find aring that would be both affordable and suitable for you, asking him to upgrade would just show that you are more interested in the ring itself, rather than the relationship and the love you have for one another, so yes, I do think it is rude...but ya never know, if you show him you love him...maybe after you are married, he will upgrade the ring...but that is not what it should be about.
2006-08-16 05:40:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
An "upgrade"??? Doesn't the ring itself mean anything to you? You can't upgrade something so precious! Someday maybe he will get you an anniversary ring... or something like that. But your engagement ring should be special as it is. Also... why spend money on something so frivilous at this point... save it for something you will need. A home or "upgrading" your home, further education, a honeymoon, or just keep that extra money in savings. Geeeezzz... an upgrade... I am going to bite my tongue for the rest of what I would like to say... mostly because you sound young or uneducated.
2006-08-16 06:16:45 · answer #5 · answered by trollunderthestairs 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HAHAHAHAHA - that's a good one! I would say wait until you've been married about 10 yrs. and then ask for an upgrade if you must.
Why didn't you pick out the ring of your dreams in the first place? And if he bought you the ring, maybe the best thing is to just treasure it and accept it as is.
There's a good chance u will hurt his feelings.
2006-08-16 06:05:18 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is very rude to ask for a better ring. He picked it out for you so obviously he thought you would like it and be happy. It's not the ring that counts it's what the ring stands for and that's his love for you! If you ask him it would hurt his feelings and do you really want to hurt the feelings of someone that you love?
2006-08-16 07:21:03 · answer #7 · answered by farmergyrl23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes It Would Be Rude. Be Glad That He Got You A Ring. Just Be Happy With The One He Got You.
2006-08-16 09:59:54 · answer #8 · answered by b_m_02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I'd exchange it for you, and get a new fiancee in the process. The size of the ring would only matter if material things were of a bigger interest to you than this man being your husband. I'm sure he put some thought into your ring when he purchased it and the thought behind the ring is more important than how big it is. Insulting? How about when you ask him, you ask him this way: "Sweety, can you bring back this piece of crap token of your love for me, and go and get me something bigger and more expensive, because I need to personally compensate for my own shortcomings, rather than look down at my finger and realize that you truly care for me?"
2006-08-16 05:40:37 · answer #9 · answered by illustrat_ed_designs 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES its rude cause even if he could afford it today will he be able to afford it tomorrow. Asking for an upgrade tells me a lot about you.
When he picked he picked it cause I thought that it was the perfect one for out of all the rings he chose that one. Your telling him that his pick was wrong.
OR you know what why don't you let him get you the bigger and better one. Your only going to get a cheap one for you wedding the one that counts or better yet you'll live with his family until he is done paying it off.
YOUR QUESTION IS RUDE AND SHALLOW AND I'M OFFENDED FOR HIM!!!! DAM I FEEL BAD FOR HIM. HE DOESN'T KNOW WHAT HE IS GETTING INTO. YOU NOT EVEN MARRIED AND LOOK AT YOU. YOU ALREADY MAKING IT DIFFICULT TO PLEASE.
2006-08-16 05:42:41 · answer #10 · answered by a_bug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋