2006-08-16 05:22:33 · 22 answers · asked by bibibi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
gives you a big hug! I know its not easy.... and only time can help the wound... but it really will heal...you need to try to distract yourself from thoughts of him, with your family, friends , job, and hobbies...make yourself a list of all his cons... and forget about any pros... sometimes we get so used to some one being there we think we are in love but to be in love... means that the object of your affections feels the same way and treats you with respect and love too.... every time you miss him, look at the list of cons to remind yourself of all the hurt he caused you while he was in your life....and that if he was still there it would not change..and remind yourself that you deserve better than that ! you deserve the best, some one that genuinely loves you and treats you right! it wasn't him... period... one day when you meet the right one you will be thankful that he left....in the mean time don't sit home dwelling on him and what you feel you have lost..get up , dust yourself off, and get back in life...find fun things to do that you couldn't do with him, make new friends if needed.. and spend time with them or old friends and family that know you and love you for you .... and most of all love yourself!
2006-08-16 05:41:41 · answer #1 · answered by Ms Fortune 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear your going through a tough time.
Best way to get over someone is to keep busy. I am sure there are things that you have wanted to do for yourself but never had the time. Now is your chance!
Time will heal, best thing to do is to remove all pictures/photos. Anything that will remind you of this person out of sight for now. Reaquaint with old friends/family and stay busy!
Most people rush from one relationship to another so I am not recommended you rush out to replace him. Go out have fun, if you meet someone take it really slow.
My Analogy "Butterfly" Analogy:
When you are in your relationship you are a caterpillar. You live your life and you are happy then if for some reason the relationship ends, you must be alone at first (cocoon stage). It is important to be alone at first to heal/learn/grow. Think of how you can be a better person for the next person that comes into your life. When you are ready to move on (hatch from your cocoon) you will be a more brilliant butterfly and then and only then you will be ready to be with someone again!
2006-08-16 12:32:17 · answer #2 · answered by Jeffrey S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best revenge is living well. The next time you see him make sure you are looking better than you ever have. Get a new hairstyle, outfit, work out, whatever. Even if you are not, pretend you are the happiest person on the planet and that you are thrilled to see him but totally over it. If he mentions the break up, blow it off that it was never a big deal. This will drive him totally nuts. It works every time.
2006-08-16 12:30:24 · answer #3 · answered by cathcoug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not sleep with someone else. You're just going to hate yourself for doing something stupid. You should respect yourself more than that. Just cry your eyes out and let your emotion flow for the first couple hours. Then take a deep breathe and tell yourself that you have to move on. Don't feel sorry for yourself anymore. There's other great guys out there for you. But for the mean time, be single! It's not the end of the world. Anyways, pick up the phone and call your girlfriends to catch up on single life.
2006-08-16 12:31:52 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It going to hurt for a long time. I am sorry about it. Sleeping with someone else is not the answer. Just try and find things to keep you busy. I am a male and have been through this several times. I wish you the very best. It will get better
2006-08-16 12:30:13 · answer #5 · answered by Lonely Pa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there are two solutions one is superficial just find a replacement weter it be physical or emotional it works for a while
secon you just have to take time and move on thats the hard way but it is really the only way that works
but for now if you just find a quick replacement youl feel better for a while
2006-08-16 12:30:16 · answer #6 · answered by David A. Geary 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said he didn't love you anymore, maybe he never loved you in the first place. You don't hurt people you love, even if you want out of the relationship. I have been married two times, when I left them, it wasn't because I didn't love them, but I hated what they had become.
2006-08-16 12:34:38 · answer #7 · answered by SANDRA J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go on with your life. stop dwelling on him. Take one day at a time and keep busy with friends or do some volunteering. Realize that he never did love you because true love doesn't just cut off like water. Find someone new who will treat you like the treasure you are.
2006-08-16 12:28:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are like me and wear your heart on your sleeve as far as this guy goes........ it isn't gonna be easy........ but you can........ just dive into your work, seek overtime hours....... go out with your girl/guy friends and don't call him no matter what you do. Not calling is the hardest for me.......... but you can do it and around the corner where you least expect it......... is your next love waiting to love you. Just look ahead and leave Mr....... he doesn't love you anymore..... behind. Someone in your future is dieing to meet you and love you. Blessed be..........
2006-08-16 12:29:52 · answer #9 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey i moved on had a baby and am getting married to someone else but I'm still not over it and it's been 2 years
2006-08-16 12:28:28 · answer #10 · answered by Kookie M 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋