Why is it ok for girls but not for guys??

Question

i split with my g/f 2 months ago, and i feel sometimes i should move on and other times i struggle to. She has obviously moved on since she has shagged 2 lads and had a relationship with one of them. The thing is we are still mates and she asks me if i have found anyone else and i say no but. Sometimes she says i should but as soon as i agree she gets totally jealous and runs away from the conversation, and to me it says she still has feelings and wants me???? If i ask her the same thing she chats about who she likes what she has been upto and to be honest it makes me jealous but i dont really say anythin. Can anyone tell me what this all means because its like im not allowed to move on or is it she still wants me???

Answer 1

God you're an idiot. She plays you like a violin. Get a life and move on.

Answer 2

Id advise avoiding her for a good while so you can get over her. She is seeing that you are still hurt and using it to her advantage, why should she shag around, and not let you do it?!
She wants to have her cake and eat it then s**t all over you! I've had simaller experiences, you can't continue to be mates with a girl like that after a relationship if you're the one who's hurting.
Take time out from her, see your real mates, get drunk, enjoy yourself (maybe even find someone else to shag!), but dont get stuck looking for another relationship, or get back with this slag!
You'll soon find that she probably wasnt worth all the heartache and crying, and might find being single for a bit quite refreshing!

Answer 3

She doesn't want you but she doesn't want anyone else to either.
She gets jealous because she can't bear to think that you would want anyone other than her, even though she doesn't want you herself (does that make sense?). I think to move on you need to cut all ties with her for the time being otherwise she will always get in the way of you having another relationship. If you can't do that, just steer clear of this particular conversation (easier said than done I know). Hope you find someone soon.

Answer 4

l think you are a decent person, with someone who knows this is the case.
l think that she likes this in you and thinks as you are 'mates' she can tell you anything, you are too polite to show that this does actually hurt a bit.
Why not be honest and let the little green monster loose...you will find out once and for all
if there is any hope for the both of you...l think you want this lady to like you...time to find out my friend, until then you will not have the strength to move on.....this is right though finish one thing before starting another.....any help?

ps you have a good chance as there seems an underlying trust in place...

Answer 5

Do not waste your time with people who are not truthful, who are mean, insecure and cause you agony. It will never end. Life is too short and there are MILLIONS of people out there who are sane and great to be around.

This girl isn't one of those sane and great people.

Drop her immediately from your cellphone, address book, speed dial and whereever else. Throw out everything that reminds you of her. Don't even stay mad at her; she's not worth the energy.

Start over. Be happy with you and grow stronger in confidence about yourself. Don't be afraid of a short period without a girl; it's better than waiting for her scraps.

In a short time, someone much better will come into your life. It's true; it happens all the time.

Answer 6

I've been through similar but it was my bf who was playing games like this. Best advice I can give is just to move on and not to be friends. I tried it and it didn't work. Plenty more fish in the sea and they do say that when one relationship ends the next one is usually better than the last. Good luck x

Answer 7

You are allowed to move on. Clearly she has. Of course she's going to be jealous of whoever takes her place, she's enjoying the fact that you aren't over her yet, it's great for her ego. You might want to get some distance from her and date other people. Being so close to her is getting in the way of moving on.

Answer 8

Besides women ALWAYS saying one thing and meaning another, she wants to have her cake and eat it too. She wants to "shag" lots of "lads" and also shag you (on occasion). Except she doesnt want you to "shag" other broads. My advice- do exactly what she is doing. Hook up with other girls, and she should be jealous like you were and she should stop if she wants you to stop. As of now it seems like you are wrapped around her finger b/c she can do whatever she wants and you still listen to her.

Answer 9

Attention seeker.Give her a cuddle!

You have on average 28 thousands days your life!

Waste your time with this mind game crap and you will wonder where all your time.If you love her ,just tell her,You want her back "TELL HER"

GAMES GAMES GAMES

end in tears

LISTEN TO " you got the love" by the source

so if you can get an answer.


and all that stuff you think means something doesnt!

how many days you gonna waste out of your given 28 thousand!
even more importantly

how many you got left !

kind regards man

Answer 10

This is a norm about a lot of people in general, they want to feel that they left some kind of impression where you feel that you can't do any better, but that is not the case here. She just doesn't want to be replaced, as in you finding someone else who may be better than her. Go head and do ya thang.

Answer 11

She might still have feelings for you but does not want to be open in case you do not feel the same way then she will feel hurt more. Otherwise whyelse would she want to know if u have a g/f. If I split with my b/f I do not give a rat's a*se what they are doing with their life.