If a guy is next to a girl he claims to like... love, for that matter... and he can't "come" when sexual activities are taking place (it takes him an extremely long time) could he possibly be gay? Or is it just normal for some guys to take infinite amounts of time to get there... I'm having some major doubts about the boyfriend's sexuality here, in this aspect.... respond, respond, respond, I need some advice!
2006-08-16 04:47:46 · 29 answers · asked by lilys.petal 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It may not be homosexuality. He could have a medical problem. I suggest he see a doctor for a check up.
2006-08-16 04:52:02 · answer #1 · answered by Brent 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey :o)
First off, don't panic. Just not being able to achieve orgasm alone doesn't mean he's gay. Have there been any other signs, such as him looking at homosexual porn websites or eyeing up other guys? If not, then don't worry!
When I first got with my boyfriend, he didn't come during vaginal or even oral sex - it began to really get me down. But, as we got closer he got more comfortable. Now we have a happy and active sex life, and he always achieves 'dizzy heights'! He might be nervous. Try to talk about his fantasies, maybe try acting them out, just try to create situations to help him along.
Some guys do just take longer than others to reach orgasm. I've known guys take between 5 minutes and an hour depending on the situation. Try scheduling is 'quickies' during lunch breaks or whatever - he might just be trying to delay ejaculation when he's with you for your pleasure.
Another potential option is a medial problem. Get him to take a trip to the doctors, he might have all number of little, treatable problems, or less likely a larger one that should be diagnosed early.
Don't worry too much hon, and feel free to e-mail me at alittlebitofnothing@hotmail.co.uk if you want to chat to someone who's been in the same boat :o)
Hope this helps
Emma
xXx
2006-08-16 12:03:10 · answer #2 · answered by Pebbles 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol I think your jumping to conclusions here. It could actually be many things. He could be nervous and just cant seem to relax when around you or he could have a medical issue. Either way you might want to talk to him about it in a very non offensive and mature manner. Bring it up next time, start by asking " is everything alright?" See where that takes you. You wont get the real answer/reason from us, but you definatly can from him.
2006-08-16 11:56:18 · answer #3 · answered by Visnja3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think that is grounds for being a homosexual. More like just a medical issue, if that. Enjoy it while you can cause most men do not take 'a long time'.
If you still think there is a problem, have him seek a doctor's advice and not the advice of people online. He may just be under a lot of stress or something of that nature.
2006-08-16 11:54:23 · answer #4 · answered by Big-Sister 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he is having sexual relations with a girl! Then hes not gay. If hes having sexual relations with a guy! Then he would be gay. But hes having sex with a girl so hes straight! Now the only problem he has is orgasim part- its simpley because the girl isnt doing everything possible to get him to ***. I suggest toys, dirty talk, new positions, porn etc And he will surely come faster. Of course some guys just take longer. Talk to your parnter- if you dont talk then he wont know theirs a problem. But hes not gay by any means.
2006-08-16 11:53:49 · answer #5 · answered by cats4ever2k1 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some men do take a long time before they "finish", but it also could be a problem. If he is not fully erect, it would take a while before he is done. He might want to go to the doctor just to make sure everything down there is okay. If it is, then he might want to try using a cock ring. It keeps a man erect, and therefore might reduce the time that it takes for him to "finish".
2006-08-16 11:55:27 · answer #6 · answered by Camille 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, maybe not depends on his situation. If he can c u m thinking or being with a guy then he is gay, but from my experience the guy could be nervous that he cant perform well, nervous someone will catch them, nervous he may c u m to quick, just a lot of nerves, could be guilt, on a serious note someone may have sexually abuse him in the past u NEVER know.
2006-08-16 11:53:47 · answer #7 · answered by funkygurll 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not gay.
Possible Causes:
He jerks off too much. Have him obstain a few days.
Medication. Paxil or some other anti depressant
Booze. There are 2 kinds of Whiskey dick. One where its limp and the other where it is erect but numb
Not enough foreplay.
Phsychological. He thinks he can't, so he thinks too much. This gets worse as time passes since the anxiety builds and results in a cause itself.
2006-08-16 12:03:33 · answer #8 · answered by scott_v1963 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe he does have disciplne in his coming skills and can go a long time. so are you complaining about it lasting too long. Now the other thought process could be he is cheating on you cause he has already dropped his load somewhere else so it takes longer to give you the next load or you don't say how old you are I know being 49 it can sometimes take awhile to get to the end result...hope this helps...
2006-08-16 11:55:44 · answer #9 · answered by samshel1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He doesn't have any problems. Maybe it might be a medical condition. I doubt that he is gay. I actually think that you should be kinda thankful that there is a guy that can go for that long!
2006-08-16 11:56:02 · answer #10 · answered by Jake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't think that he's gay at all. Some guys think that girls want it to last forever, when in fact, it's nice to know that we arouse them enough for them to c*m rather quickly, but not too quickly of course.
Have you mentionned to him that you are wondering why it takes him so long? Mention that after you've done your thing, he can feel when to do the same whenever...
2006-08-16 11:57:17 · answer #11 · answered by CC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋