Also, he doesn't want to be kissed on the cheeks when he leaves home, esp when his guy classmates are around. Is this part of puberty? Should I back off bec he says it ruins his "rep" (reputation) or cool image? He prefers his Dad who visits only during weekends.
2006-08-16 04:35:50 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have a 13 yo son and boy do I hear it!! He wants me to drop him at the corner so so he won't be seen by his flaky friends with his mommy. It's the age, get used to being an embarrasment in your childs life...in fact, have a little fun with it...shout his name at the band concert or soccer game, whatever, and then giggle as he melts into a puddle. I would avoid kissing him on the cheek, though. make a deal that he will kiss you goodnight every night and leave it at that. GL surviving the teenage years!!!
2006-08-16 05:26:10 · answer #1 · answered by TotallylovesTodd! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's his age. You'll get the hugs and kisses again in a few years, so accept it for now. He wants and needs to begin establishing himself as a person separate from you. He already has a little distance from dad. Respect the boundaries he is putting up for now, while letting him know you are still there when he needs you. And, very important, you are still the major authority figure in his life. As far as picking him up at school, are there any reasonable, safe alternatives? You need to find ways to let your son be autonomous and take care of himself. If he can manage to get himself home from school, let him do this. He should also have household responsibilities when he does get home. The more he can begin to do for himself, the better. Don't take any of this personally. It has nothing to do with you and everything to do with the process of growing up, transforming from being a dependent child to being an independent adult.
2006-08-16 04:49:57 · answer #2 · answered by just♪wondering 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, If he doesn't enjoy getting a ride from a caring mother maybe he could take the bus to and from school. As far as the kisses on the cheeks, save that for at home. Unless it's absolutely necessary to do it in public. At that age, I can't imagine the criticsm he would get from his peers. Save him his anguish from the peers by keeping it private. Don't forget he will always be your little boy, but he's growing up now.
2006-08-16 04:47:31 · answer #3 · answered by a.kranz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly did you like to be picked up from school when you were his age, did you like to be kissed in front of your friends? the answer is most likely not. give him some space and some trust. but remeber trust is good to check up is better. tell him you are gonna back off but you will be checking in on him every once in a while without a warning. that should solve your problem. And you still have some control
2006-08-16 20:08:46 · answer #4 · answered by purple butterfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, junior high rings a bell to me. The word embarrassed perfectly goes along with it.
However, I knew this girl whose parents used to do that and everyone thought of her as an outsider. He is correct about reputation. So, my teacher asked me about why my fellow students are behaving like that towards her.
Good Luck with that one though :)
2006-08-16 04:51:59 · answer #5 · answered by piercing integrity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should back off and stop babying him! If he's in junior high, he's at least 12 years old! Your going to seriously make that kids social life a living hell if you don't stop embarassing him in front of his friends. Kids are mean.
2006-08-16 04:48:13 · answer #6 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't he just take the bus? And yes, you should back off- respect your son's needs. It is not like he is asking you if you can buy him a six pack- he just doesn't want any mom pda in from of his buds. Very understandable.
2006-08-16 04:44:19 · answer #7 · answered by korbbec 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is embarassing to teens for their parents to kiss them in front of their friends. It probably is "uncool" for you to pick him up, or fetch him, as you say, from school. Let him ride the bus or ride home with friends.
Good luck!
2006-08-16 04:41:24 · answer #8 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it he just wants to be more independent. Every boy goes threw that.
2006-08-16 05:31:21 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really doesn't affect 'repution' much in my experience,
but everyone is different.
He might just be trying to grow up too fast and detach himself from you.
2006-08-16 04:42:04 · answer #10 · answered by fallingstar3796 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋