How often is it normal for a 25 year old guy to talk to his mom?

Question

My 25 year old boyfriend talks to his mother every day...usually at least 3-5 times, sometimes more. She completely runs his life and often interferes in our relationship...it drives me crazy! She will not let him grow up. Is this normal, for a guy to talk to his mom that much???

Oh, have I mentioned that sometimes it is during dinners, whatever...he ALWAYS answers the phone when she calls...something I find rude and very disrespectful to me...

Answers...yes, he is the baby of three...two older sisters who both live within an hour of their parents, and he lives in another state. ntil about 2 months ago, she was still managing his finances, everything! She totally controls him, it is ridiculous. I see nothing wrong with being close to your family, but this all seems a little much to me. After putting up with it for a year, I don't know if I can do it for a lifetime...I can see this woman trying to tell me how to raise my kids, how to run my life...

Answer 1

Nearly every convicted serial killer has had an unusual relationship with his mother. This is fact.

70% of serial killers are also bedwetters. There may be your answer.

Answer 2

Mama's Boy? Sounds like it. Not generally normal unless your pushing psycho or insecure.

She might be a control freak, keep that in mind.

You sure there's nothing Freudian going on there?

I'd find a different guy. His mom is going to be a problem long term if you know what I mean. You need a man that's independant. You don't want to battle "mom" for control of the family.

Oh well have fun.

Answer 3

Okay it may be normal for him just not you. You don't know the complexity of the relationship that he has with his mother. You don't know everything about him so you don't know about everything they have gone through in life. Maybe they just have closeness that you don't understand. I'm 30 and I talk to my mother about 5 times a day everyday and she only lives blocks from me and I have a Child of my own too. I'm female, but should the love that you have for your parent be limited because of your sex. If he doesn't have a problem with it then you need to stay out of it. If you can't handle it move on, because it's not likely to help you in anyway to be offended by the mother who he holds so dear.

Answer 4

Not normal. That sounds like an unhealthy relationship. After I moved out of the house (at 18 to go to college), I never called my mom more than once a week. We live on different continents now and we still talk about once a week.

Answer 5

Do want to deal with this for years to come? I suggest u end it now! He is obviously a momma's boy. If he was just chatting with his mom, ok, but she's butting in ur relationship, NO WAY. can u imagine what kind of husband he'll be?! Hit the skids babe! I would atleast tell him that this bothers u, which may backfire, but he will either change,or stay the same, make ur decision off that.

Answer 6

Its not like every guy or girl does it but when and if they do I wouldn't say its abnormal. There is a difference though - if a guy speaks to his mom that much but isn't letting it interfere with your relationship then that is fine. If she is ruining your relationship meaning she dislikes you and is swaying his decision in being with you it will never work, trust me. I went through the same thing. But if he just speaks to her 3 times a day and he doesn't allow his mom to control his life, you are good to go.

Answer 7

I would say that's a bit much. Does she live far away or is he an only chid,only son ,the "baby"? I had a boyfriend then husband who was like that.notice I said had. I am married again and my husband is close to his mom and they have a good relationship that is healthy.he would never let her interfere in our relationship and I really don't think she would want to.

Answer 8

no it its not normal and it probably will never change. i am 27, and when i was young i was a momma's boy. we now live in different states and are very close. we talk on the phone maybe 2 times a week for 5-10 minutes each time. NOT NORMAL!!

Answer 9

It sounds like from the movie "Monster-In-Law" if you seen it. You have to talk to your boyrfriend on limiting down the number of times they call each other...I mean HE'S 25 WITH A GIRLFRIEND! He should be making his own life without his mom by his side all the time. So you should talk to him, tell him how you feel, and if the problem persists, just talk to his mom. I'm sure she'll understand, hopefully...Good luck.

Answer 10

i think about every other day is plenty, and thats a lot!!!

i'm a 23 year old woman and i talk to my mom every 2 or 3 days, and i visit her about every 2 weeks, i only live an hour away.

sometimes my fiance goes a week without talking to his mom, and sometimes he talks to her several days in a row. but it's totally not normal to talk several times a day just to be talking.

you should have a talk with him.

Answer 11

No. This is NOT a good thing. Either 1) he doesn't want to grow up himself, i.e. make his own decisions without consulting her, or 2) his mother doesn't want him to grow up, and he is too scared of her to tell her not to call so much. Either way, this is unfortunately something that is out of your control, and you either have to learn to deal with it, or get out of the relationship. He will have to resolve #1 or #2 on his own. But if your relationship is strong enough, he will wake up and realize that your relationship is suffering over this. I hope it works out for you!