My EX and i broke up about a week ago, lastnight he came to me and asked if i thaught that it would be ok to stay as room mates, and have sex everyone in a while. I am still in love wtih him (we where together for 2 years) BUT i don't know if i would be able to handle it... i may just ever want to leave... We do better as 'friends' then lovers
2006-08-16 04:25:40 · 35 answers · asked by sexy momma 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-08-16 04:30:04 · answer #1 · answered by American citizen and taxpayer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...friends with benefits. Sorry, but it doesn't work. Sure, it could work for one of you (him), but doesn't sound like it is going to work for you. If you still live together and have sex, it will give you the illusion that you are still together, which you're not. The reality will sink in when he starts to date and you get jealous and it feels like he's cheating on you. Don't have sex with him. That boat sailed when you two broke up. Best not to live with him either, if you can afford it. You may still be able to be friends, but after a 2 year relationship, having some distance between you two for a couple of months will help you heal and move on from the break up. Then you can try the friend thing.
2006-08-16 04:38:33 · answer #2 · answered by bigchin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you can decide that! You've only been apart a week, you say you still love him...and yet one wonders if he is taking advantage of you. He doesn't want to be your permanent lover, just a roommate and sex object when he gets horny? Does he want to have other lovers on the side? If so, that is NOT a good situation, particularly in these dangerous (STD) times. Maybe you can get back to your previous loving relationship with a little time. People do break up and get together again...sometimes to live happily the rest of their lives...but there are some troubling signs in what you have said. Think about it a lot before accepting him back...basically it is yours and only yours to decide! Good luck!
2006-08-16 04:36:46 · answer #3 · answered by doctor feelgood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No hunny, dont let him disrespect you in that way. I know you still love him and a part of you probably wants to get him back thinking this could be a way... but its not worth it. Above all, why would you want to. At this point he is just using you for a) sex and b) rent. My best suggestion right now is for you to distance yourself away from him. So move out and move on. It'll be difficult since its a change, but its for the best. If you stay together like this you'll probably just end up getting hurt in the end.
2006-08-16 04:38:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the sex is just enjoying each other's bodies, there nothing wrong with that. There is some familiarity there.
However since you're still "in love" with him, then it probably isn't the best idea. If you're truly broken up, then it's probably best to get away and work on yourself, and get over him.
If you did end up being **** buddies, how would you feel when he starts seeing someone else? Or just brings someone home (where you live as well)?
If you want to remain friends then remain friends, but adding inimacy to a friendship always get complicated when emotions get involved.
2006-08-16 04:34:19 · answer #5 · answered by -J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY!!! Are you crazy?! You're "exed" for a reason or reasons. Once it's over you have to separate, break all ties. Maybe later on you can be friends, but you can't keep living together and having sex. You're just gonna get your heart ripped to pieces. Just take some time apart, then work on a friendship and nothing else. Please!
2006-08-16 04:32:48 · answer #6 · answered by Amy S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make sue he knowes u are friends now not ex and u are room mates,That means no sex and half the rent but u still can be friends.Mabe sometime sex may it u with him but make it far and between.
2006-08-16 04:33:38 · answer #7 · answered by gxsilver1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all staying together and having sex sounds to me like he wants a live in girlfriend and the freedon to go with other girls too. he is taking advantage of the fact that u r in love with him. if u dont wnat to be used then say no. cause all he is doing is using u.
2006-08-16 04:31:54 · answer #8 · answered by in ur face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you just need someone to F**** you, then it's ok. If you are hoping for the guy to love you because you can provide sex to him, forget the guy. Get a new one that's really love you not the sex that you provide.
2006-08-16 04:47:25 · answer #9 · answered by CM C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't keep sleeping with him -- he loses respect for you that way and you will not get the relationship back again. He's an ex for a reason, let him go and end the contact.
2006-08-16 04:29:28 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋