I took a picture of myself today and I looked at it. I can't believe how extremely ugly & fat I am. Why is this world so fixated on looks? I don't believe in god but I feel like I'm being punished by life. Maybe I deserve to be. I'm not the greatest person in the world but I can't do anything anymore because I'm afraid to go outside. People will judge me! I just want to stay in bed and cry all day. Why do I have to be ugly?! Why do I deserve this?! I'm going to be a virgin forever because nobody even wants to be seen with me! I feel like I can't act seriously because people will just find it funny that someone so ugly & fat such as myself has problems just like the rest of the world. I want to diet but it's useless, I have tried but nothing works. I'm stuck like this forever and it pains me everyday. I can't deal with anymore. I don't even want to live anymore because everyday is pain for me! It's eating me inside like cancer and one day I feel like I'm just going to crack. :-(
2006-08-16 04:17:48 · 27 answers · asked by Amy Lynn L 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Sounds like ur seriously depressed you should really see ur doctor about this.
2006-08-16 04:23:26 · answer #1 · answered by trudi w 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
i hear this alot from alot of young people they want a certain image and they can't get there i been there myself and let me tell you i don't pay close attention to what others say you sound beautiful i bet if you take another good look you will see it if you are a good person inside that should make a world a differance smile you are not alone there are others who feel the same and i bet you are not as bad as you think you are in weight and i don't believe there is no such kind of people as ugly i don't believe in ugly so be happy young one we are all made differant in every way short, tall, skinny, plump lots of freckles, white,black and other colors some are plain and some are beautiful we are just as good no matter what we look like on the outside remember this my friend beauty is in the eyes of the beholder
2006-08-16 07:03:50 · answer #2 · answered by julie m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I bet you're not ugly. If you're concerned about your weight, just try to make healthier choices. Excersize half an hour every day. Take care of yourself. That's all that matters.
I used to be REALLY self concious. Some things I did:
I started eating healthier. I took off some weight AND I felt better even before i lost weight.
I remembered that there ARE things about me that're beautiful, even if on some days I thought it was just my personailty. I remembered I had friends who loved me and that any guy who didn't like me for who I was wasn't worth my time.
I got cool clothes XD that makes you feel a lot better.
I don't know why society is so obsessed with looks these days. I guess that's what's on TV and stuff. It's really unfortunate. Just stick it out and remember that each person is great in their own way.
2006-08-16 04:27:16 · answer #3 · answered by :) 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have so many things to say that I don't know where to start. I am sorry that you are so depressed. I know how you feel, and I think that I can help. It is your bussiness that you don't believe in God, but I do, and God is not punishing you. If they are No REAL God - then how could he punish you? God made us the way we are. He must have saw beauty in you or he wouldn't have made you. Yes, I know people judge you, but honey they are going to judge you no mater what you look like! Some people love to be mean for some stupid reason! You just be you and let God worry about the rest. Maybe you would feel beter if you tried to believe in God. Maybe you could start by reading a Bible. I saw once that a lady started a diet by reading her Bible every time she felt hungy - but didn't need to eat, she would read it and forget all about being hungry. Also, If you want to lose weight, you can write down your eating habits and every day cut out just one thing - or one eating time. That's what I done and it sure helped me. Also I cut out soda. Just take little steps - you soon will start feeling better about yourself. What ever you do - don't lay in bed and cry - get up - go some where - do something! You are some body too! God don't make no trash! The devil wants you to feel depressed and like you are worthless, but don't listen to him. Don't let him steal your happiness. You deserve to be happy! May God bless you! I will be praying for you!
2006-08-16 04:42:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
Honey I know exactly how you feel when I was 17-18 years old I had the exact same problem,I am 5' 2" and a little overweight and I too used to think that I was the ugliest thing that ever walked this planet, but you know what darling when I joined med school I saw this senior of mine, she is tiny, 4'11" I think and her features are just average, but you should look at her, her face glows with confidence and brightness, she is the sweetest thing on the block always a pleasure to talk to, and she is such a delight to watch, sure there are a number of taller and prettier and thinner girls in my college, but she has magnetism and that sweet heart comes from within, she is the hottest thing in the college campus, and you can easily guess why, beauty has got nothing to do with height and weight and complexion and the crap,when you are happy with yourself, content with your life and have good thoughts it shows and makes you glow, so baby get over the "I am so ugly" thoughts, now, you dont want to wake up one morning and realize how you wasted away life's golden moments fretting over your looks, best of luck.
2006-08-16 04:39:00 · answer #5 · answered by virgodoll 4 · 8⤊ 0⤋
What you have described is Self Hate.
You look in the mirror and see a horrible person - But this person isn't horrible, not ugly or fat.
You feel you have no friends - This isn't true, you have friends which like you very much but because you are thinking you have no friends you don't go out with them - this making the problem even worse in you thinking this.
you feel like you are being punished in life - You are punishing yourself, you shouldn't be, you are a fantastic person. People do want to be seen with you - but you wont go out so they cant be seen with you. People do take these things seriously and don't find it funny.
People care when your unhappy, they want to help but you shut them out, they leave you alone then the self hate starts all over again. I'm fat, I'm ugly etc
I think you are also agoraphobic. you don't go out because your scared of what people think about you. you need to talk to someone. call a counselor. they are their to help, wont judge you, They do understand and you will realize you can overcome this.
Take care
2006-08-16 07:23:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
My dear who says you are ugly. Those are ugly who say you so.
Please remember that a person is known more by the thoughts and less by the appearance. So please don't think in a negative way. Think in a positive way. Think that this is the opportunity for you. You exercise and get utmost skill that will lead the world to see you, meet you and like you.
You keep busy in serving those who really need and love those who desire. Be a mother of such innocent children instead of wasting your life in sorrow. Now nobody will curse you, trouble or divorce. You will be mother of all. Isn't it pleasent?
Eventhough you don't believe thank God to create such an opportunity.
2006-08-16 05:16:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Ditto. But I got over it. The beauty is somewhere inside you which someone will discover in the future. Unfortunately this world is nuts and everyone worships beauty. There are good hearted people that they don't mind hanging out with ugly people, but they might concern they'll be seen by their friends or other people will comment them. However they don't hate you.
There are few things you can do:
1. go diet--everyone can be healthy and thin, you just have to do it right, I lost weight without harming myself, physically and mentally
2. mind game--look in the mirror and see the good side of yourself, believe there are millions of people out there look worse then you
3. develop yourself--be active and positive to construct your life, like going to gym or take courses to educate yourself
Feel better.
2006-08-16 04:36:53 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Get a grip on yourself. What you are suffering from is low self esteem. You have to start believing that you are as worthy as anyone one else, and you are. God put you on this earth for a reason, and God is all good, so it isn't punishment that you exist.Start loving yourself and others will love you also. Thre will always be people in the world who makes funs at others, you just have to shrug it off, and go on about the busineess of living your life.
2006-08-16 04:27:53 · answer #9 · answered by WC 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you definitely have a serious case of Depression going on right now. When you are that depressed it is VERY difficult to see things as they really are - the depression darkens EVERYTHING.
If I had a friend in your position I would press them very very hard to see a counselor as soon as possible. A counselor can give you an accurate evaluation and start you on anti-depressants if they feel this would work for you.
Please consider doing this. It is worth it. YOU are worth it.
Take care.
2006-08-16 04:26:35 · answer #10 · answered by Carbon-based 5 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Please don't say that kind of stuff. I bet you're a wonderful person!
Do you have friends? I'm sure you do. Your friends love you and care for you because of who you are.
Seriously, I felt like you before I started Weight Watchers. In my first week alone, I lost 3 pounds. The following week... another 3. I didn't feel deprived or ANYTHING. I could even eat cake on the diet!
In 3 weeks, I lost 7 pounds. I'm on my way to lose 50 pounds... and I'm bound and determined to do it.
Feel free to write me through my profile. I'll gladly chat with you!
Hugs!!!!!!!!
2006-08-16 04:25:21 · answer #11 · answered by Rock Goddess 3 · 8⤊ 0⤋