My girlfriend just broke with me because she said she needs space. our friends tell me too move on, but i dont want to. she tells me in the future we might be able to get back together she just needs time. she also told me i should prepair for everything. one of her best friends told me that she said shes confused because everytime we had a problem her old boyfriend was there for her. i have no idea what to do.she tells me that she loves me still and that im the only one for her shes just confused. i need her back into my life. she was everything to me. please help!
2006-08-16 04:16:53 · 15 answers · asked by teamo1224430 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give her the space she needs - the more you crowd her the more she'll want to break away from you. If you BOTH take some time and space to reassess what it is you want - remember that a relationship only works when 2 people want it to. Be single for a while, have some fun, relish the freedom, try and work on YOU being happy. This new happy positive person may just help remind her what she fell in love with originally. Don't turn into the over zealous, suffocating, in-ya-face ex - you'll scare her off even quicker. It may work, it may not. You can still have her in your life as a friend - maybe things will re-blossom in years to come, maybe they won't, but...
The desperation in 'needing' her isn't healthy and generally won't make for a good relationship. Don't let the Ex be an issue - it isn't worth it. So what if he's always there - if she wanted to be with him - she would be - and there would be nothing you could do about it - but it's unlikely to happen anyway - no doubt there's a good reason that he's an Ex. Personally, I find an Ex a really good person to use as a sounding board or a shoulder to cry on because they know you really well and can give you an honest answer sometimes that other 'friends' may not be prepared to give - it doesn't mean you're going to jump into bed with them - also, remember jealousy is the least attractive trait anyone can have!!!
Be happy, be smart, give her space - if it's meant to be it will be, if it's not - you will find someone else with whom it will be right and you'll wonder why you were ever fretting this much anyway.
2006-08-16 04:33:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i think the worst possible thing you can do right now is pester her with phone calls, text messages, emails, etc. leave it alone, for the time being. give her the space that she's asking for. only see her when you can't avoid it, like at school, church, or whatever. wait for a couple of weeks, a month tops, and then you can consider asking her, in person, i might add, where you stand in the relationship. explain to her that you'd really like to be able to make it work, tell her what your true feelings are...no bullsh*t, straight up real. at that point, she won't be able to beat around the bush anymore. dont let her get away without saying yes or no. also, to tip the cards in your favor, i suggest leaving a single rose in her locker, with a note, unsigned, or signed you know who. leave little love notes, not desperate letters or anything, just let her know that you are thinking about her and that you want her to be a part of your life. other than that, i dont think there's much you can do. good luck! i hope it works out.
2006-08-16 04:24:21 · answer #2 · answered by begeeman13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her the space she needs to make a decision. Though the part of the ex bf is a tad worrysome non the less. Tempt us not into temptation because we may fall into it! Stay neutral and calm down. I think whats happening here is shes having to choose between both of yall and not wanting to admit it to you. Whatever she decides its her desision. But doesnt mean you cant send her flowers!
2006-08-16 04:23:12 · answer #3 · answered by cats4ever2k1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she broke up w u because she needed space, that means that she is no longer interested. you need to move on and find a girl that feels the same way about you as you do her. cut your losses.
2006-08-16 04:22:13 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants her old boyfriend he was always there for her. Sounds like a song Ive heard before. Shes history If she really wanted to be with you she would have chose you so she didn't and its over.
2006-08-16 04:21:43 · answer #5 · answered by Connie f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start slowly and work your way back this happened with the best Boyfriend i ever had i finaly got him on the last day of school at the end of the year dance....Ohhhhhh if you wanna talk about it mor email me At Tomboylrg@yahoo.com
2006-08-16 04:24:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is using you. Believe me I have been there and done that. Eventually they go back to their ex or find someone other than you. Don't be a fool like me. It's better to hurt now than latter.
2006-08-16 04:24:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her the space that she needs and keep in contact with her too so she still knows that you love her.
2006-08-16 04:30:04 · answer #8 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just be paitient and wait for her if she says that she still loves you, but just be calling her and checking up on her to make sure that she is okay. You know?
2006-08-16 04:22:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her the space she needs. if she loves you like she says, she will come back to u on her own but don't rush it.
2006-08-16 04:22:04 · answer #10 · answered by mathu9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋