He treats me well but his phone rings off the hook, Although we live together, I can't stand it. Am I being a too insecure?
2006-08-16 04:16:09 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My suggestion- you answer the phone. Once these girls get the hint that you're always there and not going away, they'll figure it out. Your guy is having these conversations in front of you, right?
Because you can tell from his end of the conversation whether it's a friendly or romantic call.
If you're feeling insecure, you need to talk about it with HIM, not with strangers on Yahoo. He's the only one that can fix this, not us.
But to offer advice- my guy has a lot of female friends- he's still friends with all his ex's. And I have a lot of male friends. But we've agreed to be together, we're not looking to trade up. Once you've got that part down, then the rest is just details.
2006-08-17 15:13:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe yes, maybe no......Did he have all these (girl) friends when you two first got together or moved in together? If he did then sounds to me like he may be the same person who you first fell in love with. You need to remind yourself of that.
If this is a new thing talk to him about it. let him know that it bothers you. There is no way for him to know this unless you tell him.
I don't know what kind of person your man is but if you really love him you should trust him. Ask yourself how long have you been together. Has he ever crossed the line between friends and girlfriend before. Some men are just really social people. I know when I was a little younger, most of my friends were male. My boyfriends didn't like it much but there is a line that should not be crossed.
Follow your heart and listen to your instinct. Maybe they are nothing more than just friends. But I really think a heart to heart conversation would help. If he really loves you he will take your feelings into consideration.
2006-08-16 04:28:29 · answer #2 · answered by lisaquinn9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be jealous. But you can't tell a man who to be friends with. I should say, try to make the majority of your friends males and let them call your phone off the hook. Let see if that's ok with him. If not, then you have a reason to discuss this issue with him. If not, go to step two. Are they really his friends or friends with benefits?
That will be hard to figure out, but if he's cheating on you, this guy will fall one day. Then you go to step three. Leave.
2006-08-16 04:24:58 · answer #3 · answered by Natalie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Is he being secretive about the calls (as in, leaves the room before engaging in conversation)? Is he dishonest about who is calling? Do the women who call hang up if you answer the phone? Does he routinely make plans with these women that don't include you? If you answered "yes" to at least two of these questions, he's probably cheating on you. If that's the case, you should confront him about it. If he refuses to change his ways, you need a new man.
2006-08-16 04:24:55 · answer #4 · answered by D'archangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Do you know any of the women that are calling? If you do, then I would say that there may be an insecurity problem. If he loves you, and you him, and most importantly treats you well, then thre should not be a problem. I have a few friends that are female, (Marie) knows them and Marie has a few friends that are male, and I know them. Do not forget this term...TRUST!
2006-08-16 04:57:19 · answer #5 · answered by TYR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are , most of my friends are girls, and the friends of my girlfriends are guys doesn't mean that either of us are cheating if he truly loves you he won't cheat but maybe bring it up with him but don't force him because most of these girls could have been his friend longer then you've been going out. What i would do and i do it is get all your male friends and all his female friends together and go to the beach or go have a good time all together you never know some of your friends my start dating some of his friends it happens so i wish you good luck
2006-08-16 04:29:05 · answer #6 · answered by gerry d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Naaaaa.... he's using you. You should tell him how you feel.
I'm a guy and I'll be Pi$$ if the girl I'm living with is getting phone calls all the time from guy friends.
2006-08-16 04:20:44 · answer #7 · answered by MrSushiRoll 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you r not being 2 insecure. your intuition tells you the truth, and if you 2 are living together and he is doing this i can only wonder what is really going on with him and the other girls!! tap his phone!! read his texts!!
2006-08-16 04:21:07 · answer #8 · answered by Kevin H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really, it's normal just don't let it interfere with your relationship. Talk to him about it and ask him if it's possible that his (girl) friends limit the calling to a certain time or only when absolutely necessary.
2006-08-16 04:21:33 · answer #9 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's possible that you are insecure...but you also may not be...my bf has majority female friends also...it was like that before we got together...if they are friends of his then make them friends of yours......i have several close friends now thanks to my bf....we even have gone out together as a group and they all respect me as his gf...if he has a problem with it then he's the jerk and you are right to feel insecure
2006-08-16 04:24:25 · answer #10 · answered by Honey Dip 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋