...Or am i just plain crazy?
2006-08-16 04:11:39 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Obviously there are some issues at home and things are not all roses there else you wouldnt consider it.
First off : Why is this person `better` than your spouse ? If you cannot honestly answer that one then leave well alone.
Secondly : How would you feel if your wife did the same thing ?
You need to consider everyone else here - Your work `friend`... say you start off a relationship then decide that you want your wife. How would she feel ?
Speak to the co-worker and find out how she feels but curb those emotions. If you decide to give it a try with her you need to end your current relationship. Its only fair and right.
As to how - go on a working lunch with her and ask her about her life and loves... You may get a shock and find you simply are nothing more than a person she speaks to at work... then again she may say she has feelings...
You have a rough time ahead mate - good luck !
2006-08-16 04:16:16 · answer #1 · answered by Ade 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are just plain crazy. This is a test that shows how much you love your wife. And I think that you don't love her that much, becuase you have been thinking about going with another woman.
Listen....this is one woman who you are attracted to. In your whole lifetime, there will be more of these women walking around to do the same to you. That's what they do, these damn women. Are you going to pursue each one of them while you are married?? That means that you don't respect your wife and your marriage vows. You shouldn't have gotten married if so. You would be single now and sleep with anyone you feel attracted to and no one can say anything about that.
2006-08-16 04:20:12 · answer #2 · answered by Natalie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your planning on ending your marriage or are not satisfied at home and think you can find it in this co-worker then I guess go for it. Other then that you are just plain crazy
2006-08-16 04:17:22 · answer #3 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT say anything to your co-worker. Think long and hard about your marriage and how you feel about your wife. If you want to stay in your marriage make a commitment to do so. If not get out of it as kindly as possible. Do NOT tell your wife about your feelings about your co-worker, it will only hurt her and will serve no purpose.
2006-08-16 04:21:41 · answer #4 · answered by i have no idea 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There will probably be a lot of women that you are going to be attracted to. I would just keep it to myself because you are married. Afterall, you do love your wife right? Just because you are attracted to her does not mean that you will love her. No one can replace the love you feel for your wife. If you told the co-worker you will most likely jeopardise your marriage and your job.
2006-08-16 04:19:54 · answer #5 · answered by rkb12584 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm currently involved witha 27 yr old married co-worker of mine and I don't suggest getting involved. It's not worth ruining your marriage over a co-worker, if things don't work out it will awkward at work and you don't want to have to quit your job as well.
2006-08-16 04:18:00 · answer #6 · answered by QTpie414 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell ya what, sleep with the person, so the rest of the office has more interesting gossip to talk about behind your backs.
Also, when you dump this person, and then they become your boss, or start sleeping with your boss, you'll never get anywhere in your career.
Also, when your spouse finds out and your family falls apart, you'll be so much happier for being a weiny and not living up to your commitments.
Coward.
2006-08-16 04:17:06 · answer #7 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im a guy and you need to stay with your marriage it cost lots these days to get divorce and i don't think its right to get divorced because you have feelings for another women. you need to fix this now before it gets worse. You should approach this women and explain to her you have feelings for her but you also need to tell her your married because if she knows your a married man a real women will stay away and leave you alone, plus us guys need our space so would you wanna be seeing this girl 24/7 it justs doesn't work out and if you did start seeing this girl and something happen would you wanna be working with her its crazy man dod what a real man would do
2006-08-16 04:21:02 · answer #8 · answered by gerry d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Should you tell her? NO. You're married. If a man has a wife he should be faithful. In your case, probably grateful as well. Office romances aren't a good idea to begin with. And cheating on your wife is never acceptable.
2006-08-16 04:19:35 · answer #9 · answered by TechnoRat60 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure you can tell her. Also tell her that you're married and you LOVE your wife. Maybe you should tell your wife as well. Once you have all that out of the way, perhaps you can concentrate on your morals, responsibility, and your marriage vows!
2006-08-16 04:19:30 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋