Met this guy 7 months ago. He asked me out initially but I found out he was seeing someone else like 700km away. I was ofcourse crushed to say the least, because by then I had fallen for him & really wanted to date him. He claims to be inlove with me too, but says he cant leave his gal-so I refused to build my happiness on another woman's misery. I decided we cauld still be friends but I guess that wasn't a very wise decision, as I soon came to realize. "Cut long story short", I recently decided to end our 6 months friendship because its really hard for me to stay just friends with him when Im sooo inlove with him. He took it really hard but its the only sane way out for me from this situation: Now Im not so sure I made the rite choice- Ill really miss him- hs's really not a bad sort. Wat do u think?
2006-08-16 03:58:59 · 66 answers · asked by Luvy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you have done the right thing. It does take time to get over someone, start going out and having a good time and you will meet the right person soon.
2006-08-16 04:01:56 · answer #1 · answered by sarah_roo03 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey hun, You did make the right choice. "Snaps for you." You are a very un-selfish person for ending your friendship with the guy your heart goes out too. It's hard to do that, If I were you I probably would have tagged along and been heart-broken everyday throughout my friendship w/ him and I probably would have ended up kissing him or something stupid and confusing him even more. Us women we're so complicated--that's why God created us lol. I wish you the best--and think that you are a very strong person for standing up for your inner-self and even though you hurt for ending the friendship--it's only gonna make you stronger--good luck
ps. If for some reason in the next several weeks you still feel the same way about him--try telling him how you feel --and if that doesn't work -screw him --you don't need him--he's only a needle in a haystack right?
2006-08-16 04:06:14 · answer #2 · answered by Got Jesus? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Luvie
You made the right decision! You didn't let your heart but your head rule and that was a very difficult and painful thing to do.
Personally i don't believe in keeping any friendship after anyone had such feelings for someone else. You torture yourself everytime you see him and deep down ... You still hope he might turn round, tell you that's it! He's dumped the girl and here he is ... Yours for the taking. Please don't fall into that trap.
He may be a decent person but think ... How he still asked you out when dating someone else ... How do you know that he wouldn't do the same thing again if he went out with you?
Right now you miss him but it will get easier in time. And you will get over him, find someone who is not in a relationship and will be there for you, be loyal to you!
So my advice is ... Don't regret what you did! And when it comes to missing him ... Just go out with your friends, enjoy yourself and you'll see ... He'll soon become a very distant memory.
Best wishes
2006-08-16 04:34:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, you did the right thing. The feeling is still there because the "friendship breakup" is just new. Just think of this: if he can be inlove with you while he still have a girlfriend, it only means he is capable of loving another woman if you became his partner in the long run.
If he can cheat to his girlfriend now, he can cheat to you also...
The feelings will fade if you stop seeing him and stop remembering him... It will take some time and it is quite hard to do, but you will recover and find someone more deserving and can be faithful to you.
Hope you will find him soon.
2006-08-16 04:34:16 · answer #4 · answered by heaven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you absolutely did the right thing! Good for you.
Remember that he asked you out while he was dating someone else and being with two woman is not love. He obviously doesn't love that other girl either.... do you think she knows about you? This guy is a bit of a player... let him play with someone else's heart. Don't doubt your gut instinct. ever!!! you will heal and there will be an honorable nice guy who will love only you!! Just have patience, you sound like a great person and you deserve the same respect in return.
2006-08-16 04:12:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're a stand up person. I like it that you wouldn't stay with him because you don't want to cause misery to another, as a woman I thank you, but what about your misery? I saw this movie about a pilot who had three or four wives all in different states. When they all found out about each other he had no one. I think you made the right decision. How did you find out about the other woman? Did he tell you or you found out on your own? Maybe you should stay away from this gigolo.
2006-08-16 04:10:08 · answer #6 · answered by Elizabeth S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it was the right thing...
Because it is really hard to be friends with someone we love and care bout and not be able to hold, or touch them, or to have that relationship hurts like hell...And to talk to that guy all the time and act like its nothing hurts so much worse..
I know it's hard right now cause you feel you care bout him soooo much but girl let me just say you've done a lot more then what i could do.....
It hurts and to tell you the truth that's life so just try your best to keep your head high and maybe just maybe later on there will be a miracle you know***with either him or some other special guy...
2006-08-16 04:06:34 · answer #7 · answered by lovergirl86 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are very brave to do what you did, and yes i also think you've done the right thing. Try to move on and in time you will forget about him eventually (may take a while but it will happen). To get involved with someone who already is attached and says he can't leave her would be a bad idea, and you'd end up getting hurt. So, yes i think you have made the right decision and good for you for having the strength and guts to do it. x
2006-08-16 04:04:40 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You absolutely did the right thing. Sadly, more often than not, the right thing is what makes you feel the worst. The fact is, he is a selfish person. He makes excuses for not leaving his girlfriend, so that he can keep what he has, but get more from someone else. No matter what the excuse might have been for his not being able to leave her, it comes down to the truth--he doesn't want to leave her. If he did, he would, regardless of the circumstances. It might hurt now, but in the end, you won't be sorry for having enough respect for yourself to tell a person who doesn't truly have any for you, to shove off.
2006-08-16 04:09:21 · answer #9 · answered by hecatesmoon 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you made the right choice ...It is obvious he wasn't going to make a choice and choose you , so move on sweetie.... You said he wasn't leaving his girlfriend....Think about it , How would you feel if you found out your boyfriend was messing around with another woman ... You would feel the same as his girlfriend if he had messed with you ... There are lots of other fish in the sea .... Find one that is not yet on a hook..... or one that can wiggle free to you ...
Good luck ... move on ... The hurting with stop I am sure and you will find Mr Right soon...
2006-08-16 04:05:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he was the friend type. He was using you if he couldn't leave this other girl. Maybe there were more. You did the right thing. Remember there are plenty of guys out there. Some worse and most a whole lot better than him. Good Luck! Stay strong!
2006-08-16 04:03:40 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋