I was trying to break up with a guy because he doesn't have a lot of time to spend with me, and he told me...

Question

that he didn't want to lose my interest. What does he mean by that? And he has already lost my interest pretty much, so what should I do?

Answer 1

Just break up. Don't let the guy manipulate you.

Answer 2

I would tell him that he has to compromise and spend more time with you. I would tell him that he needs to make a choice of what's more important--what he does when he's not with you, or you. Does he really want to not lose your interest or is he trying to keep you like a material thing?
Then again, you need to ask yourself if you 'need' a man, or 'want' a man, because if you do 'need' then you are lacking something in yourself. Think deeply about this because if it's you--believe me, I've been there--you need to love you first otherwise you'll never truly love another person. (Just try to love the little things about you, like your laugh or how you cry at a movie and let that list expand. Believe me, it can take a lot at times, especially when I saw my value only through others eyes, but it works! Also go to a place in your mind that you love and be by yourself. Say things that you like about yourself to yourself and touch and feel the texture of the things in the place. I wish you the best.

Answer 3

Remember that men and women have a hard time understanding each other as they come from different planets. Women tend to talk on phones with each other all the time and visit and socialize, yaddah. Men tend to be loners and work. You have found one who works and treasures his time with you. Understand the difference between the genders and count your blessings. He isn't afraid of work and he is aware of you. Adjust your measuring device of quality time to treasure that spent with him and visit 24/7 with your friends if you feel the need to talk. Never make the mistake of trying to remake the other half into your ideal; work towards a common meeting ground. Life is like that. Good luck.

Answer 4

First of all, you have tp realize, couples are not meant to spend every waking free moment they have together. You cannot treat each other like you own each other.

Basically here are is a list, follow this list and your relationship shall improve ten fold. I promise!

No doubts that men heartily love women. However, numerous opinion polls reveal that there are ten basic factors with females that strongly irritate men.

1. Men do not like women pretending they are chaste. Men believe that women should stay themselves and give up every attempt to seem better. Indeed, women these days are not restricted in entertaining themselves and can enjoy life to the utmost, just exactly the way that men do.

2. Men hate it when their women criticize other females. This is a proven fact that women often treat other women as rivals. But remember that a woman will gain no popularity with men if she continuously criticizes other women’s dresses, shoes and handbags and also their compatibility with each other. Men actually do not care very much if their women wear fashionable dresses or not, have stylish coiffure or not.

3. Women’s jealousy exasperates men. This is absolute nonsense that jealousy revives relationship. The jealousy lifestyle can break even the strongest relationship. Jealousy appears when someone in a couple does not trust his partner. Remember that trust is the basis of your relationship.

4. Men also do not like to be treated as an emotional support. They get irritated when women always demand caresses and hugs, when women ask to call them special. Men do not like diffident women; they say it is even worse than self-confident and independent women.

5. It is no good for women to employ the speech code in relations with men. When women employ the ‘What are you thinking about?’ speech code they thus hope to pump real feelings and emotions out of men. When a woman asks a man this sort of vague questions she expects to catch his unawares and learn what his real feelings toward her are.


6. Some women want all the spare time of their men to be devoted to them only. This is some sort of interference with men’s private life. At the worst, women start asking relatives and close friends what their men did or are doing at this particular moment. They also ransack men’s pockets and desk drawers in search of some evidence. Women must not behave like proprietresses.

7. This is incredible but women’s emotionality makes men absolutely mad. Unlike women, men are sure that broken nails or touching films are not a trouble at all. Males do not love their female partners burst into tears or fly into a rage on every trifle occasion.

8. It is universally known that men hate women’s never-ending shopping. Men generally believe that twenty four hours in a day are not enough for women to enjoy shopping, to have an opportunity to touch and try on everything they find. Men find it the most terrible ordeal when women insist that men must accompany them during shopping.


9. Women’s talkativeness is also irritating, men say. Women’s brain easily conceives every minute detail while men do not like to listen to nonessential details.

10. Women have a sure leverage to demonstrate their superiority over men. This is sex which is the most powerful weapon in the war between males and females. Women deprive their men of sex in an attempt to punish them. But the measure may in some cases have lamentable consequences for women.

When we consider the above bad habits of women closer, we can see they are not so terrible. Nobody is perfect, and partners should learn to compromise and be patient toward each other.

Answer 5

Break up with him, he's OBVIOUSLY selfish. Every guy knows a woman likes them to spend time with them. He's just keepin you around for HIS interest

Answer 6

Well may be he is really busy out with his work. Sometimes it happens. But still I would suggest u need to talk to him, Ask him frankly if he really Loves u or not. Bcause if he really Love su then he will not let u go.

Answer 7

He's using the Tao of Steve "We pursue that which retreats from us". He was thinking that by making himself scarce you would value him more. Unfortunately his game backfired on him. Kudos for not taking his crap. See if he does actually make more time for you, if he doesn't, kick him to the curb.

Answer 8

if the guy really likes you and you like him you should really find a way to rearrange each others schedules so that both of you can enjoy whatever you like such as sports or whatever but still enjoy the company of each other

Answer 9

oh, he HAS time, he just is deciding to spend it on something else. He wants to keep you around for when HE feels like it.. been there, dumped that.Move on tho someone who wants to spend his time with YOU.

Answer 10

He wants you to keep wanting him instead of getting bored with him - so he makes himself unavailable to you. Guys can be idiots sometimes.......