i get possessive of the girl even before a normal relation builds up..... why ? i am 28
2006-08-16 03:24:14 · 8 answers · asked by nita_desai 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Normally possessiveness comes from your own insecurities. You may or may not feel that you are good enough for the girl you're with so if you keep a tight leash on her then she will not stray or leave you. Unfortunately, that's not true and may even push her away from you. Another thought may be that you are possessive because you know what you would and wouldn't do and you assume she'll do the same. Just some random thoughts since I don't really know you.
One thing you can do to build up your self-confidence is to take a notebook and each day write something positive about yourself. Don't make it something lame like "good hair" or "nice smile". Make it meaningful. Like...."today I opened the door for an elderly woman who was carrying a lot of stuff. I felt good about being able to help someone in need"....that kind of stuff. Soon you'll realize how many great things there really are about you.
I suggest you try to find a girl that you can confide in about your insecurities and learn to trust each other. Open and honest communication in a relationship works to everyone's advantage.
One more thought...everything happens for a reason. If you are with someone and they leave you or cheat on you, there is nothing you can do to prevent it. What it will ultimately mean at the end of the day is she wasn't the right person for you long-term.
2006-08-16 03:34:35 · answer #1 · answered by THP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are insecure. Did you have a bad relationship in the past that made you the way you are today? Maybe she cheated on you? Or were you not the most faithful guy in your past. Sometimes we get this way and it all revolves around "KARMA", I don't know your situation because you didnt say too much. Am I close?
2006-08-16 03:30:53 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you fall to easily. About a year ago, I broke up with my 20 year old boyfriend, because he became to possesive. Just try to be yourself, and let things take time. Be protective of your girl, but not over protective where she feels she has to break up with you, because she doesnt' have her own space.
2006-08-16 03:28:57 · answer #3 · answered by aim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to ask yourself that question.. i think ur insecure/inconfident.. that's usually the source of jealousy.. u should have more faith in yourself and not everyone will be a threat to you!
2006-08-16 03:29:32 · answer #4 · answered by conspicuous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are insecure. You need to ask yourself where your insecurities lies and why you are so afraid of loosing her.
2006-08-16 03:30:57 · answer #5 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try to be yourself and let the cards fall by themselves.
2006-08-16 03:29:51 · answer #6 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am 28 lol i don't know what to say but thanks for the 2 points
good luck
2006-08-16 03:30:08 · answer #7 · answered by vampgirl_00 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to relax and slow your roll
2006-08-16 03:32:02 · answer #8 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋