My grandma died last year from a stroke, and since it's close to the time when it happened, everybody is talking about it and saying 'oh im sorry' and this and that, but the more ppl pity me, I just reminds me more and I get all sad again. My grandma and I were always pretty close too, so it's kinda hard to think about it. What could I do to feel less uneasy and maybe a bit more calm?
2006-08-16 03:23:41 · 14 answers · asked by BlinkOnce 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First thing, sorry for your loss. It's normal that people say it to you all over again, coz they care for you, and they're probably sorry that has happened.
It's normal that you're getting sad when that time of year is approaching. Trust me, I know how you feel, since my grandfater died 2 and a half years ago, and my grandma died just 5 months ago. It's hard to deal with both deaths, coz I was close to both of them, and now when they're gone, all the memories are coming back, the times we spent together and all... the words, the conversations, everything we shared. But those things are not gone, as long as you carry them in your hearts.
Think of your grandma as your guardian angel... coz she is that. She's with you, and she surely doesn't want you to be sad. But being sad is normal, so I advise you to let it all out... Talk to a friend of yours, or cry it out in your room. It always helps me.
Everyone needs time to get over the death of the close person, so do you. Don't pressure yourself to let it go fast... maybe you just need more time, and that's normal. It's hard to let the person go, but that's just the way the life is. And then it gets back to you, makes you sad... trust me, I'm still going through sad moments even though my grandpa died 2 and a half years ago... but now, 5 months ago, the wounds are opened again, and I'm trying to deal with both deaths... it's hard, but I have my friends to support me, I cry when I feel really sad, I don't hold it inside of me, coz it's not good.
Give yourself some time, your grandma wants you to be happy, and with time, you'll be just fine.
2006-08-16 05:09:09 · answer #1 · answered by miraob86 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, I have had this pain.....First off , make yourself a picnic lunch, find a nice place outside you can be kinda alone, Maybe in your backyard, or a park. Spread a blanket and lay out your lunch, then invite your grandma to have lunch with you. Talk to her and tell her you miss her and tell her how you will have this lunch with her each year and tell her whats happening with your life, cry , get mad , and laugh. Think of things to tell him that would get the same response from her if he were still alive. Say a prayer when your done and blow a kiss to grandma and tell him to keep a watch on you!
Now when people say things Like Im sorry for your loss and stuff like that , simply tell them Thank You for remembering my grandma, yes she is missed dearly!
The pain is bad now and will ease a little. Remember the good times and the fun stuff with your grandma and how your grandma would be unhappy if she thought you were suffering....Dont forget it is always OK to cry when we remember someone we loved and miss dearly, only do so with a smile on your face because of the wonderful person she was and all the things she did to make you smile when she was here.
2006-08-16 10:43:39 · answer #2 · answered by NiteLdy_1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's always hard to loose a close one, especially if you were as close to him/her as you were to your grandma. You should only let time ease the pain. There is really nothing you can do to make the feeling go, you can pretend but its healthier to express what you feel. If you still feel like crying go ahead and do it, it will make you feel better at the end, and may also help you cope a bit sooner to your loss. Sorry about your granny, hope you let it go soon! Best of luck...
2006-08-16 10:34:09 · answer #3 · answered by metztli99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about you're loss. Death is something that affects everyone on this planet at some point in there life, so you're not alone. Just give yourself time, and try to keep busy with you're life. Time heals all wounds, you will get beyond this.
2006-08-16 10:32:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandpa died two years ago...I'm only started to notice that me and him shared the same interests and I'm starting to wish I spent more time with him. You should be glad that you where close to her and spent time learning from the interests you girls shared.. Everybody dies, but the memories stay forever. Every time you think of her, try to remember the moments you spent together. That way, you'll be able to do the same with your grand daughters someday.......
P.S. My english ain't that good, so try to make something out of it... :P Chow.
2006-08-16 10:37:43 · answer #5 · answered by Marc L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You basically just need to realize there is nothing you can do about the situation but know she is in a better place. God took her away for a reason and you just need to respect that. She is watching over you and is still in your heart, she just isn't there physically...I know it is hard, I have had many people pass away in my life and this is the only thing I keep telling myself over and over... :) Good luck to you!
2006-08-16 10:32:06 · answer #6 · answered by darcilynn83 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Instead of thinking about it as the day she died, why not commemorate the way she lived? Use this time to celebrate her life and think of the things you liked about her and other things about her that made you happy
2006-08-16 10:30:40 · answer #7 · answered by Imogen06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Celebrate her. Enjoy those memories. Cry a little. Smile. Tell her you love her. Then get back to life.
2006-08-16 10:46:46 · answer #8 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her her due. If someone mentions her, relate to them she lived a long, full life and is in a better place. And realize its true.
2006-08-16 10:30:49 · answer #9 · answered by thrag 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just free your mind. think about other things and keep yourself busy
2006-08-16 11:01:27 · answer #10 · answered by angelchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋