This may be TMI, but here goes: My 5 year old daughter is supposed to be starting kindergarten in two weeks, but she is still having issues going #2 in the potty. She knows how to go to the potty (she has no problems with #1), and she has times where she does really well going #2, but she still goes #2 in her pants probably 2-3 times per week. I don't think the school will allow her to begin kindergarten if she is doing this, but I have tried everything to get her to stop, even buying her a toy when she goes in the potty. Anyone else have this problem or am I alone? Any suggestions for how to get her to stop for good?
2006-08-16 03:19:29 · 15 answers · asked by Leah B 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
She may not be ready for Kindergarten. I would try telling her that she will not be able to go to school with the other kids if she can't go potty. We had this problem with our 3 year old, and told her the same thing before starting preschool...didn't take long for her to straighten up since her big sisters were going to school and she wasn't.
2006-08-16 03:27:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure she knows how fun kindergarten will be, and tell her about all the exciting things she will get to do. If she gets excited about starting school and then you tell her that she can only go to school if she always goes potty in the potty, she will make a huge effort to improve.
Instead of buying her a toy every time she goes, why don't you buy her one big surprise for when she enters kindergarten? Let her know that she will be getting something special when she starts school if she improves her potty skills. If you don't tell her what the surprise will be, she will be so curious about what it is that she will immediately stop going #2 in her pants, just so she can find out what the prize is!
2006-08-16 10:49:37 · answer #2 · answered by q&a_08 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At that age she knows what she is doing. I would suggest letting her clean herself up. Sometimes kids hate that feeling and that will stop them from going in her pants. I would also do like another person on here said and take things away from her. I'm sure that she will have to be potty trained to go to school. I wish I had some good advice for you. Some kids are just head strong and won't do it. Hang in there!!
2006-08-16 15:48:05 · answer #3 · answered by Emilyclair 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my daughter is 5 too. when she was 3 we had the same problem. we found that the most effective way to get her to pay attention to go to the potty when needed was to - take away something she loves when she pooped her pants. and when she went in the potty praise her and reward her by keeping that something she loves. for us it was bedtime movie routine that got through to her. it only took a week once we figured out how to get her attention. shes starting kindergarten and from experience of being a substitute teacher in head-start and preschool - if there is a continuing problem of accidents at school parents will be called in for a parent /teacher meeting to discuss their child may not be ready for school... good luck ...hope i helped alittle... :)
2006-08-16 12:59:52 · answer #4 · answered by Scooterpooterpie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my 9 yr old had a very similar issue. He was almost potty trained when he started Kindergarten, but #2 was a big issue also. It ended up that he was holding it in for too long. He felt he needed to go but never went.. then after a while, he would have the accident in his pants. I explained it to his teacher and made sure he had a change of clothes and wipes in his book bag at all times... I ended up having to give him a laxative to "clean him out" so to speak. I gave him a dose of LIttle Tummys Laxative. I gave it to him on a Friday.... by Sunday I sware the child lost 10 lbs..lol. Never complained of cramping or anything and after he was "cleaned out" he was fine, we have never had another issue. We kept discussing the issue with our Dr. but he kept telliing us our child was just not ready.... Turned out he just needed a little extra help... good luck starting school. I am sure she will make lots of friends.
2006-08-16 11:16:42 · answer #5 · answered by Denise B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey chill. every little kid goes through these kinds of relapses of the potty and using it.
when she goes to kindergarten, you have the choice of either telling the staff or not; but explain the consequences to your daughter as well. tell her she may or may not be able t continue going there if she keeps going #2 in her pants. tell her you know she's trying and she's doing a good job, but maybe if she puts just a little more effort into it and really lives up to the grownup girl that she is, she could really really improve toilet skills.
2006-08-16 10:27:04 · answer #6 · answered by browneyzz90 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a 3 year old and I am having the same problem. She goes to make #1 but she refuses to make #2. She is going to be 4 years old in November and she is starting pre-school in September but I believe that she will be fine when she starts school because she will see the other children going and that might motivate her. I try not to worry about it because it is up too them and they will go when they are ready.. It is frustrating because I am pregnant now, I am 25 weeks and I feel like I do not want to be cleaning a big girl like that when she makes #2. The only child I want to change pampers for is my baby. My daughter wheres pull-ups not pampers.. She uses the pull- ups like pampers...
2006-08-16 10:30:30 · answer #7 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do not send her to school. That will just compound the problem. She will be teased forever. Leave her alone and just let her be. Bribing hasn't worked, begging, etc. Quit making it into a big deal as it may be a power play with her. She won't suffer from starting school late but will suffer from the teasing. If you feel you must send her to school, Kindercare and some of the pre-schools actually have kindergarten that would be more understanding of her issues, but it would cost $$.
2006-08-16 10:27:36 · answer #8 · answered by Chloe 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know what to tell you... My son doesn't know how to wipe his butt good...SO he assumes the position(hands on the floor BUTT sticking straight up in the air..legs spread!) and screams...MOM...wipe my butt!!! I keep telling him HE needs to learn to wipe his own ~ his teachers won't wipe it for him... I'd just remind her that BIG girl and she needs to go in the potty all the time...cause being a big girl and going to school means...NO potty in the pants...
Hold the phone...You buy her a toy EVERY TIME SHE GOES?! SHe's working you girlfriend...SHe's got a system that works..EVERY time I go in the potty..I get a toy...GEE...seems like we have found the problem...offer her stickers on a calander instead! See if she stops doing it when a toy isn't involved...it might help and SAVE you some money on toys!!
2006-08-16 10:27:13 · answer #9 · answered by just me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may well be that she has become constipated and her bowels may be impacted. This is the most frequent cause of such episodes. Schedule an appointment with her pediatrician to have this checked out. While encopresis (Encopresis is when a child older than four has frequent stool or bowel movement accidents) can occur as a result of stress or trauma (e.g., sexual abuse), it generally does not occur because of psychological reasons. The medical exam is the priority.
2006-08-18 13:03:24 · answer #10 · answered by sane_nut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋