should i stay or should i leave now?

Question

Ok...i have been with my bf for almost a year now...and im really starting to question our relationship. hes very controling but dosnt know it.. and he has even hit before..the first time i forgave him becuase he only hit me in the side..the next time he punched me accross the jaw.he dosnt let me do anything and he has cheated on me before...and i found out he was gonna do it again when i went back to college on monday. I live with my mom but stay with him up at his house most of the time and his place is 80 miles from my college and i have to be to school by 8am when it starts back up...and he dosnt want me to go back home witch is only 40 miles from the college...he dosnt understand why i want to stay home for school...and he allways accusses me stuff when i say i wanna do somthing...and everything i do or say or buy has to have a reason why....do you think i should leave?? i think i want to but i allways stay becuase he makes me feel very guilty...i dont know what to do? plz help :(

Answer 1

Since you are in college, I am assuming that you do have a brain. This is the part where you should utilize it. LEAVE!!!
Just listen to yourself... "he only hit me in the side", ..."he punched me across the jaw", ... "he has cheated", does this really sound like a healthy relationship to you? And you have only been in this relationship for a year? You should leave while you can, don't worry about leaving behind any personal belongings, just leave, and don't look back. If you decide to stay, imagine how bad things could get for you another year from now. And trust me, it will get worse! And stop worrying about feeling guilty!!! In the end the only person you will feel sorry for is yourself!

Answer 2

You need to GET OUT!!! He has hit you in the past and will do it again, he cheats on you and it sounds like multiple times and he is too controlling. There is no way you are happy with him!! Take care of yourself and get out. He IS going to try and make you feel guilty because he knows that will make you stay. He knows he is wrong so he's trying to make you take on some of the blame in that respect! Your education is important, do what you need to do to finish that up, go back to your mom's house. Also, follow the advice given previously, DO NOT BE ALONE after you break up with him...do not break up with him in person or if you do, have someone with you... someone that can protect you if need be!
You said you didn't know what to do, you do know, you're just scared to leave because of what might happen afterwards, but you can't live your life scared all the time!!
Best of luck to you, be safe!!

Answer 3

You should leave as soon as possible. Its great that you can stay with your Mom. Wait for him to go to work and get all your stuff and move into your Mom’s house. Make sure you bring other people with you. Tell him its over and that you don’t want to talk anymore. Calling him to break up would be preferable in this situation. Don’t be afraid to get a restraining order if you have to. Refuse any contact with him and that way you won’t feel guilty about the break up. He’s hit you once and that’s more than enough to leave him. Nothing will get better for you until you’re out of that relationship and not living with him.

Answer 4

Your education is very important, if you keep going at this rate you may start to have problems with school. LEAVE HIM! If he hits you once he will hit you again, and next time your jaw or something else may get broke. You need to stay at home with your mom, 80 miles is to far to drive to get to school. Just remember your life is very important and someone else should not have the right to control it.
Keep your head up!

Answer 5

Oh My God! If he's hit you and is controlling, get out now! your safety is at risk! You are obviously thinking along those lines already, leave this loser who doesn't appreciate you and is hurtin gyou. If he hits you now, he won't hestitate in the future. Protect yourself and get out, honey! You deserve WAY better. Stand up for yourself and leave this loser behind. Even if he says he loves you, hitting you and cheating on you are TWO HUGE signs that he doesn't give a crap about you. you are young and have your whole life ahead of you... stay safe!

Answer 6

Ok you know he should be guillty not you leave him right now and make sure you tell him over the phone and after the broke up don;t be alone with him bcz he use to hit you don;t take any chances and he not going to change find someone who can love you take care of you move on

Answer 7

Leave him immediately. Men who bodily hurts his girl or wife that way are not men at all. He is not taking you as someone to love. You are only a sex object. There are still so many good men out there, just take your time. If you can afford it show him this letter and tell him punch me instead. Women are made for loving not for a punching bag.

Answer 8

Are you kidding? LEAVE. He has hit you, cheated on you and treats you like crap. Have more respect for yourself than that! You can do SO much better. Drop the loser and find a good guy that will treat you well.

Answer 9

hello dear,I don't know how you r managing with him, in any kind of relationship both side should understand others feeling, listen to their problems.
he is neither respecting you nor listening to your problems then why r u involve in this.there is nothing in this relationship just kick him out from your life, don't wait tell him either he have to listen to you or he should be ready to find some one else. talk to him on this then make a decision.

good luck

Answer 10

bodily I pass away. until eventually I cool down. i know myself nicely adequate to renowned how I continually sense much less upset approximately some thing if I get rid of myself to "cool off". yet I stay interior the relationship. it frequently takes plenty for me to stroll faraway from somebody, romantic relationships and friendships alike.