im young,intelligent and pretty,im educated,strong-minded,white and muslim. i fall in love to a 17 years older blak man who is not rich, and hav a 7 years old daughter from a x-girlfriend.he is african american and i never hav been in the USA. he is much taller then me, and dont know my native language,so i hav to speak english wit him,but my english isnt fluent. he is a good man,and want to marry me. he comes from Harlem and had a bad bakground,but i love him.we text,email,chat wit eachother everyday. am i an idiot??
i hv no child,im 22. i fall in love to his heart, i like his ideas, and his voice turns me on. he is a big blak man,and i like that. he is positive to me..YES,we met online,and thats y we both dont trust eachother 100%. we both r not weak-minded ppl, but love happen. Everything at him attracted me. i want only him. we know each other since Dec-2005. he sent me a few pics of his child,his vhild lives wit her mother. he send me pics of his house. i dont think he lies.
2006-08-16 02:59:32 · 19 answers · asked by she-ra 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he was honest and told me his bad bakground also. he got a passport for me,and all he need is a ticket for comming to me. he is saving money now, but i wont giv in to him until he really is wit me. he dont know my culture,but its ok. the max.time he can stay here is 2weeks. i want to marry too,but HE must want it first (in person). then i will live wit him in usa,and continue my education in usa,he will help.
oh god, i really dont know wat to do .thats will a great decision..wat when he act me as a queen,and then turn to a monstere.wat when he lock me and let dogs eat me...i dont trust men,i trust noone. when i go to usa,i want my native TV programms,wat when he dont giv me wat i want.. and wat when he cheat me? wat when i lose my mind there,because im soo lonely.. i REALLY love him,and he loves me too,wat when i one day say i did a mistake. sometimes it scared him,that i wont love him romantically when he come to me,he will come next month to me,and im half way around the world far.
2006-08-16 03:03:27 · update #1
wat when i born a Blak baby,and divorce him.i dont want to become a single white wit a blak baby. and i dont want to lose him.. wat should i do? he is still saving money.the ticket costs 1000-1200dolar.. when he come to me should i just give in to him. i need to hug him.
(he isnt in Harlem,he is a director in a huge company,but not rich,he is ok)
2006-08-16 03:04:49 · update #2
ur story is mind boggling!!! all i can say is WATCH OUT!! dont make stupid decisions and ruin ur life..,dont be carried away by his outward show of affection. he is much older than u...im sure u'll regret it later. TAKE A BREAK!! think about it. uve got a life to live...u can get a guy ur age who'll love u!! I wish i could "wake" you up!
this is just infatuation and will disappear once u r married and face the realities of marriage!!
u r young, intelligent, pretty and u want to marry a guy who is 17 yrs older than you, with a kid???? wat the heck is wrong with u? have u lost ur mind?
im not being harsh, i jus want to say u deserve better!! i just hope u make the right decision...that ur eyes may be opened to reality...my prayers for u!
2006-08-16 03:34:08 · answer #1 · answered by Ariel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. I have had 3 friends who married girls from online. one of the 3 was my ex bf and had chatted to this girl he married for 2 and a half years prior. Not even two years later all of them can't stand their wife and they are ready to divorce them. If you have never visited the US and only know of it from what people have told you then I would say for sure don't do it. You need to visit him many many times get to know the culture and he needs to do the same thing. If he can't afford visiting you then Please do not do it. It isn't worth it. It will just end in divorce and you going back to your country. Also I am sure you will be terrible homesick and will want to go visit your family but can't because he doesn't make enough $$$$. You will have to wait 6 months or longer to get a working permit and then the job will probably be level entry even though you have an education. Things to think about.
2006-08-16 03:08:25 · answer #2 · answered by tjnw79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all you shouldn't be finding love on the net, i wouldn't trust someone 17 years older that me i would suggest waiting a little longer, if you can't trust eachother 100% yet that means it's not true love because trust is one of the most important thing in a relationship. if you don't trust each other 100% wait till you achieve that.
2006-08-17 13:03:47 · answer #3 · answered by Carpe Diem (Seize The Day) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Online is not the ideal way to meet someone. And marriage is definitely not the best way to get your self here to the US of A. Are you sure you are inlove, or you just wanna leave all your misery behind and try some greener pasteur?
2006-08-16 03:07:35 · answer #4 · answered by Lynyrd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I can say is follow your heart. But since I know many ppl of ur culture I do not think your father will approve of this marraige so you must make sure he does or i am sure he will disown you either that or still marry this man and live in disownment of your family
2016-03-27 04:17:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you making it a point to mention that he is BLACK? If you care for him then go for it. Give it a chance but be cautious of anyone you meet on the internet regardless of their skin color. Jeff Dahmer wasn't black and neither was the BTK killer. He's a lot older than you are so you need to be sure of his intentions before becoming serious.
2006-08-16 03:07:30 · answer #6 · answered by SmartyPants 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The is just a dumb question,"no offence".If u have so much doubts in a relationship with him and worries,Why take that risk?Beside he way too old for u and a babie tag along...All u going to end up with is just suffer and tears...
2006-08-16 03:51:28 · answer #7 · answered by David Hoang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off....you cannot be in love with someone you have never met. I think it's just an infatuation. Your flattered from all the attention he gives you. Be oh so careful who you meet on-line...a lot of perverts out there who will take advantage of you.
2006-08-16 03:08:59 · answer #8 · answered by xxx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i personally thinkn online dating isn't the best way to fall in love with someone but if u really love him and trust him go for it. Listen to your heart it always tells the truth
2006-08-17 20:09:19 · answer #9 · answered by hollerbaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off run FOREST run! you do not need this man. hes looking for a free ride.u dont know him only by long distance. he could tell u anything and u wouldnt know the difference be careful and think this over
2006-08-16 03:15:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋