okay he cheated on me once.....and then i found out he smoked but then he quit...and we had broke up for a few months and i went out with a few more guys..even though they were just flings and nothing seemed to compare with my 5 months i spent i with him. we got back together but im wondering if i can trust him....ive been trying to test him but its not working cause he always figures it out
2006-08-16 02:44:33 · 29 answers · asked by my_emo_romance 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
okay he is in love with me too and i am stopping the tests too! the only reason he cheated is cause he is in a band an dthey have a ton of band groupies and one was this chick that sressed really sluty and it was right after a fight me and him had so he wanted to get back at me
2006-08-16 03:02:15 · update #1
DONT SAY SHAME ON ME!!!!!!! ITS NOT MY FAULT I JUST WANT TO KNOW IF I SHOULD TRUST HIM GOSH PEOPLE!
2006-08-16 03:11:37 · update #2
do i have the right to call him an ***hole???
and yes i think he probly will cheat cause he sounds like an ***hole to me......
especially how he went after a slut.......
and now to make it funny number 3: ***hole!
it wont let me say slut
2006-08-16 13:30:06 · answer #1 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-16 02:50:43 · answer #2 · answered by willjw17 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would have wondered if he was going to do it again, BEFORE I took him back. General rule of thumb and experience, if it happened once, it will happen again. If you feel like you have to test him, already the trust is missing in the relationship, if he caught you trying to figure him out, watchout, it will put a serious crimp back into the picture. If you want to catch him, wait until he gives you a reason NOT to trust him. He may be on the up-n-up, maybe not. To soon to tell. But if you have doubts, either cancel the notion and trust him or go ahead and break it off now, because if there is suspicion on your part and worry about a lack of trust on his part, this relationship will get worse before it gets better and come to an end anyhow. Best of luck with your decission.
2006-08-16 03:04:27 · answer #3 · answered by MrsPTB4Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you SHOULD not shouldn't, but SHOULD trust him. He did cheat on you after all, which is very cool. He also smoked and kept it from you for 5 months, that's also great. So what if the girl is dressed like a cheap whore, and she was, it's not like he caught anything from him. It's about love. It's not about fighting and cheating to get back at one another. It's about companionship with an untrustable guy. It's not about bands and their butt hole pleasures with sluts that dress half way. It's about you and him now. It's not about him having sex with a dirty girl and kissing her in the mouth after 50 guy did, then coming back to kiss you. It's not about him thinking about cheating again with *** guzzling women. It's about you now. Not about him giving a sneaky Castro to another woman. If you think you are his main woman then be that. It's not like the slutty groupies are going anywhere, so what if he's going to be constantly surrounded by temptation. If you can't trust him, then who will? I wouldn't, but your the one that wants him. So you have no choice but to trust him.
2006-08-16 19:25:53 · answer #4 · answered by Tutty Frutty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you not want to date him if you both are madly inlove? Why do you wanna persue things with your best guy friend if you love someone else? It is really up to you. You can go for a change and be with your bestfriend but just make sure you can accept the consequences if ever. If you go with your bestfriend there is a big chance that you and your ex will be over for real. Do you really want that?
2016-03-27 04:16:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guilty until proven innocent! Keep your eyes wide open at all times. Stop with the testing because he's obviously a slick one. Just go on as if everything's fine. I say once a cheater always a cheater but if he means enough to you to risk it, just be careful.
2006-08-16 02:50:37 · answer #6 · answered by lovelee1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ever find out he’s cheated again then just forget about him. Honestly, I wouldn’t have taken him back at all. I wouldn’t test him for a while if he knows you’re doing it. 5 months isn’t that long and it sounds like you might not know what type of person he is.
2006-08-16 02:54:08 · answer #7 · answered by zerospacegurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not going to be able to trust him unless you forgive him of his past mistakes and let them go, never to be brought up again. Testing him is not the answer because if he fails you'll only lose him again. Just let him prove himself and let him be the person he is. If he cheats again, drop him like a bad habit.
2006-08-16 02:52:55 · answer #8 · answered by windandwater 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can never really be comfortable in a relationship if you dont trust your partner. dont believe what people say, that love conquers all. just cos you love someone doesnt mean you have to put up with crap. let it be, dont test him and see how things work out. if it plays on your mind too much, it might be best to end it.
2006-08-16 02:50:35 · answer #9 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once he is a cheater he will always cheat never trust a man/woman who has cheated on you move on with your life and be happy don't try to test him it will never work you will end up getting hurt worst in the end
2006-08-16 02:49:54 · answer #10 · answered by Billie G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is not something that can be tested. It must be earned.
Stop your tests, and just watch how he reacts to you, to your friends and family, to other people. If you truely love him, you will trust him. I personally don't think there can be real love without trust.
2006-08-16 02:52:09 · answer #11 · answered by agentm006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋