My son just turned 35, and is very lonely...Is there any way that I can reduce his pain? How can he meet people, if he works all day, and watches his two children all night? I would like him to be happy...
2006-08-16 02:27:59 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would encourage him to get involved in church or some group activity with his kids. There are many singles groups at churches and it would be a good atmosphere for the children as well.
2006-08-16 02:32:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, you could help out by watching the kids once a week and making him get out there. The only way to meet people is to be outside of the home and able to mingle. I know it's hard, I am a single mother of one and I work nights and sit with my son during the day. It's rough, but not impossible. He has to put himself first at times. Make him, make the time.
2006-08-16 09:35:37 · answer #2 · answered by str8tequila80 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can look in you community for family based activities that he can share with his children in the evening. Perhaps a class or depending upon ages of the children a play group. It will allow him the opportunity to get out and meet other other fathers.
2006-08-16 09:32:17 · answer #3 · answered by smedrik 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most of all, you must know what is the root of the cause before you can actually find a way for remedying it... In this case, most likely the cause is the "wife".... There could be many reasons why she is not there and thus, I wont want to jump to any conclusion.
Personally, in this scenario, I doubt there will be any thing else that you can do for him besides being there for him when he needs it.... He's already 35 and I believe he already knows the cause of his unhappiness should he be in one rite now and even if he don't know the cause himself or chose not to see it, theres nothing else you can do except to be there for him and hope that he will walk out of it one day for the sake of his kids, you, and those who cares for him...
2006-08-16 09:38:57 · answer #4 · answered by St_Lucifer 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would suggest you take the children ,if you are able and willing,for a couple of nights or every other weekend,so that he can get out and meet people.His world at present is indeed limited to just the work world and his children.
If you have friends with single women children invite them over for dinner and invite your son and his children.he needs to join a health club or softball league,anything to broaden his list and chances of meeting new people,a new guy friend helps him to get out and meet others.good luck,I know it must be difficult for him but i for one am proud of him for taking the responsibility of raising his children,that's a real man to me.
2006-08-16 09:39:10 · answer #5 · answered by Yakuza 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could go to church if he believes and meet someone. Ask friends if they know of anyone available set him up on a date. Get involved with the kids and sports or whatever activities might meet a single mom there, go to school events. And if your a believer pray.
2006-08-16 09:33:04 · answer #6 · answered by mustang.suzy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's doing the right thing even though he is lonely. The kids are the most important thing! His life can come after the kids are grown. My mom stayed single for 15 years after her and my father divorced. And she did it so we wouldn't have to put up with strange men!
2006-08-16 09:33:43 · answer #7 · answered by flyingbumblebee 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
find smaller functions in your area where children will be there, possibly this weekend.... tell him to go and let his kids play with the other kids there while he finds/meets new people.... He'll make it through.... just talk to him and see what he likes to do.... help him through these tough times.... everyone needs help and someone to lean on.... let him know that you are there to help.... I wish him the best of luck..... Most of all.... Tell him that I said to keep his head held high.... no one likes to talk to people who seem insecure.... Best Wishes my Dear.... I hope things look better for all of you soon......
2006-08-16 09:45:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mabey you could mind the kids while he goes out for a night or two like he could join a club if he's interested in something like photography or mabey a sport for guys his age. He can like have a dinner where he invites his workmates over, a BBQ maybe...
2006-08-16 09:33:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Happiness does not necessarily mean coupled. Ask your son first if he is happy with the way things are. Maybe he enjoys his loneliness and he rather calls it solitude. So figure out first what his version of happiness entails.
2006-08-16 09:34:42 · answer #10 · answered by groovusy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋