He's been with 48 girls...and he's 26. I love him alot but the other night it kinda hit me hard. Is there anything I can do or think about to make me feel better about this situation.
Don't give me a break-up answer please...I'm not breaking up with him.
2006-08-16 02:21:44 · 24 answers · asked by me 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he proposed to me last month
2006-08-16 02:22:21 · update #1
Just keep in mind that you're the one he's with now. Leave the past in the past. Focus on your future.
2006-08-16 02:26:16 · answer #1 · answered by gemone523 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, these were all before you honey. The only thing you should be concerned with is his future, not his past! Think of it this way, all our experiences good and bad make us who we are today....now would you change anything about your sweetie? He's with YOU now and you've obviously got something the other 48 girls didnt have because he's proposed to YOU!!! So I think you should feel really good about that...all these other girls didnt even come close girl! So you must be a spectacular lady! Hope that helps hon! good luck!!! and congratulations!!
2006-08-16 02:31:13 · answer #2 · answered by Joeygirl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As a guy and having been in a relationship where "that conversation" came up, even though I was as many women as your b-friend, the fact that my girlfriend at the time said she had been with 10, bothered me... I could understand you being upset if this guy was your 1st, but if he wasn't, how can you complain?
If you are truly in love with this person, and he feels the same way about you, you just have to get over the past and live in the time of NOW, cause unless you've only had him as a partner, he might feel the same way too...
Annnnnd, I would highly recommend you two not watching a porno together - I made that mistake during our jealousy stage - my g-friend said "do you think she's hot" and I said "yeah, she's alright" and she got out of the bed and yelled "well than just J__ off to her instead of being with me"... this was her idea to watch 1 together...
It's a stage you go thru... I ended up marrying this girl and we now kid each other about that whole stage and we both end up laughing hysterically about it & you will too...
2006-08-16 02:49:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Make sure your boyfriend gets tested for all kinds of STD's, you don't want his past to haunt you for the rest of your life. And if you have already been with hime get yourself tested too. That's the first and most important piece of advice.
Now for the rest. If he is 26, I am assuming you are also in your 20's. Ok, your boyfriend has been adventurous. If he has found the right person, you, and is ready to settle down, then don't worry about what partners he has had in the past (other than advice above). But it seems to me he is keeping score, don't be just another tic mark for him. If you guys love each other, then make your lives together and be happy, let the past be the past.
2006-08-16 02:30:26 · answer #4 · answered by shirley_corsini 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Listen so he's been with 48 girls. He probably was searching for someone who he wants to be with for the rest of his life. And when he met you he knew he found the right person. So forget about the past and realize you have the sweetest guy in the world.
2006-08-16 02:32:20 · answer #5 · answered by Miami09 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
he's a guy, which usually means that he is going to have a lot more sex partners than you. unless he is a sex addict or something, 48 partners at age 26 is not really that bad. you just need to realize that it was the past and you are the future.
2006-08-16 02:39:24 · answer #6 · answered by Niecy 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
All of his life's experiences have made him what he is today. Take away any one of those girls and it may change him just a little. You likely love that he is confident, desirable and talented in matters of love. This all comes from all his life experiences including his past girlfriends. Appreciate that all that made him who he is and that he know wants you.
Besides, he may have less desire than most to stray later in life because he has lived fully and may be able to devote himself to just one more easily.
2006-08-16 02:29:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't be insecure about it for starters. It's his past and if he's asked you to marry him then you obviously have the rest beat. He is yours now, and let the past be the past. You can't dwell on the choices he made before you came into the picture. Just focus on your future and what he does from this point on.
2006-08-16 02:28:22 · answer #8 · answered by str8tequila80 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Since you say he has propose to you, find time to sit him down so both of you can talk everything over.
2006-08-16 02:29:13 · answer #9 · answered by freeall_freeme 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have no choice but to accept his past....the women that he have been with help mold him into who he is and you love this man....So be grateful that he even told you the truth most males will fudge the numbers to make the woman feel good.
2006-08-16 02:28:41 · answer #10 · answered by Toya J 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋