him. She told me even before they broke up that she was thinking about breaking up with him and that she liked me. I'm the first person she called as soon as he broke up with her. I asked her if she liked me and she said she does but she still has feeling for her boyfriend and wants to take it one day at a time. She told me the same thing before they broke up though. She told me she liked me and wanted to date me before I told her I felt the same way. And she said that when she still had a boyfriend. I'm just really confused. Is she playing games with me?
2006-08-16 01:45:26 · 8 answers · asked by Floridaboy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, I don't think she is playing games w/ you....it's just hard after a breakup whether you wanted it or not....feelings for the other guy are still going to be there...they just don't go away in a day...it takes time to heal & recover....it sounds like she does like you but like she said...wants to take things one day at a time...she wants to take things slow...and you don't want to be a quick "rebound" relationship either...you want her to be sure she is fully over him before things would develop w/ you...I say hang in there...be there for her to "vent" & be a good friend right now...time heals all wounds....you don't want to rush her because you could end up pushing her away....give it time & see what happens...good luck!
2006-08-16 01:55:19 · answer #1 · answered by godsmacksun23 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In a way, yes, she is playing games with you. But don't blame her, I don't think it's all conscious (at least I hope it isn't). Think about it this way, if she thought you were the hottest thing since fire was invented and she was in love with you, do you think she'd hesitate? Doubtful. So that's what it is. She hasn't built up ENOUGH of an attachment to you to get over her PREVIOUS attached and go for you. And there is nothing you can do for her or say to her to change that. What you need to do now, if you still want her, is think about how you could become a more ATTRACTIVE (not likeable, not sweet... VERY different) guy that she would not be able to HELP but want to run to. A few tips I think, personally would work:
1. Do NOT by any means MAKE time for her or go out of your way to "be there" for her. If you have the time, by all means, do so, but lead your own life as well.
2. Be around other people, especially girls. Let her know you're a catch and even if she didn't chose you, you'd still have plenty of options.
3. Never compromise who you are for her, or anyone for that matter. Being yourself is beneficial in so many ways I can't even begin to count.
Give it your best shot.
2006-08-16 02:00:36 · answer #2 · answered by JudasHero 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was covering all her bases. If there was already trouble in her relationship, she was lining up her next guy. Maybe she does really like you but right now she's on the rebound. And the fact that she's telling you she still has feelings for her ex is leaving the door open for her to go back to him if the opportunity comes. Be careful, the only one at risk for heartbreak here is you.
2006-08-16 01:52:34 · answer #3 · answered by lovelee1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's crazy but she was thinking ahead of herself. That means, she knew it was time for them to break up, but she has yet to deal with the emotional pain. She could like you, and maybe she even pre-meditated you being her back up plan, but either way it will come back on her. If she' smart she'll take her time to heal before really pursuing you, because you don't want to be blamed for past issues you had nothing to do with. I know you may like her, but just focus your energies in other places, because right now it seems as if she knows you're there whenever she needs you, and that's too easy to play with.
2006-08-16 02:11:07 · answer #4 · answered by ksfinney17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hm i understand why this would be confusing for you it seems as if she is indirectly asking for you to wait for her. you have to decide if that is something you are willing to do. Even though she wants to get with you i guess she feels she needs some time for her before she goes into another relationship which is fair enough. i just think she needs to be honest with you so you know where you stand. You should talk to her.
2006-08-16 01:52:23 · answer #5 · answered by bananapancakes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to sort her feelings out, she can't just keep you hanging there. tell her she might still like the other one,but does she know for sure that HE still likes her? If he doesn't tell her to forget about him, then try to ask her out again later, she might forget about him. I hope it works, but if it doesn't you can still be friends and she might fall in love with you again. wish you good luck.
2006-08-16 02:02:18 · answer #6 · answered by ALlr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont think shes playing with u, might just be not sure of her feelings, give her some time
2006-08-16 01:58:42 · answer #7 · answered by vedz666 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is that she does not like you or that she still has feelings 4 him
2006-08-16 01:50:22 · answer #8 · answered by poopmaster37 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋