Okay I took 4 pregnancy tests yesterday, ept and first response. They had a plus but one line making the plus was kind of faded so i dont know if that means its not. But I plan on going to the dr. as soon as I can. I am getting married in 5 weeks. So I hope I can still fit in my dress...I really want to tell my mom, we always email each other from work, IM thinking about telling her that way. Just because Im at work right now and its all I can think about. But I dont want this to ruin the wedding or stress her out. I dont know what to do. Any advice?????
2006-08-16 01:25:52 · 44 answers · asked by Heather T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Just got back from the doctor, im definatly pregnant. Thanks for all the great advise, I guess I am going to have to think this one out.
2006-08-16 06:37:10 · update #1
Congratulations! I hope that this a pleasant and happy surprise for you both. If I was your Mother, I would want to know...as matter of fact, I am looking forward to grandbabies. You don't need any more stress than you have all ready, so come clean with Mom, and you will feel a lot better. You seem very close, so she would want to know and be able to help you with all your worries. My daughter and I are very close, and I would hate knowing she was stressing about something that concerned her so much. So, after telling your fiance, tell Mom....
As far as your dress, you will proably still be able to fit in it, unless it's tight all ready and you start showing soon. If so, find a seamstress or consult with the bridal shop. They could let out a seam, or add a little peice of material to allow for the baby.
You now you are a wonderful daughter to be so concerned for your mother, you are going to make a great Mom. Have the most happiest wedding, a lot of families started this way, Congratulations again, it's your decision whether to tell everyone else, or just surprise them later after the honeymoon. I would have the have the Preacher or whoever marries you introduce you as Mr. and Mrs.? and future son or daughter. Honey take so stress off yourself, and pick up the phone and call Mom. Or if she lives nearby, go pick up a baby rattle, and surprise in person.
I think you could use a hug right about now! God bless us all.....
2006-08-18 14:12:03 · answer #1 · answered by totallylost 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Going to the doctor is a good thing. He/she can confirm the test and then you will go on from there. Is there any chance the child is not your future husbands? Had to ask. That could very much complicate the marriage later. If there is not a problem there the first person you should tell is your future husband. I certainly hope that both of you had discussed children during your engagement. Then both of you need to make what ever plans for the future together.
Your mother comes in a definate third in this manner... This is between you and your future husband. !!!! Then the rest of the world !!!!! This is going to be a make or break decision for you to cut the apron strings and bind yourself to your husband.
As for what to do right now. Doctor first. Tell future husband. Then move on. As for stressing on this whole thing --- don't. Just go with the flow. Concentrate on the job at hand. The very best thing you can do is calm down and take things in stride.
Oh!!! Almost forgot!! Depending upon what the doctor says and how many weeks along you will be at the time of the wedding -- have the dress let out a little right now to make room for baby. Then be sure you have the appropraite fluf on the front of your dress to cover up. A bow or something. The rest of the world doesn't need to know at the wedding.
2006-08-16 01:54:00 · answer #2 · answered by .*. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were to go to the doctor today, they may suggest, as mine did, not to tell any one anything until you're at least 12 weeks along -- at that point, you're pretty much out of danger of miscarriage. You really don't start showing until you're about 14 - 17 weeks pregnant -- so unless you are over eating, you should fit just fine. Stop stressing, eat well, drink water, get to the doctor (did you know you can get pregnancy tests at the dollar stores- for a dollar? and they are the same ones the doctor uses).
And as far as your mom, she deserves a phone call. She may be a little shocked, but if she's anything like most - she'll be thrilled to know she's going to be a Grandmother. And if you think she'll be uptight, judgemental - well even that may not be as bad as you thought, after all, it's not like you got pregnant then rushed the wedding.
Be happy, my son is the greatest thing ever. My husband and I decided to start trying to have a baby in January - and I got pregnant right away, which was a bit shocking. By the time we wer married in May, I was 17 weeks, and showing. I wasn't crazy about the way I looked in my dress, but I didn't care I was too happy about my marriage and baby!
2006-08-16 01:40:31 · answer #3 · answered by teambarbie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding and your body, so take care of yourself. It's you who does not need to be stressed out right now. You want to be able to happily enjoy your wedding and your pregnancy. I am sure that your mother would understand and I think that the amount of stress that it could cause her would be significantly less than the amount that you are going to have to go through if you keep it to yourself.
You may want to discuss this with your fiancee' to see what he thinks. He is in the same situation so he would most likely know better than I or any other stranger.
As far as the pregnancy tests go, you are most likely pregnant. Even a faded line is a positive result on an at home pregnancy test. You should see your doctor as soon as possible so confirm. It is very unlikely to get a false positive.
Good luck and congratulations on your marriage and your baby.
2006-08-16 01:34:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
5 weeks is not a long time... some people wait up to 2-3 months before telling family and friends because they want to make sure the baby is perfectly health before telling anyone. I would wait on telling the family- just tell the groom. Your dress should be find and you can wear a corest if you feel puffy... it won't hurt the baby, they are fully protected by fluid in the womb. Hopefully your dress shop doesn't know your mom, and you can mention it to them so they don't take in the dress too tight. I doubt if anyone will notice and hey, some people like myself gain weight from stress so it's not that off that you gained a few pounds before the big day. Just don't drink at your wedding!! And you should tell your mom in person, when the time is right!
2006-08-16 02:03:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only 5 weeks til the wedding? You'll be fine. You may have to have the dress let out a bit, but not much. If it's your first pregnancy, you may not even show until the end of your second trimester.
Does FI know yet? Does he want to tell anybody now? I wouldn't tell mom until after the wedding.
Congratulations on your marriage and your pregnancy! Good luck!
2006-08-16 06:11:45 · answer #6 · answered by july2007bride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah this is one of those predicament in life. I guess in 5 weeks if you are in the very early stage of pregnancy nothing will show, but the question is at what "weeks" are you now ? The good thing is that you are already getting married. Look assess the situation and ask yourself "What is the worst scenario ?" Seriously What is the worst scenario. And start from there. The scary thing is always the unknown and uncertainty plus our overactive imagination. Talk to your mom. If she love you before, she love you still, not to mention in a situation like this. I am a dad, i would want my daughter to come to talk to me. Many years down the road, you all are going to laugh at this "colourful" episode of your life". So lets say, your pregnancy show, and it shows when you walk down the isle, so people going to talk...they will....but so what...you and hubby's life still goes on. And the interesting thing is people do sympathise and those that don't you know where they stand too. I know the wedding is the girls dream, but the Almighty God definitely has something else to say here, it will make you know yourself better, tougher and more self reliant. I would say stay flexible in terms of wedding ceremony plans and roll with the punches. Don't sweat it too much. Bet you, when you are a grandmother and all, you are going to laugh and much more wisdom to share to your daughters and granddaughters. Thank God for this experience.
2006-08-16 01:38:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter how faint the line is - the fact the line showed up means it's detected the pregnancy hormones - so congratulations - you're blessed with the most precious gift there is. As for the wedding dress - I was still fitting in my normal clothes at 6 months into the pregnancy - so no worries on that count. People shouldn't be stressed - they should be overjoyed at your good news. Pregnancy is a wonderful experience - enjoy it because it'll be over before you know it.
Hope it all goes well x
2006-08-16 01:31:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Weddings are stressful enough. I would personally wouldn't tell anyone until I went to the doctor and knew for sure and it would be during the second trimester before I told. Just because I watched my sister do this with her first pregnancy and ended miscarrying. Some women miscarry their first pregnancy. It is your mom and if she can keep a secret why not tell her. I wouldn't do it through an email pick up the phone and call her. You two can go to the doctor together.
2006-08-16 01:32:51 · answer #9 · answered by badoll 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine had the same dilemma. Go to the doctor first to be 100% sure. Then make the announcement at the wedding reception. Or, if you just want to tell family, tell them at the rehearsal dinner. If it's a matter of your family knowing you guys were hooking up before the wedding, you can always go with the fool proof "wow, my baby was born a month early!". Congrats, on both wedding & baby
2006-08-16 03:09:01 · answer #10 · answered by Phoenixsong 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋