6yr old grandson sleeps in his bed fine but asleep on floor by my bed by morn. How get him to sleep all nite?

Question

He has lived with us a few months. At first he wanted bathroom lite on, then we went to a nite lite and slept for 3 nites all nite. I praised him. He does not stay in bed at other grandparents either, gets on couch, etc. He said sometimes he has monster dreams and wakes up. We tried locking our door but he just lays down by the door and I dont like locking him out. He now brings his blanket and pillow for floor. He used to climb in the bed and I would take him back to his bed but now that he gets on floor and we have a loud fan I do not hear him since he sneaks in. He is a very loving and independent child, both parents on drugs, 1 in jail, parent to parent living, with other grandparent from 4mo to 2yr. He is very smart, top of class, in first grade. Back to sleep, our routine, we say Now I lay me prayer, he adds: "and Jesus wake me up during the night". I have told to ask Jesus to help him sleep good and get his rest all nite instead of waking up. Discus staying in bed, help

Answer 1

Give him time and alot of love...what he has been through will probally be with him a long time. If he has a stable place now give him time to realize it and take it in. Please make sure someone at his school is aware of the situation also. God bless you..I wish you much luck!

Answer 2

Good Lord, how we all forget how what must go through a child's mind.
This boy needs comfort. He is not a man yet. Imagine yourself in his shoes. There is nothing wrong with him waking beside you. perhaps this boy is death afraid of you walking out the door to leave him, and he wants to be near enough to wake up and stop you. I am sure he knows this empty feeling all too well.'
Please let him continue. he is not going to do it forever, but long enough until HE decides that it is OK.
When any of us wake from sleep in the middle of the night, it is easy for all kinds of irrational thoughts to go through our head that normally wouldn't during our waking hours. He is not old enough by any means to logically put these aside and go back to sleep on his own, so he does what nature dictates to him and goes to you. is that so bad?
Please give this boy some extra love, otherwise he will pick up on the message that he is inconvenient, and i am willing to bet you don't want this.
There is nothing sadder than a child who feels truly that his parents don't care enough about him, no matter how deeply others may.
Cut him some slack. Do your part to keep this future adult man from being the same as his parents, or worse for that matter. it is a long road, but you took it on, and you can handle it.
it may definitely help to have a councilor who is experienced in this field.

Answer 3

Please see if you can find out if he has been touched or molested during the night before he started to live with you.I know that this may sound a bit extreme but I went through much the same type of thing when I was about the same age.It was not until I got older that I was able to tell people what had happened to me and then my behaviour and slepping patterns changed.The person that caused this situation in my life was my own father and some of his friends. The one thing that I will say is that with the understanding of my other family members and friends I turned out to be a valued member of my own family which includes 3 children and 4 grandchildren. Please take him to a reputable councellor. I hope that this is not your situation but you must take it seriously. With all my heart I wish you all the luck in the world.

Answer 4

I would keep praying with him let him know god is with him give him a little cuddle toy to sleep with, it is important not to reinforce a behavior pattern of waking up during the night by giving it a lot of attention. Young children especially will often cry or make other noises when they wake. Do not immediately rush in to comfort them - this will only wake them up more, and reinforce the pattern of waking in the night. If you leave them alone, most will gradually settle and go back to sleep by themselves. Initially this may take some time, as they are used to getting your attention, but gradually, if you stay firm, this period of time will get shorter.

Answer 5

Have you asked him why he feels he needs to wake in the night? Sounds like he is articulate enough to provide an answer.

Try putting him to bed on the couch, or get one of his siblings to share the room with him. Stop bouncing him from home to home, maybe he's just afraid he won't wake in the same place he went to sleep.

You really should set some boundaries about your bedroom, though, Adult bedrooms aren't places for children to be. Heck, I'm adult and I haven't crossed the threshold of my parents bedroom ten times in my entire life.

Answer 6

The kid is terrified. He probably is shaking on the floor too. I used to sleep on my mothers floor but i was still scared that something would come out from underneath the bed, so i would build a pillow blockade around me so nothing could get me. I had problems with nightmares too.

Answer 7

I have this problem too I am 11 and I can get to sleep in my room but later on I end up in my parents bedroom on the floor and I hate it I wish I could stay asleep maybe u should try sleeping in his bed w/ him and see if that helps him to see he can stay in there!!

Answer 8

INSECURITY!! If i were he, i think insecurity would make me do these things!! Since what he loves most, his parents, r in such a state, it is natural to feel that way.Fortunately his grandparents,u, r very lovin, makin him a well balanced being.

Answer 9

lock your door.

Answer 10

make him more comfortable