How can I get my son sleeping in his own bed?

Question

I know it was a mistake letting him sleep with me in the first place, but it was a rough pregnancy and he was my miracle baby. lol He will be 2 on Halloween. Does anyone have any good tips to help me get him into his own bed so he will quit hoggin mine? lol

Thanks for all the good tips everybody!!

Answer 1

i understand completely, my son stopped breathing in his sleep due to severe allergy problems so i was terrified to put him in his own room and own bed.

my solution was not to completely remove him from my room, but to simply place his toddler bed next to my bed and let him slowly work into it himself. he knew it was his bed and he would make it up and put his teddies and things on it etc. gradually, he worked his way out of my bed and into his own.

when he became comfortable there we slowly worked him into his own room. surprisingly, it was easy as he grew older, because by then he wanted to have his 'own' room and asked to go on in there. i think he was about five when the move was complete, but i'm a softy and i wanted to keep his sense of self intact and to keep his confidence high.

Answer 2

Explain to him he has to sleep in his own bed 'now hes a big boy'...read him a story before and maybe have a night light..if he starts crying and gets out pick him up and put him back in,I had the same problem with my son,I had to get up 3 or 4 times in the night for about a week,It will probably break your heart when they gets distressed ,but the key is be consistant .....good luck x

Answer 3

That is always a tough one, and I went through the EXACT same thing with my first son. He was a sick baby, he had surgery at 2 months, he had pneumonia at 4 months.. and he slept with me. I felt it was the only way to keep him safe and to know what was going on with him. No way he was going to sleep across the room in a crib.. I might not have heard him if he needed me... by the time he was 2 1/2.. I knew it had to stop.

I tried everything, and the only thing that worked (in the end) was this....

For the first few nights, I layed in his bed while he was going to sleep. When he fell asleep, I would leave. When he woke up in the night, I took him right back to bed. I didn't say anything to him, but took him to bed and layed him down. Rubbed his back or something to get him to sleep.

For the next few days, I slept on the floor beside his bed. When he went to sleep, I left, when he woke up and came to get in our bed.. I took him back to his.

Every few nights I moved farther and farther from his bed. Every night I took him directly back to his room if he woke up.

It took about 3 weeks all told to get him sleeping in his own bed, and not coming in our room. But after 5 months of nothing working.. this was a blessing.

Good luck.

Answer 4

That's scary ! Start by having a bed time ritual of bath or a low key fun related to sleep ( bed time story) in his own bed. This has to be done every day for every sleep activity. You will have to sleep last, meaning after he has received comfort measures . Use your baby monitor and there will be a many tantrums so be yea warned . This is harder on you then on him. Remember when he was being potty trained this is 10 times as hard but, it can be done. So, good luck Gurll.

Answer 5

im going through the same only my son dosent care which bed he sleeps in but you can always get a night light for his room and get some gaurds from babies r us for his bed and tell him that he is sleeping like mommy and daddy and he is a big boy now. and you can check on him every now and then to see how he is doing and the more he sleeps on his own the more he will want to. just keep ur door open so that he can feel more comfortable that u are near if he needs you.

Answer 6

Keep a consistant bedtime schedual, and maybe read him a book...then tell him good night and see you in the morning.. when he gets out of bed, and everytime he gets ot of bed...calmly walk him back in his room pt him in bed.....no talking, yelling, or explanantions on why he should sleep in his own bed, he is almost 2 that means nothing to him..do this every night...it may be a long road, and you may be loosing some sleep but if you stay consistant it will work good luck

Answer 7

This worked for me and my Husband with our four year old, we put her bed in our bedroom for a few weeks so she could learn how to sleep in her own bed while still in our room, then we slowly moved her into her room by first just moving the bed frame and she slept on the mattress on the floor in our room for a few nights then we told her it was time for her to be a "big girl" and moved the mattress back to her room and she has been sleeping in her room now ever since.

Answer 8

how funny...my son, who was also a miracle baby, born with infant lung disease will also be two on halloween. the only diffe3renc is that he has been sleeping in a toddler bed for about 5 months now. my husband had gotten him into the bad habit of sleeping with him, since he was fussy at night and i worked night shift. however when i went on maternity leave with my last child, i knew he had to be broken. firt of all, we brought his bed into our room, and laid it beside our bed, so he wasnt in bed hoggiin with us, but yet close enough that if he woke up upset during the night, he would just need a reassuring "shhh". after about two weeks of this, we moved his bed into his room. he cried (and im sure yours will too) for 10 minutes or so before conking out. the important thing is to cover them, tell them goodnight, and not come back the minute you hear them crying. if you feel the need to check on him, do it without him seeing you, or he will figure out that as long as he continues to scream, you will eventually come. a big help is to get them a night time lovey. a special blanket, animal or toy, that stays in bed at all times, that they can attach to, to help calm themselves. my son uses a gloworm, and calls it his "baby". it is rough, itll take a month or so or work before bed time is downright easy, but its worth it..Good Luck!!

Answer 9

You need to reverse the role - start taking him to his bed and sleeping there for a bit and slowly once he sleeps go to your own bed, occasionally he will get up in the night and go back to your bed.
Also when you are in his room tell him how great it is compared to your 'smelly old room' he will start to appreciate his own room.
I know he is young but kids are cleverer than we think.
Good luck.

Answer 10

u need to b strong. create a time table and put him to sleep in his own bed. dont give in. super nanny tucks them in and slowly sits further and further away from the cot until shes outside the room. Each night you will get closer and closer to the door then u wont have to do it anymore. Say goodnight once and then the second time a reminder then after that dont talk to him. He will soon get the idea its time to sleep

Answer 11

well i had the same problem as you my husband works away from home and i didn't want to sleep alone so since birth my son has slept in my bed but i finally broke him from it. one night i laid him in his bed with a chair next to his bed. i sat in the chair till he feel asleep this took about 35 minutes. every time he would get up i wouldn't say anything just pick him up and put him back in his bed. evenly he feel asleep. every night i did this but slowly each night moving the chair closer and closer to the door. now i tell him it is bed time he runs to his bed covers himself i give him kisses and hugs turn on his blues clues and walk out the door closing it behind me and he goes straight to sleep no crying at all good luck to you it takes patience, and TLC.