We havent met yet, but i think he mother is unwell, she said after i send it, i can come and see her.
Sounds ok to me? what do you think gang?
2006-08-15 23:49:25 · 80 answers · asked by Anonymous in Travel ➔ Asia Pacific ➔ Thailand
It's a common dodge. Books have been written about this - and some of them quite comical. Mate, I live in Korea and visit the land of smiles from 2 to 4 times each year, and have been doing so for more than 12 years. I'm going next week myself in fact - for a week of business and pleasure in "Fun City."
Lad, I'm an old Bangkok hand and I'm here to tell you that there is no such thing as a "Thai girlfriend" - not by the traditional definition of girlfriend that is.
But understand that in her mind it's not a scam, it's a necessary way to get you to give her some money so that she can impress her folks and friends, and show them that she's doing well.
By the way, is she from up-country, like from Udon? Up-country girls are particularly adept at this bit. It's a way of life for them to have farangs sending them cash from overseas, and usually the younger neophytes and the old men are the ones that do it.
Of course they'll correspond with you and tell you everything you want hear, so as to keep the money stream flowing. I'm guessing you don't live there. How did you "meet" her? Was it a website?
You've made it clear that you haven't met face-to-face, but how often do you visit Thailand? Or, have you ever been there?
Also, exactly what do you know about her? Is she a bar girl? Does she work in Nana Plaza, Patpong, or Soi Cowboy? Or does she work in one of the newer "entertainment" districts?
Has she been to university? As far as you know, does she have any education? If she doesn't, she's a "working girl" for sure, and asking for money for her "mother's operation," or a "new cow because the old one died," or to fix her "father's tax problem," or whatever...
It's how she improves her lifestyle.
Hate to break it to you mate but she's got several more just like you that she's getting money from, and she's probably gotten pretty good about juggling all of you to keep from bumping into each other if/when you all come for a visit to see how your money fixed her problem.
Of course this may not be what you want to hear, and you may want to see yourself as her white knight. Trying to save the distressed damsel from a life of certain ruin. But the old notions of girls enslaved to brothels is hogwash.
For the most part, the girls work there willingly because it's their only hope of any glamour in their otherwise, meager, drudgery-destined lives.
In the "life," club girls are almost like celebrities, or at least celebrity wannabes. After work they group up and go to after-hours clubs for karaoke and whatnot. And sniff those ephedrine inhalors they're addicted to.
Mate, it's your life and you can do with it as you like, but if you really want some sincere advice on this, DON'T DO IT! and don't worry about losing her either. She'll stay or go and it really won't matter because to each other, both of you are easily replaceable. And that's the truth.
So go there, enjoy yourself, and spend some money, but don't fall for that old dodge. If it was a small amount, what's the harm (but even then I wouldn't do it), But the amount she's asking for is quite a bit of money.
Tell you can't but you'd like to meet and see how else you might be able to help her. See what her response is. see if she cools off or not. I'm pretty sure she will. Maybe not at first, but in pretty short order I'm sure you'll see a loss of interest on her part.
If you resist being duped, I promise you that you'll feel a whole lot better for it. I assure you that self respect is a wonderful thing. Much better than giving your hard earned money to someone who most likely has no real feelings for you.
Think about it.
2006-08-16 00:37:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tell ya what mate.
My mum is OK but I am pretty crook.
Send me the 10,000 Pounds and I will supply you with several very nice Thai girlfriends on Koh Samui.
In fact, for that much I could sell you a whole island complete with a village full of Thai girls. No joking.
Bugger that, just send me the money, ok mai?
I promise I won't rip you off ;-
2006-08-17 19:45:10 · answer #2 · answered by kcarter_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a lot of money for a women you haven't met. Why dont you ask the doctor to bill you. That way you know she has a mother , unless the bill is faked of course. I would hate for someone to not get an operation because of my advice, but thats an awful lot of money to just send someone you don't really know.
If you got that much money why dont you take a plane ride out there and see whats up in person, if its for real she probably could use the moral support and boyfriends are way more interesting when they are around.
2006-08-15 23:57:47 · answer #3 · answered by yourdoneandover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get hold of a book called "Private Dancer" - not sure of the author but I read it while I was in Thailand and then decide. It was written by a British guy who got involved with a Thai girl. He was totally ripped off several times and he still didn't get it. And HE actually knew the girl. How can you send money to someone you don't even know? They are very clever in extracting money from gullible white guys the Thai girls! And I bet she flatters you on the e-mails she sends eh?
2006-08-15 23:58:24 · answer #4 · answered by jaygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
r" - not sure of the author but I read it while I was in Thailand and then decide. It was written by a British guy who got involved with a Thai girl. He was totally ripped off several times and he still didn't get it. And HE actually knew the girl. How can you send money to someone you don't even know? They are very clever in extracting money from gullible white guys the
2014-10-03 12:03:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say bring the money with you when you go to see her, if you gives you an ultimatum like "send the money and then you can see me" it sounds like a scam. If you go over you can also see for sure that her mother is unwell and help her if you wish to do so. I wouldn't give that much money to someone I've never met, how do you know she won't just take the money and then you won't hear from her?
2006-08-15 23:56:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you having a laugh is this a joke question? Your thai girlfriend but you haven't met yet - who are you kidding..you THINK her mother is unwell? A deal? after you send it you can meet her? well pls answer these questions before you do anything stupid or have a good laugh at my answer because I took you seriously.
2006-08-16 00:00:05 · answer #7 · answered by Dan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is SOOOOO into you. I would definately send the money. Have you seen a full body shot yet? I bet she's a little Thai firecracker. Maybe she will let you come over and live with her. I'm sure it would be good to get out of your grandmothers basement. Better yet, send her 20,000. She will probably let you take her out to dinner if you ever get over there! YOU GO BRO!
2006-08-16 11:12:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really think this is genuine get her mother a ticket to the UK or another country with a free health service and get her treated there.
Also, 10k sounds like a nice round number. Just right for a scam.
PS if you haven't met then she isn't your girlfriend just some woman you know over the net/phone.
2006-08-15 23:57:51 · answer #9 · answered by John D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) do u 110% trust her?
2) do u know her very well?u haven't met her yet
3)does her mother really unwell?
4)does that money really meant for the operation? or something else
5) what if she lied to you?
my answer is definately NO! DONT
10,000 pounds is alot of money
2006-08-15 23:57:53 · answer #10 · answered by *SugaryLips* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋