My boyfriend and I rented a car over the weekend to take a road trip. We agreed to split the cost and I paid with my credit card. He also borrowed money to take his brother out who was visiting from out of town. I think I offended him when I asked for my money. Should I apologize?
2006-08-15 22:34:43 · 30 answers · asked by greatgurl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, make him pay you back...
2006-08-15 22:50:01 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell to the no. He made a agreement with you. This is a trust issue about money. He should not be going any where if he is broke. You as a girlfriend should not have footed his bill.
I would have told my brother to come some other time. About the rental car, where did you go with the broke boyfriend to?
The cheapest thing that you could have done all weekend is stay at home and enjoyed each other's company. Make a meal out the fridge, enjoy something on the TV, and have some sex with each other. This is what me and my girlfriend do when were broke.
During the week if we are broke, non-pay week, we have sex and enjoy each other. Hell, we work all day, why not play at night. That's always fun.
2006-08-16 05:48:55 · answer #2 · answered by lhm1968 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It was a loan. The simple rule of owing is , one has to return what was borrowed. There is no need to apologise to him, instead he should. He is being a petty and immature. You have every right to ask. Perhaps wait for a little while, then ask him again. You may ask him if he is having difficulties in repaying you. And if so, ask him time period as to when he can return you back the cash, tell him you short with cash too.
2006-08-16 05:45:57 · answer #3 · answered by Sap 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope. I have been with these types of guys- they just use you. If he is gonna keep doing it, and making you feel bad when you ask for it back, then you will need to move on. I was with a guy who I lent money for everything- I never got a significant amount back.. Now I am with a self sufficient guy who doesnt need my money to take care of him. Us women always feel bad if we hurt peoples feelings- they dont care, so why should we?? Tell him you need that money, you spent money on him that you needed to spend elsewhere (bills or whatever) and that u will need it back asap. Don't let him take advantage of you any more, I have been there and it sucks.
2006-08-16 06:03:22 · answer #4 · answered by sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way baby,it isnt a problem at all,and if ur BF realy is offended im sorry to say that he has to grow up,see its just normal for ppl to need money and when u need it ul definetly ask ppl whom u lentit to b4,just put urself in his position,should have u borrowed from him money and he needed it and asked u for it would u feel bad,I DONT THINK SO,just forget the whole issue,be happy and if ur BF still acts strange talk to him about it,but i realy think that aint neccesary...
2006-08-16 05:42:23 · answer #5 · answered by nice guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO "neither a lender nor a borrower be" an old saying that sure is true, it's the fastest way to break up a friendship.....get your money back and don't lend him any more if he's going to be like that.
2006-08-16 05:40:29 · answer #6 · answered by lyndles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If he was a real man, he would repay every single nickle he bummed off of you without complaints. Has he put a ring on your finger yet? Your money isn't marital assets yet, so he should pay up. You shouldn't put yourself in a fanancial difficulty because he and his brother have no money to go out and party.
2006-08-16 05:40:16 · answer #7 · answered by davester1970 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it's a relationship, it's supposed to be a give and take, you held up your end of the deal, he should do the same. Just remember, next time you go half and he pays, return the favor.
2006-08-16 05:52:50 · answer #8 · answered by Bayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not, especially if it was an agreement between you both before you rented the car. Don't feel guilty, just be firm and stick to your guns.
2006-08-16 05:40:07 · answer #9 · answered by Leigh S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely not...the two of you had an agreement. he needs to own up to his part of that agreement. money and friendship are difficult things to mix because you dont wanna hurt feelings but at the same time you dont want to be walked all over either.
2006-08-16 05:42:50 · answer #10 · answered by stephyr25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't apologize. If he agreed he should pay and do so without having you ask. If he is offended he is freeloading.
2006-08-16 05:40:01 · answer #11 · answered by onedone2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋