hey girlfriends, i need your help!!!?

Question

i have this friend, we've been friends since highschool. I've known her for almost 9 years already. Recently, she found out that her live-in boyfriend is cheating on her. And that made her very insecure, most of the time. I tried comforting her the best way I could. However, i noticed whenever i bring her along with me and my boyfriend, she constantly flirts with him, and it irritates me. I tried to understand her since she's in a very bad relationship, but I'm afraid I'm starting to lose my patience. What will I do?

Answer 1

First of all, I think its great that you are supporting her and being her friend. With that said, I don't think she's being the friend especially if she's flurting with your boyfriend. I understand about her feelings of insecurity, but she shouldn't try to test out her "attractions" on your boyfriend, that's very disrespectful.
I suggest that the next time she do it, take mental notes of everything she did that irritated you. Once you both are out of the presence of your boyfriend, have a nice little one-on-one chat with your friend. You don't have to be mean, but tell her what she's doing is making you feel uncomfortable and that if she doesn't stop, you have no choice but to exclude her when you and your boyfriend go out. Also, if she tries to act innocent and ask you what did she do, that's when you bring up everything that you observed. The key here is to be nice while you are talking to her. People respond so much better when you are nice versus jumping down her throat.
Also, the next time all three of you go out, ask your boyfriend to bring a male friend for her. It doesn't have to be the start of a relationship, but it will help in keeping her attention away from your boyfriend.

Answer 2

You should talk with her...tell her what she's doing...she might not even realize it...I know that's hard to believe but...sometimes when ppl are hurt they react in ways they normally wouldn't...being cheated on makes one feel unworthy...flirting and getting attention justifies them as a person...it's sad, but it's true...

Answer 3

i think this sort of situation is typical..your friend is filirting with your man because she is jealous of what u and your boifriend has, so she wants to mess you guys up. my best advice would b to either confront her about it, or stop bringing her around your man. jus have girls night out, in which u can help her find a new boifriend.

Answer 4

just avoid her or just ask her not 2 b flirty with ur b.f. & not 2 irritate u or what do u feel about her tell her strightforward not 2 intefior in ur any of d matters.