Do children miss out when both parents work full time and they are raised in nurseries?

Answer 1

yes actually they do. children need to know that theyre parents love them and can teach them things that schools etc wouldnt teach them , plus they want to have good memories of their parents and everything . a child spending all day in school or nurseries and then comes home to the parents only to be put down to bed usually ends up resenting the parents because the child feels they are not good enough for their parents to love them...at least from what ive known anyways.

Answer 2

If you need to work full time then i would stop beating yourself up about it, you are working to give your children what they need. I have worked in nurseries for years and i honestly dont think it does them any lasting damage. It would be nice if they could stay at home a little but sometimes its just not possible. I think as long as you make the most of the time you have together as a family then it doesnt matter. Children raised in nurseries have the advantage of being very sociable and confident, they have no problems mixing when its time to start school and a good nursery will ensure that they have all there educational and emotional needs met. Dont worry about what you cant change, take care xx

Answer 3

I do think they miss out, although they are learning alot at nursery they are missing out on family time! Parents are tired with being out at work all day and dont have as much energy to fullfill playtime with the kids! Also the parents could miss those all important 1st's. I know these people have to make a living aswell, but cutting hours down is a good choice then they can have some quality time together.

Answer 4

This was the case with my little girl. I had to put her into nursery at 8weeks old as i was a single parent and had no other form of income, bills to pay etc.
I researched all the local nurseries and found one i was happy with, she was there until she started school nursery at age 3 and a half. (this cost over a hundred pound per week)
When my daughter went to school nursery she was way ahead academically of all the other children, she had better social skills just overall was very clever and stimulated.
She also had the added bonus that the time spent with me in the early years was always quality time and i had the funds to provide nice things such as holidays and a higher standard of living than that of someone on social security.
I don't feel that my daughter missed out on anything, in fact she benefited in the long run. Yes it would have been nice to be a stay at home mum, but financial problems would not allow it and i wanted to give my daughter the best start in life.

Answer 5

The life the children have with their parents are precious.So, i am sure they would miss out both the parents. I don't know how the life is , 4 a child whom grows up in a nursery but i am sure the child would be independent. But, the answer "NO" will be hard 4 the child to understand.

Answer 6

No, children who go to nurseries and creches learn social skills. They learn about sharing and often develop faster as they learn from their piers. As long as you spend time with them when you get home. Run in the garden for 15 min or kick a ball for 10 min, talk and ask them about their day or sit with them while they are bathing and discuss your day with them. Read them a story at bed time. This sounds like a lot of work but it will only probably amount to half an hour out of your time in the evening.

I was a nursery school teacher and children who came into the Nursery from a young age were more confident than those who had never been to nursery. They were better behaved too, when there is structure they seem more secure. Children who had never been and came in at a later stage would run riot in the class and it would take weeks before they calmed down and settled into the routine. parents would comment later that they found he/she was much calmer and more excited to share things with them in the evenings.

Answer 7

I would say yes they miss out on parents, but they can have a whole load of fun experiences while there. Personally i think fulltime of both parents is rather excessive they must hardly see them. My son goes 3 afternoon sessions he has learned loads, mixes well with children, and i sometimes resent that time away from him, but in the longterm the playdough/paint aren't on my carpet! But had my son to enjoy him spend time with him full time for both too much! Plus my husband who's 33 hates the fact he was brought up by others as his parents, always at work-he always says school hols worsed.

Answer 8

Yes, parent and child misses out I think.

What in the world is better than raising your own child? Nothing. If you can afford not to go back to work then don't. Even if it means cutting back. We stayed in a small house when my son was born even though we could have afforded to move but staying meant we would be comfortable on my hubby's wage and I could stay at home. He is 10 months now and I have started working saturday mornings (when hubby is home) in my local library but thats cos its something I have always wanted to do and when he's back at school I can go part time with no stress.

Children need their parents. Its as simple as that. And a nursery nurse is no substitute for knowing your mum is going to be there to pick you up when you fall and make it all better. We need to make children feel secure (which isn't the same as molly-coddling them) when they are young so they have the confidence to go out there and be decent people.

Stay at home if you can.

Answer 9

i don't think so as long as when both parents come home and spent time with their children and nurture them. Parents who do this are working for the children's future paying their way. people judge parents who but there children in nurseries and they judge parents who sit at home all day sponging of the tax payers so you can't win, and you shouldn't want to. Do what is best for your family. i don't have the choice my hubby works full time i have to stay at home as my 3 children are not old enough to go to full-time nursery/school yet. As soon as they are i will go to work and i will be giving my children the best of both worlds, when i come home I'll help them with their homework, ask how their day went all the things you should do, plus I'll be earning money to raise my children better. Sorry for going on but this is a sensitive question.

Answer 10

i think you should be at home for the first five years at least,you have the child you should look after it, I'm not being cruel im a child minder ,and love every moment of it, but you as a mother miss out so much,i am a good childminder there arnt many about, at least a child learns about home life if they go to a child minder but a nurseries they are so clinical,people of today wont give up anything to be at home with their children like mothers use to do. they want two cars big homes and let others look after there children its very sad.

Answer 11

Both my husband and I work full-time. We do not have an option as to whether or not we both work - paying for the mortgage precludes that. My daughter is in daycare with a childminder she absolutely adores. She is extremely happy and I carried on breastfeeding her for a long time after I returned to work. I'm very fortunate because my child minder is only ten minutes away from work. I've always been able to find time during the day to go and see her. We always make weekends very special. I don't need to do any cleaning or other domestic chores so we can concentrate on her.

She is a very loving and settled child, who was recently assessed as being ahead of her peer group in language and cognitive skills, so I completely disagree with the comment above on lowered IQ etc.

I have a few friends who have stayed at home full time and to be frank, they have admitted to me that they spend so much time doing chores etc that they really don't necessarily spend more "quality" time with their children than I do.

I refuse to be made to feel guilty by those who are fortunate enough to make the choice to stay at home with their children. I absolutely adore my child and if I even thought for a moment that she was being damaged in anyway I would find some way of staying at home with her, even if it meant losing the house. As it happens, she is happy and well balanced.