my boyfriend constantly asks questions everytime i go out with my girlfriends. Sometimes he even surprise me by whenever I'm out with my friends. Is this normal?
2006-08-15 22:08:06 · 16 answers · asked by jen_good girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some of both. Some insecurity by him. If youre not doing anything to harm the relationship...smile and be happy he wants to be near you and have him join you and your friends.
2006-08-15 22:16:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi.
I would say that he really loves you that's why he is behaving in such a way. Jealousy forms part of love. He may also be behaving in such a way due to the fact that he is afraid to lose you. It's just that he is feeling insecure. This doesn't mean that he doesn't trust you. Me and my fiance are together for 3 yrs and 8 months. I always ask him where he is going, with whom and so on. It's not because i don't trust him. The only reason is that because i love him a lot. My bf also surprise me very often. Till now he has never inform me whenever he comes to fetch me from work. And i like that. It's good to get such pleasant surprises. He even told me that his surprises will go on even after we get married. I would advice you to never leave your bf. You are lucky to have such a nice bf. Wish you all the best.
2006-08-15 22:20:07 · answer #2 · answered by mehnaazishaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say both. Although this "love" might turn into an unhealthy, controlling relationship where he is mentally if not physically abusive.
This is NOT normal. My boyfriend of 4 years didn't care if I crashed over at my guy friend's house. Practically all my friends are guys. And my boyfriend drank with female friends in the pubs all the time...I didn't really mind.
2006-08-15 22:15:02 · answer #3 · answered by Wanker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is insecure and has a lot of inner fear. He probably feels that you will leave him or meet somebody better. He might not think that he is good enough in looks, his job, his house, his car, education, etc.
He might need counseling and you will have to constantly reassure him that you aren't going to fool around on him or backstab him. If he cannot man up and believe you, then you might have to break up. Because if he keeps on acting that way, that's what he really wants.
2006-08-15 22:14:28 · answer #4 · answered by grrandram 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think your boyfriend is a little controlling, jealous, curious, lacking in trust and loves you. It's a combination of all those factors. At some point you're gonna find it annoying and suffocating.
2006-08-15 22:14:56 · answer #5 · answered by Tony 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 03:50:38 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has trust issues that he needs to acknowledge,,,if he turns up when you are with friends just to check on you,,well,,that needs to go right away.make it clear you have no intentions of doing anything other than what you have said you will be doing and leave it at that,,if you allow him to do this to you he will just assume its ok and he wont give it a second thought,,tell him to stop,tell him you will not be babysat and that if he carries on it will destroy anything you have.his choice,he can trust,he just has to learn.
2006-08-15 22:14:56 · answer #7 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, he has trust issues. Probably from a prevoius relationship. You can't heal this in him, he has to do it himself....don't waste 15 yrs like I did toots!
2006-08-15 22:14:34 · answer #8 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow if he is always surprising you i don't think it's good at all because he is maybe stalking you or don't trust you i personally don't think he is up to no good. but i totally think you should get some one elses point of view.****
2006-08-15 22:17:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Pamm D! This is NOT NORMAL.
He is a control freak, and it will only get worse.
Seriously, slowly back away from that guy and start RUNNING!
2006-08-15 22:14:21 · answer #10 · answered by ARTiculate 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋