he is 29 i'm 20, i'm to get married by 23, i dont know whether i'm secured with him yet i love him i'd like to settle down with him, i'm so confused. yet he said he loves me, but i dont think he wants to settle down in the next 5yrs what do i do?
2006-08-15 22:04:46 · 13 answers · asked by write2solape 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like this man cannot give you what you need. You have two choices, change what you want or leave him and find someone who can give you what you want, namely a solid commitment.
What you choose to do is up to you but you will never change the man so don't even try.
2006-08-15 23:47:26 · answer #1 · answered by Fluorescent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just enjoy the relationship whilst it lasts.
It may work or it may not but don't be so rigid on when you want to be married.
I can understand that you have an ideal 'life plan' but things dont always work out that way.
Ithought I'd be married by 23, first child at 25 etc.
I'm now 29 and have neither been married or had children!
If he doesn't want to settle down in the next 5yrs that only makes you 25 when and if he does!
If youre so intent on getting married by 23, i suggest you move on now because hes been very honest with you.
Good luck!
2006-08-15 22:14:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there some law that says you need to get married by 23? Don't put a time limit on finding your soul-mate or you will find yourself in a dead end relationship and divorced. If you are ready to settle down why not find someone who shares your feelings and see where it goes. Don't get into a relationship and then decide you want something and not talk to him about it.Either he does or does'nt but if you can't communicate with each other ther are problems already.
2006-08-15 22:13:50 · answer #3 · answered by onedone2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I you are willing to wait just wait.. Just enjoy and have time to yourself for the meantime you are too young to settle down.. there are so many opportunities out there that may come.. Enjoy being single because when you settle down you cannot do whatever you want that you think, there is limitations because not only you will decide but of coarse you must consider your partner. Have a happy life.
2006-08-15 22:11:09 · answer #4 · answered by Sweetbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie im 20 as well ive no notion of marriage before 26 what is your hurry.......if you werent ready he'd wait for you(if he loved you) if you truely love him you'll wait for him......
i dont know why you wanna be tied to marriage at such a young age im with my bf 2 and a half years love him to bits and yes i do wanna marry him SOME DAY not in the next few years though....he is amazing and im sure you love your bf enough to wait....if not then maybe you dont love him as much as you think and that you love the idea of being married rather that to whom you get married .....slow down sweetie take it easy you have so much time for that. go out and have fun
Hope all work out for you
Rosa
2006-08-15 22:31:12 · answer #5 · answered by rosa_govan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the romance is not satisfying then start looking for other options. Sit down and have a good talk with him. Put your cards on the table and read between the lines at what he says. Don't let him forever jerk you around. If his desires are the opposite of yours...move on.
2006-08-15 22:13:25 · answer #6 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi.
Maybe he is not financially stable that's why he is not ready to get married. It may also be that he wants to know you better before getting indulge in a relationship. Have a serious conversation with him. It's the only way out. Wish you all the best.
2006-08-15 22:11:16 · answer #7 · answered by mehnaazishaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy your life and let this idea of getting married be put on the back burner. Trust me when I say you've got loads of time and life ahead of you. Again, enjoy your life!
2006-08-15 22:09:22 · answer #8 · answered by snowfoxx71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup........slow down babe. 23 is awfully young for marriage. Nothing wrong with test driving different models for a few years and till you finally committ.
Viking xxx
2006-08-15 22:12:09 · answer #9 · answered by Viking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what rule book says you have to get married by 23....slow down girl you got a lota years to go.
2006-08-15 22:09:40 · answer #10 · answered by lyndles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋