There is this girl who has been a good friend...she works with me...one of my friends told me that if you love a girl, make her feel special...I started making sure while I am around she shouldn't have to worry...I was always there to support her...I would wait for her at lunch...but lately I felt she was not comfortable....I aksed her and she wrote me an e-mail that "give me some space...one can not be in mood to talk, joke or party all the time...there is some problem which i wan to solve at my end and dont want to discuss..."
I wrote back..."That I inderstant that sometimes I crossed my limits. And that I will not interfere in her work, crack jokes or sms her any more...be happy"
To which she replied "Thanks for understanding.."
2006-08-15 21:56:52 · 19 answers · asked by Arnie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Three days later I wrote her an e-mail.."are you haapy with the space you demanded and I peovided yuo with? Though I am not happy. But I woud never do anything that makes you uncomfortable."
she said "i never demanded this kinda space, this is more unconfortabel. why u cant be normal...either too much of emotion or nothing.do u want this to go on?"
I replied" does it matter what I want..but its beyond my understanding wht my limits or rights are, whenever I try to get close to ppl they throw me out.I want u to be happy"
She: "I also want u shud be happy but why extreme..."
Afther that also I maintained the distance..giving her space. Then she asked me too see her story. I saw and praised. But sent no SMS or mails as promised.
Then on Sunday after noon I received a message from her .."there are some wonderful pairs in the world. heart & beats. night & moon. birds & songs. roses & love. fish & water.my msg & ur smile."
Now what does that mean? I am so confused....what shud I do...?
2006-08-15 21:57:16 · update #1
She refused :(
2006-08-22 03:24:06 · update #2
Sweety she is a basket case and indecisive........now that you have left her alone she wants you, when you give her attention she will want space, see the pattern?
2006-08-15 22:02:17 · answer #1 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi.
I think that she has now realise that she has some feelings for you as well. It's good that you have agreed to give her some space. It's said that whenever you give someone too much importance the latter don't realise your worth. It's only when you are away from her and she starts missing you that she will realise how much you mean to her. It may be that she was unable to take a decision earlier. I would advice you to go and propose to her directly. Invite her for a dinner and talk about your feelings. It's better for you to have a serious conversation with her in order to know how she really feels about you. Wish you all the best.
2006-08-16 05:07:22 · answer #2 · answered by mehnaazishaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to learn to be detached form any result you would like to have. Only then you will not suffer emotional anxiety nor you will lament for the loss. Yes, and to be equal in the causes of happiness and distress will give you always peace. Without peace there is no real happiness.
To be eqipoised please, chant Hare Krishna and be happy.
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2006-08-16 05:08:02 · answer #3 · answered by Nitai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this depends on what type of love. Do u love like sis or more. Either way b u and ell her how u feel.Im a guy and i learned honesty pays off, just think about what u will say first but dont make it sound scripted
2006-08-16 05:05:39 · answer #4 · answered by wombizzle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well personally, i dont think she likes u the way u like her..when she says give her space she wants u to act normal, the way u acted before u started showin that u like her. when u gave her the space she requested, u gave her too much space and u basically started ignoring her. she didnt want that, she wanted u to act friendly towards her, like normail co workers. as for the last message she sent u, i think she was sending that to b nice. she doesnt want to hurt your feelings and she knows that recieving a text message from her would make u happy. she just wants to b your friend.
2006-08-16 05:07:06 · answer #5 · answered by babygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not sure of what she wants - she wants the attention and does not want it too. That is how women are.
You will need to maintain your distance for a while for her to realise what she is missing. You already have had a taste of it.
Then turn your charms back on
Good luck
2006-08-16 05:07:23 · answer #6 · answered by panacea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she love you too but doesn't want to get serious relationship yet until she ensure her self about her feeling or about you...that's why she doesn't want you to be overreact (according to her) she doesn't want you to be upset when you will not get what you are wish to be.
But inside her heart she miss your actions too which you have stop them, those are make her feel worthfull to somebody.
I think you just let her know your feeling and tell her that you love her and if she feel unconvinience with your actions you can stop them but don't ask you to stop your feeling to her...then someday soon she will accept you.
Good Luck
2006-08-16 05:08:18 · answer #7 · answered by Fie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd give her space..Its not what you want to hear, but if she see's that your the one she'll come back, and if not then fine..but dont wait around....also I wouldnt go out and find someone new just to try and get her back..
2006-08-16 05:02:42 · answer #8 · answered by unitylife3105 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your trying to make everything perfect, stop worrying about every little thing and just go with the flow. Act as you did before your friend gave you the advice..
2006-08-16 05:02:17 · answer #9 · answered by j@mE$ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drama King and Drama Queen is another pair.
2006-08-16 05:07:04 · answer #10 · answered by lhm1968 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋