on the new year eve one of my friend went to her grandma's place.at night she had a little rum and then was not in her senses.at night one of her cousin forced her to have *** wid her.as she was not in her senses she ,she was not able to do anything when he did so.now whenever she goes to live wid her grandma then her cousin tries to convince her to have it again.once she slapped him ,then he became rash wid her and pulled her and gave her a sm**ch.i told her not to go to her granny's place but she told me that she couldnt avoid it.also she cant tell her mother or anyone in the family as the boy threatens her.its the same story every time.plz help .wat shld she do.also she feels guilty abt it and is very depressed.
2006-08-15 21:41:01 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she needs to be convinced to understand that it was NOT her fault at any point!
Next important step should be,she should trust her mom in this,mother is someone,who'll never ever misunderstand her...and mothers can always know when their child is true and genuinly needs help.
She should in no case give into her cousin's desires anymore under any circumstances,he is trying to take advantage of her...and feels to be dominating her by threatening her.
convince her,that he won't dare show his face to the family once your friend's mother shall confront her!
make her feel confident and to realise her self esteem...that she is innocent,should confide in her mom and need not be scared of her nasty cousin.
good luck!
2006-08-15 21:48:19 · answer #1 · answered by opinion 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her speak to someone other than a family member. Like the school teacher, school psychologist, somebody that she knows that will do something and trusts. Of if she is brave enough go with her to the police to lay a rape charge on this guy. Sit her down and look at solutions together for this problem and the best thing you can do for her is to be there for her. Even when the going gets tough. So go and speack together to somebody that you guys can trust and be sure to let me know how it goes. Best of luck amigo.
2006-08-15 21:49:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what happened is aweful to her I am sure. What she needs to do is only go to her grandma's place during the day and not spend the nights there, and if she could go there with a friend it is even better, She should never be alone with that bastard, if he keeps threatening her she should tell her mom, she should have a talk with her mom.
2006-08-15 22:07:31 · answer #3 · answered by rabb b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i also agree that she should avoid goin to her grandma's house...but if she absolutely cant help but to go there then she should tell somebody....if its bothering her that bad, then she needs to let somebody in the family know so that a stop can be put to this. they are family and thats disgusting! if she doesnt tell somebody then u need to be the bigger person and do it. it might cause some drama within the family but she'll thank u for it later and im sure this is something the family would want to know is goin on.
2006-08-15 21:55:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your problem, no!!!!
never the less, whose ever problem it is I found everyone giving correct guidance.
well, in addition to all that, have little fun in telling the guy that he should get his Elisa or western blot test carried out for HIV/AIDS since the other guy (imaginary if there is none) this girl is seeing around has been tested positive. Make the story absolutely authentic. Tell that even she would like to get tested.
See if the colour of the face changes.
More tricks are available. Not offering them since I do not know whether you/your friend can really execute them!!!!
2006-08-18 07:23:09 · answer #5 · answered by how do i know 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he in all probability won a click with you. with out observe he basically has that particular want. do no longer difficulty particularly much each and every thing that has to do with men could be complicated. yet quickly you might have the prospect to tell him this. now and back females do in comparison to a guy yet day after today they love em. properly it occurs with men yet possibly there is a few thing in you he has basically considered. howdy my men top next to me and does not comprehend I nevertheless love him. properly he can be extremely complicated and makes me perplexed yet deep down I nevertheless have a great hobby for him. basically tell him the way you experience. and forget approximately approximately him for awhile. he gets the image.
2016-11-04 22:19:04 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well let her tell her mom whts going no and if she can't let her stop going to her gradma.anytime she feel like seeing her she should make sure dat her stupid so call cousin is not around.but i think the best way for her is to tell her mom abt it,the guy can't do nothin to her his only threaten her not to cos he enjoy doing it wth her.let her tell her mom or grandma and see wht will happen next.GUD LUCK
2006-08-15 21:51:47 · answer #7 · answered by shebaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Friend HAVE to Tell her Mother & Grandma
2006-08-15 21:51:56 · answer #8 · answered by Joanne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell Ur friend,
to kick that cousins ***hole
if he tries to blackmail her then, she should remember that. it was her cousins mistake- in fact she should blackmail her cousin
tell her not to worry- and tell her to tell her cousin that- if he tries such things again then- she is goin to inform her parents
or else - live like a Coward whole life
that's it
no other point
cause, Ur friends mistake is also there
2006-08-15 21:50:34 · answer #9 · answered by jay Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur frnd shld not b guilty as she has not done nythin rong.she shld threaten her cousin dat if he misbehaves den she wld tel evryone about him.mayb he gets scared.den its her wish 2 tel it 2 nyone or not.jus tel her 2 blackmail him
2006-08-15 23:32:30 · answer #10 · answered by crazygal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋